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In Love With A Minor

OK I need help big time I am 26 old man and I am in love with a 16 year old girl and she knows but no one else does I have every intention of waiting until she's legal but I can't help but sometimes feel like I'm taking advantage of her and what I'm doing is wrong what should I do?

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Thankyou, MonkBrenden,all respect.

I knew a woman. She was the family babysitter, care of this little boy,since he 5 yrs.old.

started looking good to she claim. age 12 they became lovers.
It was wrong. She was 35.
They ended up got married when he turn bout 18.
Guess what? he threaten her daily
" if you do not give me a $1,000 today Or when I demand.

"I'll tell the police you was molesting me at 11yrs.old"
She had to get cash!!! She started selling drugs!
She ended up in prison she did alot of years. He told the police, courts,
they married,she got arrested because he had photos. She in love with him at 11 yrs.old.She did alot of years.
Love of Jesus!
---Elena_9555 on 7/16/14


Walk away! Do so quickly. If you need to move out of town and change your phone number, and leave no forwarding address, then do it. Do it NOW, because 16 will get you twenty!

Trust me on this one. I was not a monk all my life, and I made a very stupid mistake, and I came close to a long term behind bars.

Pray for me!
the unworthy monk Brendan
---Monk_Brendan on 7/15/14


Hello, advice, a minor,she not on the same page as you are "trust me!"
She NOT mature yet, best keep her mind /school/ girls her age, people her age /supervision
.You obviously, do not feel good about it, yourself or you wouldn't be here.
It's best -prayer, counseling possibly.You could or not be a decent guy, why look for problems??
if her dad or mom find out..it probably not going to go over good,trust me!
they will find out.
wait.Pray,.Seek God & ask him send you a young woman.
not a kid.

Love of Jesus!
---Elena_9555 on 7/13/14


// and I talked to her about that I feel like I'm taking advantage of her but she keeps saying that I'm not//

Dear Matthew, I liked everyone's advise but I feel a little different. By your own statement you already feel like you are taking advantage of her. you are the older one. She in turn tells you, you are not, but she is the young one. Do not take her advice just because she said it was alright. The Holy Spirit speaks to our conscience, listen to the Spirit. You were already told you are taking advantage of her, pay attention. You are responsible for listening to God. God is not going to appear to you in the shower to tell you it is ok. You already know what to do. Agape
---Luke on 7/12/14


There's nothing wrong with this age difference. My only negative thought is how will it be years from now. Here are examples of what I mean: You may have teens when you are are much older-so are you both prepared for that? Once you are on Social Security, you may be faced with collage bills for your children - have you considered this? (By the way,I'm 77, and have done marriage counseling.) My suggestion is you talk about these points with each other before you get married. Again let me state, there is nothing wrong about this age difference. Let me also state you might want to give her some freedom to date others so she is sure she wants to follow-through with marriage without dating others. If you don't she may resent it later.
---wivv on 7/7/14




Micha9344 has the only reply that appeals to biblical truth.

I've said it before, that our society would have Joseph imprisoned for being a perverted pedophile. But God apparently had no problem with a 30+ year old man being married to a 13 year old woman

Yes, woman. Not a little girl.

Even as close as 80 years ago, women would marry at 13-14 years old, many times to men in their 30s.

It is simply an unbiblical, societal whim to think there is something inherently wrong with this situation
---James_L on 7/4/14


Matthew tell the girl to pray for God to give her the man He has for her and you pray for the girl God has picked for you. You may not be meant for each other give God a chance to work HIs will for your life. If you are meant for one another then no matter how long you wait God will make it happen. God will also let you know without a doubt who you are to be with. Trust God and stay away from the girl by yourself,you could get in a lot of trouble right now while she is so young. Legally she is a child and you're a man.
---Darlene_1 on 7/4/14


"I do believe in God and I pray to him everyday. That's why I came here with this."
---Matthew on 7/2/14


Matt: It's good that you believe in God, but that's not good enough. Billions of people have & are yet simply "believing in" a god out there, somewhere, but have never "believed" on the true & living God of the universe. (John 3:1-18)

We come to believe on Him by paying attention/listening to God (Romans 10:17), by getting into His word (the Bible) & allowing His word to get into & teach (instruct) us. The Bible teaches us the right way to pray so we don't ask for things that go against God's will & teachings.

I sincerely hope this helps you. :)
---Leon on 7/3/14


Matthew : Human words are not sufficient to explain sometimes what one feels to another. The only thing i can criticize is your use of the word "love" instead of "interest". Naturally, it does happen that 2 persons of such develop interest in each other, but you must control it that it will not have any ungodly part to it.
---Adetunji on 7/3/14


#2 Matthew : About 32 year's ago, a minor had interest in me. My elder brother & her parents were co-tenants in a block of apartments. She didn't hide it from her parents neither did i hide it from my brother /wife. But i controlled it that we do not talk/stay where others were not present. I diverted her interest of being close to me when I'm around to improving her knowledge of mathematics. After 6 months, life took me away from that zone (Ibadan) & we have not seen ourselves till now. So i think love is premature a word to use to describe your interest in each other.
---Adetunji on 7/3/14




/I have every intention of waiting until she's legal\
I can only presume this is in reference to marriage, else I would be accusing you of adultery in thought.
Since most states allow marriage at 16 with parental consent, what do her parents think about this relationship?
That may be the crux of the whole thing.
Though the Bible never states the age of Mary and Joseph, tradition says Mary was a young teenager when she was betrothed.
Abraham and Sarah were ten years apart, but the Bible never says at what age they were married.
Culture has a way of putting on restrictions that may not necessarily be immoral, yet we are to follow the laws where we live that do not conflict with the laws of Christ.
---micha9344 on 7/3/14


I do believe in God and I pray to him everydaythat's why I came here with this
---Matthew on 7/2/14


Sounds like you're saying you & the minor girl have a close, secret liaison. Plain & simple, you're playing with fire Matt!

Ditto Rita_H.
---Leon on 7/2/14


"I have every intention of waiting until she's legal". Good for you but, until she is, don't just assume that she feels the same about you because she might not and (even if she thinks that she does now) she will change and mature over the next 2 years. When those 2 years are gone 'it' will be legal in man's eyes but (assuming you both feel the same) make it legal in God's eyes also and get married FIRST.

You don't say where YOU stand with God but you'd be wise to start 'consulting' Him in prayer NOW. He listens and He wants you to know His Son Jesus. Ask for guidance.
---Rita_H on 7/2/14


She feels the same way
---Matthew on 7/2/14


and I talked to her about that I feel like I'm taking advantage of her but she keeps saying that I'm not
---Matthew on 7/2/14


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Maybe you can't help your feelings, but you CAN help what you do about them.

Leave her STRICTLY ALONE!

And I notice that you've not said how she feels about you.

In any case, she's immature emotionally. And yes, you ARE taking advantage of her in that way.

Let her grow up and meet boys closer to her own age.

Glory to Jesus Christ!
---Cluny on 7/2/14


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