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Spouse Just Died

I just lost my 47 year old husband two months ago. I feel hopeless. Help!

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 ---tracey on 1/12/13
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tracey: May the good Lord console and strengthen you. May God in His own wisdom help you to fill the void created by his transition in Jesus' name.
---Adetunji on 1/18/13

You will never get over the pain, over time it will become less painful. I do have a suggestion: get involved with other christians. The more you think of others, the less you'll think about your pain. Do an online KJV bible search for the words "one another", "each other", "comfort", and encourag" to begin your travel down the road to a more fulfilling life for Christ. And, who knows (except God, of course) maybe you'll find someone to fill that void.
---Steveng on 1/17/13

Tracy, I'm so sorry to hear of your loss. It's very hard to cope with a loss when you've known someone for so long. Everyone deals with the loss in different ways, there is no right way. Remember, you've been given a longer life, there is a reason for that. Sometimes we don't know what it is, but God will reveal it much later. One passage says,
"I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me" (Phil. 4:13) Paul uses the Grk verb that means "to be strong" or "to have strength" (Acts 19:16,20: James 5:16) Paul referred to strength from God to withstand "all things." (v. 11,12). Christ will strenthen you Tracy, and years from now you will thank God for getting you through this.
---Mark_V. on 1/16/13

tracy, I want to share something with you. when my daughter passed away, my dear friend in new zealand sent me a beautiful card. it is a poem about a rose blooming so beautiful and it grows thru a brick wall but it is still blooming, just not where we can see it. I will always keep the sweet card and periodically I look at it and know my sweet daughter is blooming on the other side of the wall. God bless.
---shira4368 on 1/14/13

Jesus lived on this earth and did all He did. And now, even though He has died, all He has done can still do us good.

Like this, you now can enjoy and appreciate and benefit from however your husband has been good for you (c:

Whatever Jesus has done that is good . . . it will continue to do us good, and it is like this with our loved ones who have died > whatever was really good will continue to do us good, especially their good example of living for God and loving the way Jesus has us love > this can always feed us!
---willie_c: on 1/13/13

tracey, God bless you. get in your church and volunteer. I have been thru that already but my husband wasn't as young as yours. I also lost my 41 yr old daughter to brain cancer. these are hard pills to swallow and the pain seems never to go away. it has been over 5 yrs since my husband died but it feels like a week ago. He is on my mind day and night. so is my precious daughter. In the meantime, trust God for healing and know God loves you.
---shira4368 on 1/13/13

There is nothing more painful than what you are going through. To lose a loved one is so awful. Please know that you have our prayers. God in His loving mercy is the only One that knows how to heal this hurt. We feel for you & will talk to our Father for you. You're not alone. Depend on God more than ever before. He can & will be your strength.
---Reba on 1/13/13

I am so sorry for your loss. I pray that God would endow you with His strength and comfort, May you feel His everlasting arms around you and give you peace.
---TweetieBird on 1/13/13

The thought of losing my spouse or daughter sickens me. They are my reason for getting up in the morning and staying alive.

Our lives are but a few short years on earth. When it is over, and we are put to repose, others will live on without us, and we will not share in their experiences. It is all grievous.

God is the Saviour of all men, specially them which believe. Our departed loved ones will one day be completed in God's image, His Son, but death must come before that Life is given to us.

Your husband will live again, the Resurrection, Christ Jesus, has said so. No one will be excluded from being made alive in Him. You must believe in the Resurrection and the Life.

He is our only expectation in this life.
---Phil on 1/13/13

i am truly sorry for your loss.
---aka on 1/13/13

And probably helpless! All I can say is it will get easier. Try not to allow yourself any kind of self-pity mode. Certainly God can help if He is in your life. His strength and power will help you through anything in this life. If you are not saved, I suppose there are plenty of support groups out there. Just don't allow yourself to become depress, please. Here is something else that may help: Watch the news and see all the sufferings of people around the world. And be grateful it's not you. Thanks.
---pat on 1/12/13

What kind of help do you want?

This is a normal grief reaction.

Denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance is NOT the name of a law firm but the steps in the grieving process.

Are there no grief support groups in your area?

All I can say on line is that God is with you in the middle of this, though you may not feel it.

Christ is baptized! In the Jordan!
---Cluny on 1/12/13

I am sooooo sorry dear!! You are at the time when the shock is wearing off and the pain feels unbearable, it sounds like a cliche but it will get a bit easier with time honey. I will pray for you, hang in there, hugs, Mary
---Mary on 1/12/13

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