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Give Wife Another Chance

I recently found out from my wife of 2 years that she had been in a relationship which she tried to end when she and I started dating. She slept with him even until after we were married. Divorce or give another chance?

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 ---Chris on 6/5/13
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That would depend if she is willing to start being faithful, also, are you willing to forgive and forget. And do you love her enough to work to keep the marriage together. But, certainly if your wife cannot stay faithful, then you have a problem. It's going to take both. GOOD NIGHT, ALL+++
---catherine on 9/3/13

I doubt if she tried very hard to end her relationship. What she has now is, "Her cake and icing too." My suggestion is to get some qualified marriage counseling from a Christian marriage counselor. If she won't go, you have the answer to your answer.
---wivv on 6/10/13

I pray you forgive her. Do not as the world does, most say divorce. Do as Jesus does forgive. I know it is hard but Jesus can do anything.
---Allison on 6/9/13

My pleasure, shira.

I hope you realize I don't disagree with people just to be disagreeable.

Christ is risen!
---Cluny on 6/9/13

cluny, coming from you I am honored. thank you so much.
---shira4368 on 6/8/13

Good point, shira.

Someone said forgiveness is like an onion. You peel and peel and cry and cry--and then there's another layer.

Christ is risen!
---Cluny on 6/8/13

sometimes we need grace to forgive. God forgives us over and over and over and to make it thru this life, we need to do the same. I have had to forgive many times even tho I was never ask to forgive. I had to do it for me to survive.
---shira4368 on 6/6/13

Well, if she was immoral in character, your character made you able to connect with her.

Are we faithful to our Groom Jesus?

It says, in the Bible > "Do all things without complaining and disputing, that you may become blameless and harmless, children of God without fault in the midst of a crooked and perverse generation" (in Philippians 2:14-15)

So, if we argue or complain, this is not being faithful to our Groom. So, is "another chance", just one time, going to be enough for any of us?
---willie_c: on 6/6/13

It's not as simple as divorce or not. What's firstly important is there a marriage now. I don't mean a legal agreement, is there a spiritual and physical oneness between the two of you that is healthy and fulfilling to both?

Most of the time someone is asking because the answer is no. If she was sleeping with another when she said her vows and never in her spirit came to honor them through the devotion of her flesh there never really was a marriage and what the state did for you defied reality. Either way you choose you have grace, but be careful not to abuse that grace. If she's walking with God and is now a good wife, it's time to choose to not only forgive but restore trust. (See Jude)
---Pharisee on 6/6/13

Chris, You didn't say she asked for a 2nd chance.
Sleeping with him after marriage doesn't sound like "she tried to end it"
Marriage is hard enough without that kind of a poor start!
The mountain looks a little too high!
---1st_cliff on 6/6/13

If things were reversed, would you want your wife to give YOU another chance?

And how many time do you ask God to give you another chance?

Go and do likewise.

Jesus is risen!
---francis on 6/6/13

If things were reversed, would you want your wife to give YOU another chance?

And how many time do you ask God to give you another chance?

Go and do likewise.

Christ is risen!
---Cluny on 6/5/13

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