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Friends With 18 Year Old

My husband has a close friend she is 18 they have been really close sense she was a little girl. Anyway he texts her and calls her more then he does me. We fight over this all the time he said I am pushing him away because I need to understand that they are just friends.

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Here the best and quick,short and most countries believe 100% agree
" Married folks DO NOT HANG
With single folks!"
Vise en reversa:
" Married people DO NOT NEED
A 3rd wheel To mess up their ride
along the paths of matrimony!"

Wow! I am happy now..smiles!
Just keep it,simple..
---Lidia4796 on 9/9/13


WHAT A SNOB! I would tell him to go. Out the door. He can walk, you don't need to push him.
---catherine on 9/6/13


Tammy, you are pushing him away by disagreeing with him. He is only thinking of himself and not about how you feel. He wants to conform you to his ways or else. I myself think it is very wrong now that she is of age. He might have good intentions, but there is no way you can know her intentions. I believe when a person gets married, they need to respect their wives. They should cut private ties to others that can damage their marriage. Whatever you do, do it right, for the right reason. Many here have good advice, prayer, talking to your husband but not getting angry. Explain to him that you are worried something else can come out of what he is doing. No matter how much faith you have in your husband, remember we all fail. Only God never fails.
---Mark_V. on 5/12/13


Something is missing here.... Tammy... how old are you and your husband? If you are both older, then thats one thing. if you are both younger (closer to this girls age). Thats something else..
---NurseRobert on 5/8/13


Tammy: If you can, let this young lady becomes your friend as well(slowly). If she can get advices and counsels that she has been receiving for a long time from your husband from you also, then their relationship will reduce in intensity except there exists something else.
---Adetunji on 5/7/13




My husband has a close friend...We fight over this all the time he said...I need to understand that they are just friends.\\
---Tammy on 5/5/13

weren't you aware of this really close friend before you married him?

If you knew about her - did you fight about this before you married each other?

If you didn't know about her - did you know him well enough to get married to him?
---James_L on 5/6/13


Wise advice Grandma.
---Josef on 5/5/13


First bathe this situation in prayer. Then, ask your husband to invite this young lady over for dinner, so you can get to know her.

You don't say how old you and your husband are, but if you are older, it would be a good testimony to her to see a mature Christian couple/family in action.
---Grandma on 5/5/13


It's very possible they are just friends. He has know her since she was a little girl, (according to what is said in the question in the blog), and he has never really come to grips with the fact she is now grown up. Your fighting him about this is not doing you or him any good. (He may be enjoying the attention she is giving him. Maybe you should try it, but on a positive side, not fighting.
---wivv on 5/5/13


\\[Therefore] Let the husband render unto the wife due benevolence. 1Cr 7:3\\

josef, "due benevolence" is here a euphemism for sexual satisfaction.

Glory to Jesus Christ!
---Cluny on 5/5/13




There is nothing wrong with this kind of friendship. There is something wrong with the wife's jealousy. She seems very insecure. I have known several situations where a man who is not a blood relative has been like a dad to a little girl. The only thing that might change my mind about this is if the husband and the girl are just a few years apart in age and grew up together.
---KarenD on 5/5/13


Even if your husband has nothing beyond fatherly affection for the 18 year old, she might have other ideas.

Of course, since you husband lives with you (I presume) why would he need to call or text you?

Perhaps you should suggest that he never sees her without you.

Glory to Jesus Christ!
---Cluny on 5/5/13


Tammy if your husband considers himself a believer, bring these passages to his attention.
"Husbands, dwell [with your wife] according to knowledge, giving honour unto [her], as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life, that your prayers be not hindered." 1Pe 3:7
He should also consider this "[It is] better to dwell in the wilderness, than with a contentious and an angry woman. Pro 21:19
[Therefore] Let the husband render unto the wife due benevolence. 1Cr 7:3
[For] Discretion will preserve you, [and] understanding will keep you" Pro 2:11
---josef on 5/5/13


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