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Diseased And Bitter

My husband of 38 years has been diagnosed with prostate cancer, has heart disease and now diabetes. He is very bitter, depressed and discouraged even though he attends church every Sunday. He has a bad outlook on life in general even before he became ill. Any advise would be greatly appreciated.

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 ---Susan_B on 3/4/14
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//They would not be doing this if saved. Their 'ministry' is big business - not God's work. God must be weeping at this travesty of His work.//

I believe the worse thing a man can do is to use the ministry to make money, and many are doing that. I remember the first time I heard of the Word of Faith teachers, I learned that most of them had gone to the same school. So most of what they teach is the same. It is a shame that God allows it to continue. But God has a reason for letting it go on. We can count on God to do the right thing always.
---Luke on 3/26/14

Rita, the fella is dead now but he died a millionaire. He started the church I was a member of back in the 60's. I was a member there from 1990 til 2000. Some of the best services I ever attended was when bro, billy Cashwell pastored. Then.... Some of the members got together and ran him off so I didn't want to be a part of that. It's hard to find a good church.
---shira4368 on 3/17/14

How true Shira - "if you don't believe God will give you more than you give just look at me".

Men 'preaching' this way are out of touch with the REAL God (IF they ever were IN TOUCH with Him).

It is greedy 'people' who are giving to this man in hopes of receiving the promised one hundred fold.

Such men know this and know how to control these greedy, gullible people. God is not a part of these ministries at all - Satan has taken over (or started) many churches.

'Some' of these members will be deceived Christians but 'most' of these Pastors will be unsaved people. They would not be doing this if saved. Their 'ministry' is big business - not God's work. God must be weeping at this travesty of His work.
---Rita_H on 3/17/14

Rita, we have them all over our tv. It doesn't seem to bother them for the whole world to see their greed. I was in a service and a certain preacher was trying to take up money for a camp meeting and one of the comments he made was "if you don't believe God will give you more than you give just look at me". This man started churches and they always folded and he somehow got to keep all the assets, even land that was donated. God never promised to make us rich.
---shira4368 on 3/15/14

Shira, those adherents to the 'health and prosperity' movement should be given a wide berth. They are dangerous and mislead people. Many times I have heard them use the term "God will reward you one hundred fold" but strangely they don't expect God to reward them like-for-like. They only expect His reward to be in dollars!

We have such people in U.K. also and the pastors who preach this way have the biggest house, the biggest car etc. and even brag about this. Some of their members (who made them rich) live in near poverty to be able to give what their pastor says they should be giving.

"Let the left hand not know what the right hand is doing." If I was told what I should give my offering would be nothing.
---Rita_H on 3/15/14

we live in a corrupt body. I don't understand why some suffer while others proper. God does not teach prosperity but He teaches we must live by faith and trust Him for everything. a lady sent me mail on christianet and told me I need to change my stand on prosperity. she told me God wanted all to be prosperous but what God wants is submission to Him. God expects us to work to eat.
---shira4368 on 3/13/14

mike, what you do not understand is that what you said concerns believers in the word of God. You plainly show you are not one of them. I am very sorry for that. And sorry you are so upset. I wish I could help, but I can only give you advice from the Bible also and you do not want to hear anymore of that. Almost everyone here believes in the Bible. Maybe one day you will believe in the Bible. Agape
---Luke on 3/13/14

I second what Cluny and Lydia said.
---Nana on 3/13/14

as I heard christians / pastors say about suffering -
it is because of SIN,
your husband did not pray or believe that god heals,
we live in a sinful world,
he did not give his 10%,
your husband must suffer for christ,
god gave him that disease,
god did not heal apostle paul,
god is for you who can be aganst you
that's christianity for you.
---mike on 3/12/14

Remind your husband that there is to be a new heaven and a new earth and that you love him so much that you wish the both of you will enter that promised land together at the resurrection.

Also have him read the following:

Deuteronomy 8:2-5
1 Peter 1:6-7
Psalms 23:4, 6
Psalms 42:5-6
Psalms 116:15
Psalms 119:71-76
1 Corintians 10:13
1 Corintians 1:8-9
2 Corintians 4:8-9, 16-18
2 Corintians 11:23-28
2 Corintians 12:7-10
Hebrews 12:5-11
Romans 5:3
Romans 8:18

Have your husband also read the book of Job.

Remember, Jesus had to endure much pain.

Also, if he can endure unto the end with love in his heart then it is not what is done on this earth, but the earth of tomorrow.
---Steveng on 3/9/14

Susan, everyone of us will age and will come out with some sort of problems as we get older. Some at a younger age then others. It is depressing to know you cannot do many things you use to do. Some times very discouraging. God permits us all to go through these problems. But we can lend on Him for our strength. Just knowing He is there for us no matter what, is very comforting. But the person has to make a commitment to Christ. And his outlook in life with be more joyful. Praying for him and all who are suffering right this minute.
---Luke on 3/9/14

Hello dear friend when our loved ones are hurting we hurt too. My advise to you is to be the best environment for him. Show him all love and give him the care. That you keep him with a smile. Make him enjoy the paradise in your home as you go for treatment.At least kick depression out of your house.
---Lydia on 3/9/14

Hello,Yes,I have Cancer 2 nd time..
Had it for 10 years...did not know! Then well,yes little things pop up.

Got b.cancer , there are days very ill. No longer play piano, music ,too much pain too tired.
GOD STILL GOOD ... I try not to complain too, much..Prayer better.
sometimes 6 times or more.. 1 thing I BEG God keep my mind! Stayed on you, Jesus! Yo' love,mercy!

I do have my moods swings, No family here.
I do not go out much too much stomach bad.
Bipolar , bad arthritis, legally Blind COPD, epileptic ,Infections alot....Siister tell your husband we send our love
Puting you all on my prayer List.
All things POSSIBLE with God!
We love you both
Love of Jesus!
---Lidia4796 on 3/6/14

I will admit I wept a little bit when I was first dxed with diabetes, and later with cataracts. But I quickly got over it.

Have you have your husband checked out for clinical depression. While I have mentioned it several times on these blogs, I don't pretend to be able to dx it. Only a health professional can do that.

And if your husband has it and can get on the right medicine (or combination of medicines), you'll be surprised.

Of course all this will do is just give him better raw material with which to work.

Glory to Jesus Christ!
---Cluny on 3/5/14

One of the most spiritually minded men I know is our pastor, who has diabetes (he wakes up with b/g 350), prostate cancer, and gout. I'm not sure if he has heart disease.

He works his fingers to the bone for our congregation, and is supported by his pension from his first career as an engineer.

All of your husbands ailments are to be taken seriously, but they can be managed. Don't be afraid to take proper medicine. This can easily be God's providence for him.

I asked my dr. about prostate cancer. He told me that men might die with it, but rarely because of it.

Give your husband time to work through the stages of grief.

Glory to Jesus Christ!
---Cluny on 3/5/14

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