Stan, in the U.K. hitting a small child (unless it was a slight slap) would be considered abuse and far more serious than hitting a teenager or an adult - although all of them would be considered wrong here.
Our laws about hitting children changed drastically some years ago. Parents are the only ones who can (without facing punishment) and even parents must be careful. Leave a mark and there can be trouble.
---Rita_H on 3/11/14|
If you hit an adult you go to jail. If you hit a teenager, you're kids are taken away. But if you hit a young defenseless child, no one cares.
Kind of backwards isn't it? Why is it considered abuse if you hit a full grown teenager, but it's okay to hit a little toddler or kid? It seems to me like hitting a kid is worse than hitting a full grown person.
---Stan on 3/11/14|
trey....My children are grown and have become wonderful adults. They did not require constant spanking (whipping, beating, etc) to get that way. They were taught from the day they were born how to behave. Too many parents forget that babies learn from the moment they are born. They wait until they are teenagers and spoiled and out of control before they try to discipline.
---KarenD on 3/10/14|
Look, some punishment is necessary
What punishment to use depends both on the age and the character of the child
Yes, you may spank a young child - BUT
Mane SURE the child knows exactly why you are doing the spanking, and explain exactly what was done wrong - so the child knows that it is JUST PUNISHMENT
If the child feels it is unjust punishment, you are better not punishing at all
---Peter on 3/4/14|
Prov23:13 Withhold not correction from the child: for if thou beatest him with the rod, he shall not die.
Prov23:14 Thou shalt beat him with the rod, and shalt deliver his soul from hell.
(I interpret that as hell here on earth.)
Prov29:15 The rod and reproof give wisdom: but a child left to himself bringeth his mother to shame.
Even our heavenly Father spanks us:
Heb12:11 Now no chastening for the present seemeth to be joyous, but grievous: nevertheless afterward it yieldeth the peaceable fruit of righteousness unto them which are exercised thereby.
I speak from experience! If you want your children to grow up to be good adults spank them when they are disobedient!
---trey on 3/4/14|
Ground teenagers, however if they are 10 or younger of course a spanking may be appropriate.
---Jimbo on 3/4/14|
rita, there is a big difference in a beating and a spanking. I got my share and Im not mentally off. some kids don't understand anything else.
---shira4368 on 3/1/14|
Beating a child is what it is called. If you want to raise a daughter who gets involved with abusive men, make sure you beat her often. A father beating the daughter makes it even worse. God help this person who posted this question.
---KarenD on 3/1/14|
Rita H thank you for the comforting words and you're right. Ha ha its actually a Texas and perhaps Southern way of saying you spanked them. No whips although in the era before me some of the Dads used Razor Straps which were wide leather straps they sharpened their razor on,a child should never have been hit with one. My Mama went further,in the Summer time,she made me go and pull weeds up and used those to spank or whip me with. I always said thats adding insult to injury ha ha.
---Darlene_1 on 3/1/14|
Paddling should not be done on children of EITHER gender. Period.
Glory to Jesus Christ!
---Cluny on 3/1/14|
Darlene, what do you mean by the word 'whipping"? Did you actually use a whip' or is it an American term simply meaning 'smacking'?
Don't be too hard on yourself. Parenting is something we all learn the hard way and our own upbringing plays a part in that also. I hope that my children don't dwell on some of the smacks they had from me - deserved at the time I thought - but I also wish I'd learned a calmer way of handling naughty chidren.
My daughter never smacks whereas my daughter-in-law used to smack her boys.
---Rita_H on 3/1/14|
We raised two Law Abiding citizens who love their family,God,and Country but if I could take back the whippings I would. My heart hurts to think I whipped the ones I love so much but in my time thats the way most parents corrected their children. Certainly teenage girls or boys don't need to be whipped there are better ways to punish than that. Its time compassion begins at home.
---Darlene_1 on 2/28/14|
Some moms can't be lonly,she beat me till she got tired.The thing is she got nothing out of me..no love just fear,I became hard. when I finally got free,. I did not pay no attention to her.Once she got her new husband,the beatings stop !!.Took pressure off me. I didn't have friends at school, I tried to make friends but it was hard , school seem like scary,too!
---Lidia4796 on 2/27/14|
In the U.K. many teenagers are as big (or bigger) than their parents and would remove an instrument of punishment (belt, paddle, wooden spoon etc.) from the parent and use it on them.
It is illegal to physically punish children in certain ways here.
Also, if a teenager is behaving so badly that the parent still needs to physically discipline them (and cannot find a better way) then physical punishment HAS NOT WORKED so it's useless to continue that way.
---Rita_H on 2/28/14|
Corporal Punishment is a bad idea at any age currently [regrettably] if state child protective services finds out you can have all the children in the household removed by the state. It not worth the potential risk to the family unit.
You can possibly be charged with Child Abuse or Child Endangerment even if you have someone else apply corporal punishment.
Medical personal have to report to the state if they suspect anything the same thing applies to teachers and councilors. It is simply not worth the risk, find an alternative method of discipline.
---Blogger9211 on 2/27/14|
Just W.: I don't know where you live but paddling a teenager here will get you arrested for assault!
---1st_cliff on 2/27/14|
Too late for paddling if they are teenage. There are too many other means available that will do a better job of correcting a mis-behavior of a teen. For example: take away the cell phone,(I Pad, etc.) If they drive, take their license, or take away Inter-Net use. (But tell them the time limit that these things will be denied.) Paddling may be fine for a younger child, but not for a teen. But, lay the ground work first by letting them know the disciple that will be given if they break your rules. (Don't wait until they do something you don't like and then punish them. Note: discipline and punishment are not the same thing.)
---wivv on 2/27/14|
Teenagers are responsible for themselves for their atittudes,so no we should not spank or paddle them. Only up to a certain age should we do so. I stopped spanking my kids when they reached 13. Thankfully my children know the difference. They should respect you, but there afre other ways to discipline them like grounding or taking away privliges.
---Candice on 2/27/14|