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How To Deal With Sociopath

I have a daughter whom I really think is a sociopath. She fits the profile to a T. I would like to have a penpal mother who's daughter is a sociopath and hear how she deals with the outrages and up and down personality.

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Attach yourself to a well known bible group that have a church attached that is working within the community serve The Almighty God and preach Christ crucified, resurrected to return again for his people and that you must be born again and baptized only once.

Then learn to LOVE as Christ loved, love and embrace your daughter, and as you grow so will your children and their children children !

It may take you reading and delivering your daughter through prayer and fasting, but until you know the truth about demon activity and how drug abuse opens up your mind to negative connotations you cannot help your daughter to improve, it can only be done fully through professional help and more importantly through biblical principles
---Carla on 7/3/14


Cluny: sorry if I misunderstood you

Peter
---Peter on 11/29/13


Bro. Peter, You say:
"Sometimes I worry that too many of the disagreements are actually misunderstandings"
Yes, that's true yet Many are arguments. Many defend the denomination at all cost, even if it goes against Scripture. Some have believed something for so long, they are bias and will never open their hearts to the Truth. MacArthur calls it "theoligical bias." And again many are just misunderstandings. What I believe is the worse problem is that many preach something as Truth when they have never studied the subject or topic. It would be better if they ask questions instead of making it look like they know what they are talking about. Studing is hard, it takes a lot of time, but it is all worth it.
---Mark_V. on 11/27/13


\\your comment:
If you say you have no sin, you deceive yourself, and the truth (Jesus) is NOT IN YOU!

your comment is true, yes. But you are not responding to a point mentioned by Willie, who poised the bit from Phil 4.
\\

I was referring to something ELSE this person said.

Glory to Jesus Christ!
---Cluny on 11/27/13


Cluny: I noticed a discussion, where I think you may have made a small error. I enclose the comment you commented on, together with you comment, and I do not quite agree with your comment:

The comment you commented on
Philippians 4:4-6, "the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus."

your comment:
If you say you have no sin, you deceive yourself, and the truth (Jesus) is NOT IN YOU!

your comment is true, yes. But you are not responding to a point mentioned by Willie, who poised the bit from Phil 4.

Phil 4 deals with NOW. yours deals with ALL TIMES. One can be sinless now -as Wille claims, and sinful in eternity, as you point out.
---Peter on 11/26/13




Mark, I understand your dislike of some doctrines. However, I often am not sure, when people try to fit what should be a 5 page doctrinal essay into 125 words..... I am not sure what they mean. I often think I disagree, but it may just be that they tried to put too much into a post and could not explain it.

When we just have 'electronic editors' we have a fixed blog post limit, but the end result is that too many people write things that are hard to understand, and then people can't understand the post and assume the person who wrote the post is an apostate!

Sometimes I worry that too many of the disagreements are actually misunderstandings
---Peter on 11/25/13


Peter, thanks for caring for us. I have nothing personal against anyone here. Oh, some really get angry and show some of their own fruits, but it is normal, when they are not walking in the Spirit but in the flesh. But what is in the heart is what counts. I love Cluny as I love all those I pray for for here on CN.
My arugments are against doctrines. Not any person. If I met Cluny in person I know we would get along great. Thanks again for caring brother.
---Mark_V. on 11/25/13


Cluny, hope you are doing well, will be praying for you, and hope you Mark are doing well too.

Happy to see the two of you are chatting peacefully, which a pleasure to see on this site!

Blessings
---Peter on 11/24/13


Cluny, sometimes we get caught up answering many people and we forget they are going through many trials in life so we take our privileges for granted. Most of us who are getting old, are beginning to break down, many are around my age 68, and are having a lot more problems then me. I am praying for you, no matter our discussions. We are here for each other, peace I leave you.
---Mark_V. on 11/19/13


\\By the way, I am thinking about you Cluny as you go through your trials and also praying for you brother in Christ.
---Mark_V. on 11/16/13\\

Thank you.

I will repeat what I've said before. How our free wills and cooperation (synergy) fit with God's sovereignty is a mystery we won't understand in this world, and in the World to Come, probably won't care about.

