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Pay For Another's Baby

About a year and a half ago, my wife cheated on me and got pregnant with another man's baby. Needless to say we got divorced. Now, she is trying to make me pay child support for this child that is not mine. Can she legally do this?

Moderator - Only if she can prove it's your child. However, that is a question for a family attorney.

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"Joseph raised Jesus"
john
Not anywhere near the same, John.
---Elder on 6/12/13


The US has very strange laws, which change from state to state.

from my (basic) understanding, if you moved the divorce BEFORE the baby was born, there are very few states where she can do anything, and even there she cannot do much.

However, a trip to an attorney would be a good idea

In the US, of course, the national game is no longer baseball - it is 'who can sue the other person for the most money' - and that includes child support (actually, it includes EVERYTHING)
---Peter9556 on 6/11/13


Oddly, in some States if you started caring for another child from birth, the Judge can make you continue.

I think it isn't fair, but that's how it goes.

My sister wasn't divorce, but separated when she gave birth to another man's child.
The State of Georgia would not allow my sister and the father of the 2nd child to have his last name.
The 2nd child had my sister's separated husband's last name on the birth cert.

Crazy

My niece had to legally change her sir name into her father name when she was older.
---Nikki on 5/25/13


Numbers 5:29 This [is] the law of jealousies, when a wife goeth aside [to another] instead of her husband, and is defiled,

You cannot be made to pay for another mans baby, nor should you wife have to carry that baby
---francis on 5/17/13


If you were in the U.K. and if you, originally, decided to bring up this child as your own (and changed your mind at a later date and divorced) then there is a strong likelihood that your wife could claim child support from you but not if you never began to bring it up as your own.

Laws will be different where you are I'm sure and will probably differ from state to state so you need legal advice a.s.a.p. in my opinion.
---Rita_H on 5/13/13




" this is not about raising another child. it is about child support."
---aka on 1/8/13

It may be about that too as well as the laws of the state. For example, in Michigan (the web link search I provided below):
"A non-biological father may be responsible for child support if he acted as the childs father. This is called the equitable parent doctrine.
For example, a man who knowingly marries a pregnant woman and assumes the status of the childs father, even though he is not, may be prevented from denying paternity."
---Nana on 1/9/13


this is not about raising another child. it is about child support.
---aka on 1/8/13


Joseph raised Jesus
---john on 1/8/13


THE REASON A LAWYER IS NEEDED IS THAT EACH STATE'S LAWS DIFFER!!!! YES, I AM YELLING!!!!! I know lots of men who have raised other men's babies to be their own and done a great job of doing it.
---KarenD on 1/8/13


Remember what the Bible says about sitting in the counsel of the ungodly?

so true!

as for legal counsel why waste money on a lawyer when he has probably already invested a large sum of money on lawyers and other legal fees etc through the process of divorce?

The women is harassing him and attempting to extort money from him by threatening to make him pay child support.

Now it's his turn to demand a paternity test, lawyers not required and most likely she will disappear.

If she refuses paternity testing or if the baby is proven by paternity test to not be this mans child, and the women is foolish enough to pursue him for child support when he is not the father, then he would need a lawyer.
---Follower_of_Christ on 1/7/13




Jim, I am with the moderator, get an attorney. You don't need a doctor or a counselor, but some legal help. Learn what are you options.
---Mark_V. on 1/7/13


Jed: To each his own. You are free to give your advice. I am free to give mine. Neither is wrong.
---Trish on 1/6/13


Trish, if everyone who ever went through a traumatic experience sought therapy, we would all be in therapy. Some people are emotionally and mentally stable enough to deal with these issues on their own. Most counselors actually make matters worse by giving secular, humanistic, unbiblical counsel. Remember what the Bible says about sitting in the counsel of the ungodly? If you're going to recommend counseling for someone, I would recommend they talk to a pastor perhaps. Although there is nothing that suggests Jim needs or would benefit from counseling at all.
---Jed on 1/6/13


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---Nana on 1/6/13


Jed: Jim is totally justified in not wanting to pay child support if the child isn't his. My concern, and suggestion for counseling stems from a combination of factors. First, I'm sure he has unresolved feelings from the betrayal and break-up of his marriage. Second, if I found out that my husband had group sex, and fathered a child, I'd want help exploring what is there in me that I would choose to marry such a person. Finally, I happen to believe that after a marriage ends in divorce, a person would benefit from exploring their role in the marriage and break-up. That is not saying he's at fault for her behavior. It's meant to prevent future problems in future relationships.
---Trish on 1/6/13


Trish, what makes you think Jim needs counseling or therapy? Is it unhealthy to not want to pay child support for a child that is not yours? He has shown no signs of being emotionally or mentally unstable. Or do you just think everyone needs counseling and therapy?
---Jed on 1/6/13


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Keep setting appointments with lots of proof she was provided date and time and proof from Dr's office she didn't show up.

In all likelihood she will eventually go away and you will have saved yourself legal fees.
---Follower_of_Christ on 1/5/13

that is good.
---aka on 1/5/13


Jim: It's obvious you are hurt and angry about your wife's infidelity. Instead of coming here for advice, I strongly suggest that you get a DNA test, get a lawyer, and get some individual counseling or therapy.
---Trish on 1/5/13


Marriage today is under fire from gays, religion, politics, and even from within. Temptation is everywhere. Many marry and suffer consequences of choosing a poor marriage partner years later.

