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If a 'Christian' husband divorces his Christian wife when she discovers that HE has committed adultery is SHE free to remarry? If a Christian wife divorces her adulterous 'Christian' husband is SHE free to remarry? It would seem that in both scenarios the man WOULD BE free to remarry.

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No, she is not.
---Sin on 10/8/14


Thank you Luke, that is a beautiful story. Thanks for sharing that.
---Rita_H on 8/30/14


// If only one of you had been saved God would not expect you to go your separate ways because you were unequally yoked. He'd want the saved one to pray for and testify to the other one.//

Rita,
What you said is very true. Through the one saved, the other can also be saved. I knew a sister who prayed for her husband to be save, for twenty five years. The husband told me the story. In the beginning he always made fun of her but never stopped her from going to church. And she never gave up. She kept praying for him, until one day, he ask if he could go with her to church. He had being hearing of Jesus for many years, and that one day, he committed his life to Christ. Now they both work together witnessing so many couples. Agape
---Luke on 8/28/14


Love Jesus, "Neither my wife nor I were Christians when we got married 48 years ago. I wonder if God thinks that we are truly married? Maybe our marriage isn't God's will after all."

God sees the end before the beginning so, if you are now Christians I feel that God is perfectly happy that you are now married to each other.

Very many couples are saved long after they married. If only one of you had been saved God would not expect you to go your separate ways because you were unequally yoked. He'd want the saved one to pray for and testify to the other one.
---Rita_H on 8/25/14


LoveJesus: As I see it, you are attaching too much importance to 1Tim 4:10, without understanding the relevance of Paul's use of the verb 'save' to both 'all' and 'believers'.

The word in Greek (sotir) for save could be used for a number of things, as the English word 'save' is now (with the exception of a 'savings account', which was not used then) - you could use it to 'save' a city from a siege, 'save' a person from drowning or 'save' a person from hell.

As I read 1 Tim 4, I do not think the 'save' Paul uses for 'all' is the same 'save' he uses for believers.
---Peter on 8/24/14





Jed, I don't call you names so please don't call me names. It's uncouth.
---love.jesus on 8/20/14


When did I call you a name? I never did such a thing. If you think I did, please quote it.
---Jed on 8/21/14


love Jesus,
I also agree with Jed. If you interpret that passage as Universal salvation, that everyone is saved in the end, then most of the passages where Jesus spoke of hell are wrong. And Jesus is not wrong. So the duty of the interpretor is, to find out what that passage is really saying because it seems it is contradicting other passages and as we know the Bible does not contradict,
"That the gospel is offered to all nations, and races." Because Jesus said that most will reject Him and spend eternity in hell (Matt. 25:41,46: Rev. 20:11-15). Agape
---Luke on 8/21/14


Jed, I don't call you names so please don't call me names. It's uncouth.

That verse absolutely means that God saves everyone. It says that God is that Savior of all mankind. If all mankind are not saved, then God is not the Savior of all mankind and that verse means nothing. Think about it. And be happy, because God loves you! :)
---love.jesus on 8/20/14



Jed, I am not in any ttouble. But you are, saying the Bible contradicts itself.

---love.jesus on 8/19/14


I never said such a thing. Your chronic lying is the first sign of your spiritual condition. I only said that verse doesn't mean what you THINK it means. If you take that verse to mean that the all people are saved, the YOU are the one suggesting the Bible contradicts itself because there are far more verses that say the exact opposite. So, the only way that verse could mean all people are saved is if the Bible does contradict itself, which is what YOU are suggesting, not me. I'm clear about what the Bible says about salvation.
---Jed on 8/20/14


Jed, I am not in any ttouble. But you are, saying the Bible contradicts itself.
---love.jesus on 8/19/14





Of course we are saved. The Bible says so. 1.Tim.4:10

---love.jesus on 8/19/14


I hope you don't think that verse means that all people are saved! There are far more scriptures in the New Testament that prove otherwise. If that is your reason for thinking you are saved, then you are in serious trouble!
---Jed on 8/19/14


Of course we are saved. The Bible says so. 1.Tim.4:10
---love.jesus on 8/19/14


If you were legally married, then God honors that. You have been married 48 years. I would think you two would be stuck together by glue. I hope you are both saved.
---shira4368 on 8/18/14



Neither my wife nor I were Christians when we got married 48 years ago. I wonder if God thinks that we are truly married? Maybe our marriage isn't God's will after all.

---love.jesus on 8/10/14


Maybe it wasn't. Who knows? Regardless of whether your marriage was or wasn't God's will, what has been done has been done. And now that you are already married, it is most definitely God's will that you remain in your marriage, even if the marriage was not God-ordained. And since 48 years later you remain a non-Christian, you should first focus on becoming a Christian, repenting of your sins, and converting your ungodly marriage into a godly one.

Blessings.
---Jed on 8/17/14


I see the heresy is coming in to this subject thick and fast... on this subject he that hath an ear or better still can read black and white stop adding your own spin on scripture to validate what your itchy ears want to hear.