Glory to Jesus Christ!
---Cluny on 11/16/13




Cluny, I do listen, always have. Here I listen to so many. But what I hear is not very good many times. I guess because I have offended many by speaking for the Sovereignty of God. It happens, but I still listen. By the way, I am thinking about you Cluny as you go through your trials and also praying for you brother in Christ.
---Mark_V. on 11/16/13


\\ I do not have the upper ground on wisdom\\

Or anything else, for that matter.

So you should listen to those who do and be guided by what they say.

Glory to Jesus Christ!
---Cluny on 11/15/13


Cluny, I do not know what is in your heart, and what you believe. I do not answer to things from you heart. I only answer to what you write down from your Orthodox Church and your arguments on topics. I do not have the upper ground on wisdom, you do. I can see that by what you write down. You are way ahead of everyone around here, you and a couple of others.
---Mark_V. on 11/15/13


\\No one can. I am only a sinner saved by the Grace of God.
---Mark_V. on 11/14/13\\


How do you know that you're a sinner? What standard do you use? Why do you need saving if you were "elect" from the foundation of the world?





---jerry6593 on 11/15/13


\\No one can. I am only a sinner saved by the Grace of God.
---Mark_V. on 11/14/13\\

That goes for all of us.

But if I know something, it's dishonest to pretend I don't.

Glory to Jesus Christ!
---Cluny on 11/14/13


Cluny, I can never claim the high ground, that belongs to you. Your education, your wisdom, how can anyone gain the high ground on you? impossible. No one can. I am only a sinner saved by the Grace of God.
---Mark_V. on 11/14/13


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BTW, MarkV, your helpless attempts to lay a guilt trip on me and claim the moral high ground are not working.

Give them up.

Glory to Jesus Christ!
---Cluny on 11/13/13


\\Worshiping idols is a sin. We worship God and trust in His Word only.
---Mark_V. on 11/13/13\\

But we don't worship idols and you're lying if you say we do.

We worship God only.

Glory to Jesus Christ!
---Cluny on 11/13/13


About having a "sociopath" or "bipolar" relative > Jesus says, "My grace is sufficient for you, for My strength is made perfect in weakness," in 2 Corinthians 12:9. Paul had that "thorn in the flesh" "messenger of Satan" messing with him, and he says "I pleaded with the Lord three times that it might depart from me." See 2 Corinthians 12:7-15. But it looks like Jesus did not just make the problem go away. But Paul needed to learn to do things in God's grace so then he even took "pleasure" in dealing with his troubles. God's grace makes us able to handle anything, with "rest for your souls." (Matthew 11:28-30)
---willie_c: on 11/13/13


Cluny, I know that in your mind no one can do better then you. You are just to far ahead of us in your wise mind. I will not even try. But what I can do is put down Scripture for you. The Word of God. You either believe the Word of God are believe what you want.
Your priority is your denomination, you have shown that many, many times. But only the Word of God is Truth.
Worshiping idols is a sin. We worship God and trust in His Word only.
---Mark_V. on 11/13/13


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\Cluny, I have given you a lot of godly answers so that you will never say to God, no one told you.\\

Nope, you never have.

\\You are more interested in defending the RCC and Eastern Orthodox Church then the Truth.\\

I've never defended Roman Catholicism when it, was wrong. Correcting false statements made about it is not the same thing as defending it, but I don't expect you to be able to tell the difference.

\\ I cannot give you understanding.\\

You cannot give what you do not have.

Glory to Jesus Christ!
---Cluny on 11/12/13


Cluny, I have given you a lot of godly answers so that you will never say to God, no one told you. But you will not listen. You are more interested in defending the RCC and Eastern Orthodox Church then the Truth. I cannot give you understanding. That is an act of God.
As far as I am concern, I told you. Speak on behalf of God and not for your denomination. No denomination is without fault, only God is without fault. His Truth will remain forever.
---Mark_V. on 11/12/13


People with more obviously evil personalities can tick by the same basic selfish principles as what make us all tick while we are doing things selfishly . . . like a great big grandfather clock ticking by the same principles that a wristwatch ticks. And our kids may have picked up their basic ways from us.