Unfortunate you are saddled with sin of your wife, however rather than seek legal counsel demand a paternity test from your ex-wife. Set up an appointment with your Doctor or medical center to have this completed and demand your ex wife bring along this child to prove it is yours. She won't.

Keep setting appointments with lots of proof she was provided date and time and proof from Dr's office she didn't show up.

In all likelihood she will eventually go away and you will have saved yourself legal fees.
---Follower_of_Christ on 1/5/13


NA NA: Thanks for the dig. You really are a sick little man, aren't you?



---jerry6593 on 1/5/13


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"Is this a thread on a Christian blog or an episode of the Jerry Springer Show?"

No true help or hope can be found on the Jerry Springer show, but many seek help wherever. Perhaps here Truth may be made known. is this not a hope and purpose in being here?
---chria9396 on 1/5/13


Is this a thread on a Christian blog or an episode of the Jerry Springer Show?

Happy New Year!

Christ is born! Glorify Him!
---Cluny on 1/4/13


Jim...This question of yours is becoming nothing more than a gossip session now. DNA time!!!!!
---KarenD on 1/4/13


Bro.jim.you are under such pressure. What the brother says could be true! You never lknow , ELENA. will put special prayer for you, but not your name. God is pn your side. This is similar in a way to my own daughter try. With her husband to slander, steal my money & also, her dad's money / veteran who.Fought 2 wars for USA
.evil never wins! God got your back! I am so sorry, someone could be so callous! The bible is truth. God will fight for you! Love of Jesus!
---ELENA on 1/4/13


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Another case of it's your money and i want it now. money never satisfies especially when you have lots of it. Talk to an attorney and what type of settlements about the child was arranged in divorce. Jim also be careful what you put on the internet because they can find it and use it against you.
---Scott1 on 1/4/13


Nana, what is your problem? I have not even commented on this blog and you already start with your attacks on me? Get a life.
---Jed on 1/4/13


For those thinking that my ex-wife may have purposely got pregnant in an affair to get welfare, I can tell you that is not the case. We have never been on welfare, and since the affair she now lives with one of the black men she had the 4-way with who is a widely-known and very successful R & B recording artists. So I am quite sure they do not qualify to receive welfare, unless they are now giving welfare to millionaires? Who knows these days? Anyways, He is quite possibly the actual father of the baby. But they are demanding child support from me and my salary is nothing compared to what he makes, and the baby isn't even mine.
---Jim on 1/4/13


Since Jim says, "It's obvious the child is not mine as we are both white and the child is black."

and,

"Now, she is trying to make me pay child support for this child that is not mine."

It should be clear to the authority she is appealing to that you should not pay right...?
Of course you could come back saying that she is appealing to the 'Democrats' and therefore you'll be forced to pay. Certainly then you'll get support from jed and jerry on the spot.
---Nana on 1/4/13


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karen, I know some on welfare that are too lazy to do anything...even too lazy to clean a house even tho she is home all day. I know one who is on drugs and she got welfare. I know an alcoholic man who is on disability. he gets drugs from V.A. welfare enables people not to work. they are slaves to the government. slaves do still exist. I know they say jobs are scarce but everytime I look in the paper, there are two pages of jobs.
---shira4368 on 1/4/13


Cluny....I know several women who have had many children in order to stay on welfare. One of them is my own sister who had ten kids who are now all grown.
---KarenD on 1/4/13


In some states a baby that is born to a married woman is legally her husbands baby. Time for DNA.
---KarenD on 1/3/13


Bro.Jim, know some about that If your name on birthcertificate/ true DNA will clear up any doubt! worth it especially, if baby not yours. Like aka believe said courts clear it all up.would. I will pray for you because I sympathieze.Depending on the state you in..if she had baby while you was still married.
Some states will hold you ?? Possibly as legal if you two are NOT yet, divorce. However once proof child not yours biologically, the referee can ( by your lawyer peticion) all funds must be returned within a set time.then you are no longer liable.
May God bless you!
---ELENA on 1/3/13


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willie c:, I do not believe my ex-wife and I could ever be reconciled. There also has been no paternity test. It's obvious the child is not mine as we are both white and the child is black. After the birth of the child she confessed to cheating on me with three black men at the same time. And quite frankly, no one knows for sure who the daddy is. But I think it's safe to say it's not me since two completely white people cannot have a black child and the three other men she was with were all black.
---Jim on 1/3/13


\\I have been told that certain women on welfare keep having babies on purpose so they get the money for their children and they can use it for themselves.\\

There is a wide-spread rumor to this effect, but no specific case has ever been proven.

There is no system that cannot be gotten around if someone is really determined to get around it, but by and large, most people on welfare need it.

Happy New Year!

Christ is born! Glorify Him!
---Cluny on 1/3/13


I have been told that certain women on welfare keep having babies on purpose so they get the money for their children and they can use it for themselves. So, I suppose . . . may be . . . she didn't get him to give her money, so now she's trying this on you.

But . . . if we are Christians . . . first we care about the baby! (c:

baby baby baby!

And where are you two at, really? You can turn a wrong to your advantage, however God's love creates. The Holy Spirit is the "Spirit of adoption", we have in Romans 8:15. We have been adopted, we were not exactly desirable and it was our own fault.
---willie_c: on 1/3/13


the name on the birth certificate is the driver. however, proofs such as dna tests can overturn that.

court orders of support from the past are hard to overturn. act quickly.
---aka on 1/3/13


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