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God Told Me To Marry

I married someone thinking that I felt like God told me to marry this person. I have never been in love with him. What do I do.

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Stay married, according to the Sermon on the Mount

---Peter9556 on 5/12/13

Bro. Willie, What God does is permit us to get into sinful acts or in this case a marriage that was not ordain by God, to then overule for good. Pharaoh and the Egyptians were permitted to wrong the Israelites that by their deliverance God's wonders might be multiplied in the land of Egypt (Ex. 11:9) and that His glory might be declared throughout all the earth. What befell Job, as seen from our view-point appears to be mere misfortunes, accidents, but in reality we see God behind it all, exercising complete control, giving the devil permission to afflict so far but no further for the developement of Job's patience and character. Many died for that purpose. Even using the seemingly meaningless waste of the storm to fulfill His loving purpose.
---Mark_V. on 1/25/13

But, Mark, God can have us do something that we don't understand, and it seems like it wasn't God because of how things turn out. But if we stay with it, He later has His purpose come out.

But . . . also . . . it is possible to have God mixed up with "the god of this age" (2 Corinthians 4:4) who is Satan. There are people who say "God" did something or told them something, and you can tell they are talking not about God our Father, but "the god of this age".

"Listen to the Holy Spirit. Get those distractions out of the way so you can be still and hear God. He can turn things around." Even how you messed things up . . . God can use it later for your good, once you get with Him (c:
---willie_c: on 1/24/13

CCB, the way I read the question, it is like you are saying God gave you someone that you do not love, and want to get out of your problem. That somehow it was not your fault, it was God's fault and you followed His instructions, because as you say, you were never in love with him in the first place. Now you want to know what advice you can get from us. How many times have you heard someone say, "I believe God gave me this man/woman?" I hear it all the time. Mostly when people make mistakes do they complain. God never makes mistakes. So you are wrong, feeling God told you to marry that person, was not from God.
In the end you are going to do what you want anyway. Getting an ok from us does not make it right or wrong.
---Mark_V. on 1/23/13

CCB: Please be very careful because "feeling like God told you" is actually different from God telling you. If God has told you, you will be able to have His communication to you as a reference point (date/period of day or night/medium used by Him to instruct you).
---Adetunji on 1/21/13

What do you mean 'in love with him'?

Romantically, I take it.....

But that was never (in the times the Bible was written) a need when people were married

Just go on and act as you should when you are married
---James on 1/19/13

Yes, people fall in and out of love. Michal loved David and was glad to marry him and even saved her husband one time from death. Later Michal despised her husband David. Amnon loved Tamar and could not sleep til he had her. Then Amnon hated Tamar with more hatred than he had loved her. So why can not the opposite be true as well? GROW IN LOVE. Read the Song of Songs. Call your husband "my lover". Or make yourself beautiful to your husband by the manner of 1 Peter 3:2-5.
---bike on 1/19/13

Titus 2:3-5, tells older women to train younger women to love their husbands and children.

3 Likewise, teach the older women to be reverent in the way they live, not to be slanderers or addicted to much wine, but to teach what is good. 4 Then they can train the younger women to love their husbands and children, 5 to be self-controlled and pure, to be busy at home, to be kind, and to be subject to their husbands, so that no one will malign the word of God.

The Prophet Hosea was led by God to do something similar in marrying Gomer. Read Hosea.
---bike on 1/18/13

\\God did not allow Rachel to have children.\\


Rachel was the mother of both Joseph and Benjamin, though she died in childbirth with the latter.

Glory to Jesus Christ!
---Cluny on 1/17/13

It reads like you put to much emphasis on "felt". All you can do now is, "grin and bear it" One word of encouragement, I've been married 49 years, and while it's always been great, it's better now than then.
---wivv on 1/17/13

Did God tell the other person to marry you?

Did you try asking him?

In Biblical times, one didn't marry for love in any case. Marriages were arranged by the families of the couple.

What do you do? You keep your promises made. Nobody forced you to get married.

Glory to Jesus Christ!
---Cluny on 1/17/13

Hi, CCB (c: It is clear you are not saying love feels good, here, but you say "I felt like God told me to marry this person." But "At Your right hand are pleasures forevermore." (in Psalm 16:11) "with honey from the rock I would have satisfied you." (in Psalm 81:16) "you will find rest for your souls" (in Matthew 11:29)

And we feel His joy which is in His love.

We are sacrificed to this, and then sacrifice for Him in this love, as much as each of us is "one spirit with Him" (1 Corinthians 6:17). So, if God has you doing something, you feel Him, if you are "one spirit with Him" in His love. But there are people who do not experience how our Father is personal with us (c:
---willie_c: on 1/17/13

The idea that love feels good is false. Only those seeking to satisfy their souls with intimacy fail to recognize true love.

The ultimate demonstration of it was nailed to a bloody cross.

Love is demonstrated in self-sacrifice, and doing the will of another.

God is not loved by all, and still loves unconditionally all humanity. He ordained the death of His Son to prove it.

Our rewards at the Dais of Christ will be measured by our self sacrifices and subjection to God in this life. Let that be your focus.
---Phil on 1/16/13

I would be sure, and wait a while. If you go ahead anyhow, love may come later.
---pat on 1/16/13

You can pray about if God really did that. I don't think you have to be in love with someone, in order to marry the person.

I mean Genesis 29:30-35 > when Jacob did not love Leah his unwanted wife, God did not allow Rachel to have children. So, I can see God could care less if Jacob was not in love with Leah. He still wanted him to love her.

So - - love him the way God has you love him, better than being humanly in love like maybe all these divorcing people were supposedly in love but it did not hold up.

God's love is better than what a lot of people fall into! Psalm 63:3 Romans 5:5
---willie_c: on 1/16/13

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