So, it can help to look at our own selves and get wise to how we may have contributed . . . by using people, instead of loving them, arguing and using force to get our way, expecting something back for what we give, thinking we are somehow more than others and competing to be better instead of sharing as family.
---willie_c: on 11/12/13


\\f you do not have any godly advice, why do you even answer?\\

Follow your own advice, MarkV. You have no godly advice to give. Ever.

Glory to Jesus Christ!
---Cluny on 11/12/13


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Cluny, you are making something out of nothing again. If you do not have any godly advice, why do you even answer? Sis. Lidia was talking about her experience, and that is what I answered to. I offended your high education again.
---Mark_V. on 11/11/13


\\Our answers were very simple\\

Simple or simplistic? The two are not the same.

And this particular blog is about whether a certain person is a sociopath and what the mother should do about it, not what "personality" means in someone's idiolect (a perfectly legitimate word, btw).

Glory to Jesus Christ!
---Cluny on 11/10/13


Cluny, we cannot live up to your education or standards. Please forgive us for not reaching as high as you do. Our answers were very simple. Disorders that I spoke about with Sis. Lidia is different then the subject of the mind of a believer.
Willi, gave very good answers.
---Mark_V. on 11/10/13


\\By "personality", I mean who we are as a spiritual person in the sight of God\\

That's not the definition of "personality."

You sound like Humpty Dumpty--or Eloy (remember him?). "When I use a word, it means exactly what I want it to mean, no more, no less.'

Glory to Jesus Christ!
---Cluny on 11/9/13


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I have been in a number of Al-Anon meetings, where mothers have talked about having children who sound like you daughter. Each is unique, of course (c: But God does not fire mothers! And He is able to guide you according to what He knows.

Mothers seem to be helped by not guilt-tripping themselves, but do get corrected of any of their own ways that could help make things worse . . . not to struggle and fight with the child, not to try to cover up for what the child does wrong.

Trust God, give it to God.

Have hope for the problem child, but get into living lives that are good for themselves, and do not let themselves get down from taking good care of themselves.
---willie_c: on 11/9/13


By "personality", I mean who we are as a spiritual person in the sight of God. This includes our heart and mind which are spiritual and meant to be kept by God's peace (Philippians 4:4-7).

God has designed each of us, so each personality is unique, the way God's ways have us designed.

And His ways (in designing each personality) are "past finding out" (Romans 11:33). So, no human can figure out and truly understand each of us > only God can understand what each of us needs.

Only God can take away the evil ways of how Satan's spirit (Ephesians 2:2) messes our personalities with selfish ways that try to conform us to other people and make us alike so we are predictable and controllable.
---willie_c: on 11/9/13


Hi, Rose (c: I am not a mother with a daughter who is a sociopath or bipolar. But I have had nasty people to deal with. So, I will offer what has helped me.

Trust God to have me relating with the person, how He pleases. Use good example of how to be in love. "rather let it be the incorruptible beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is very precious in the sight of God." (1 Peter 3:4)

Pray for how I myself need correction.

And hold my peace and let God fight the battle > "nor as being lords over those entrusted to you, but being examples to the flock." (1 Peter 5:3)

Know that Satan's kingdom of this world has things set up to make it look like this can't work.
---willie_c: on 11/9/13


MarkV and williec, personality is NOT the same thing as the mind.

Glory to Jesus Christ!
---Cluny on 11/9/13


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Sis. Lidia, you are correct when it comes to mental problems. They are barely knowing how many systems there are in the mind. Sometimes even the doctors cannot tell one disorder from another. Or what kind of medication to give. But you are correct, sometimes other systems come with bipolar. Peace sister.

Bro. Willie, you gave Cluny a very good answer concerning the changing of the mind.
---Mark_V. on 11/8/13


Yes, Cluny, we know the Bible says we are liars if we say we have NO sin.

We also know that the Bible says, "Love has been perfected among us in this: that we may have boldness in the day of judgment, because as He is, so are we in this world." (1 John 4:17)

God's love in our minds and personalities changes us so we become "as He is" "in this world" > "in this world", John says.

Because with our Father's correction we have His love's "peaceable fruit of righteousness" and we become "partakers of His holiness" > Hebrews 12:4-17 (c:

This comes with our minds being renewed and kept by God's peace, as our Apostle Paul says in Philippians 4:4-7.
---willie_c: on 11/8/13


\\And you asked if my personality is not sinful? If I am obeying Jesus and how God keeps my mind and heart in His peace, then my personality is peaceful, which would not be sinful, \\

If you say you have no sin, you deceive yourself, and the truth (Jesus) is NOT IN YOU!

That's what the Bible actually says. Did you know that?

Glory to Jesus Christ!
---Cluny on 11/8/13


Cluny . . . would I treat cancer or a broken leg the same way as I would deal with a personality disorder? No. Paul says, "and be renewed in the spirit of your mind." (Ephesians 4:23) Our mind spiritually does not get treated the same way as one would treat a physical disorder.

And you asked if my personality is not sinful? If I am obeying Jesus and how God keeps my mind and heart in His peace, then my personality is peaceful, which would not be sinful, Cluny. If we obey Philippians 4:4-6, "the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus." In Philippians 4:7.

God's renewing and peace cure our personalities to be like Jesus (Galatians 4:19).
---willie_c: on 11/8/13


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I have a degree in Psychology but I have bent over backwards not to apply what I learned onto my family and friends. that is a very unfair thing to do. You aren't qualified to analyze your daughter and if you were its a poor habit to do so. You don't know she is a sociopath and its rotten to label her and cause other people to judge her in that light. Be her mother,give her love without strings,and if she does need help for anything get a professional. You don't try to perform surgery on family who needs an operation. The Bible says Judge Not,for with the judgement you judge you will be judged.
---Darlene_1 on 11/7/13


\\God understands her better than many professionals can. He is able to give you understanding so you know what she needs. And only He can guide you to ones who will be able to understand her and therefore understand how she can be cured . . . in His love with His almighty power.\\

Would you use this approach to treating cancer or a broken leg?

And why is YOUR personality not sinful?

Glory to Jesus Christ!
---Cluny on 11/7/13


God understands her better than many professionals can. He is able to give you understanding so you know what she needs. And only He can guide you to ones who will be able to understand her and therefore understand how she can be cured . . . in His love with His almighty power.

So . . . trust God. Are you yourself with Jesus who made you and knows you best?? "casting all your care upon Him, for He cares for you." (1 Peter 5:7)

As you get God's correction, yourself, this can help you to understand all she needs! :) Sinful personalities have things in common. Learn what these are and this can help to understand what she needs.
---willie_c: on 11/7/13


There are several personality disorders that include those two behaviors in their symptoms. Instead of coming here for advice, you should take her to a licensed mental health professional.

In the meantime, seek some Godly counsel for yourself in learning coping strategies for dealing with your daughter.
---Grandma on 11/7/13


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Well, good be here, got to say yes, biplor runs in families, however, I truly believe my daughter is also, a sociopath not bipolar, even before she got into the cult.She has taken boyfriends of her best friends laugh no remorse! She is like nobody else,in our family.She knows that I have been through for yrs. It always shifts to her ,even her teachers had told me things and I really have never seen her be loving or caring.She manipulated alot now in the cult she over powered .they are worse!
---Lidia4796 on 11/6/13


How old is your daughter Rose? Does she live under your roof? What kind of discipline techniques have you used in her upbringing? Are you a Christian? If so, have you sought out the available counseling in your church? Has a competent medical authority diagnosed your daughter as a sociopath or is that just your opinion?
---Leon on 11/6/13


I'm sure you've made a great study of psychology and can make an accurate diagnosis.

"Outrages and up and down personality" are more likely signs bi-polar disorder or others. And you've not said how old your daughter is.

A true sociopath has no concept of right or wrong or empathy for others, but can put on a sweet front and manipulate others. Rhoda in THE BAD SEED is a good example from popular entertainment of a sociopath.

Seek professional help, and not merely affirmation from armchair shrinks.

Glory to Jesus Christ!
---Cluny on 11/6/13


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