Judge not who enters heaven or hell, read the scriptures and judge right from wrong:John 7: 24

Christ did not break or destroy any part of the LAW or the commandments but explained the Law was transgressed by the pharisees such as you on here, about the Letter what part of the letter did they transgress to break the Law of marriage ????

What part of the letter did they transgress to disobey the LAW????
---Carla on 8/16/14


I asked this question and have made my own comments to many very similar ones. My reason for doing so is because my friend's husband is in the process of divorcing her because she will not divorce him for his adultery. Now that five years have gone by since she left him (because of the other woman) she cannot prevent him getting the divorce he wants.

She has no other man in her life, cannot envisage ever wanting to marry again but is hurt by the fact that, scripturally, the man can do so easily whilst the wife would be told that her behavior was unscriptural IF she did remarry. Her adult children are at a loss to understand this also.
---Rita_H on 8/16/14


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Dear Gayla,
You are correct in your answer. Here is where the spirit of the law comes in. Mark E gave Malachi 2:16 but in the context the evil act of divorce was the lesser evil then to be married to pagan Idolatrous wives. The results would be devastating for the future of Israel. If you go to (Ezra 10:1-44) you can see what I mean. Shechaniah, came to Ezra guilty that they had taken pagan wives, so they made a covenant with God they would repent, ask God for forgiveness and divorce their wives. This sin they had committed by taken pagan wives would be worse if they had stayed married. So divorce here was permitted. It took three months to get rid of their wives.
---Luke on 8/16/14


Love.Jesus ~ if you love Jesus
as yourself, you will also love your neighbor (in this case your husband) as yourself.
We live by the Spirit of the law, not the law itself
---Gayla on 8/15/14


The woman who was caught in the very act of adultery, was told by Jesus himself, to go and sin no more. He did not come to condemn the law, but to fulfill it, meaning that we are to live by the spirit of the law, and not be the letter of the LAW.
---Gayla on 8/15/14


mark,

i started a blog on this topic. i got questions and comments.
---aka on 8/15/14


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i am not saying the Lord condones divorce, but could someone please show me this verse?

---aka on 8/15/14

Mal 2:16 "For the Lord God of Israel says That He hates divorce, For it covers ones garment with violence, Says the Lord of hosts. Therefore take heed to your spirit, That you do not deal treacherously"
---Mark_Eaton on 8/15/14


...HE hates divorce...
---Adetunji on 8/13/14

i am not saying the Lord condones divorce, but could someone please show me this verse?
---aka on 8/15/14


Richared,
God sets the laws. The Holy Spirit speaks to the conscience of believers. Paul says,
"Receive one who is weak in the faith, but not to disputes over doubtful things. For one believes he may eat all things, but he who is weak eats only vegetables. Let not him who eats despise him who does not eat, and let not him who does not eat judge him who eats, for God has received him. Who are you to judge another servant? To his own master he stands or falls. Indeed he will be made to stand for God is able to make him stand" Romans 14:1-4). Here, one thought eating something was sin, but not the other. In the case of Peter, it is not wise to judge him for what he did. God has bought him. His conscience will let him know.
---Luke on 8/15/14


Luke : To some this might be a sin but to other not - ?????????????

Deuteronomy 5:18 - Thou shall not commit adultery ,

Luke 16:18 - Whosoever putteth away his wife, and marrieth another, committeth adultery: and whosoever marrieth her that is put away from her husband committeth adultery,

{ Luke - If we believe it is a sin , if we believe it not a sin in our heart , it is not a sin ? Bro I think you lose your mind on this one , When did man get to
decide what is a sin and what is not ? Now that I said this, I too try to rational thing in my life, We all have feet of clay , )
---RichardC on 8/14/14


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Dear Peter,
I believe we are to do is to not judge another brother because all bro/sis will stand before the Judgment Seat of Christ. To say someone cannot do this or that concerning a law, we can say it is a commandment. But many of the things told to us are not commandments but instructions on godly living. To some, one thing might be sin, but to another it might not. If we believe it is sin, it is sin to us, if someone believes in their heart it is not sin, then to him it is not. Anything without faith is sin.
Christ does not want us to be legalistic, but depended upon God. Romans 13,14,15 chapters speak of how we are to conduct ourselves concerning other brothers. If we have Christ, God will make us stand. Agape
---Luke on 8/13/14


Peter://My ex wife left me many years ago, because she was suicidal. The US laws did not allow me to stop her divorcing me, though I greatly desired to keep the marriage//

I think 1 Cor.7:15 answers your question.
The one who asked for divorce having known the instruction of the Lord that HE hates divorce should be regarded as an unbeliever(because he/she acted against God's word).
---Adetunji on 8/13/14


Another question - if a wife or husband divorces with no Christian reason (because he/she was not happy in the marriage) is the other person (the one who did not want the divorce) allowed to remarry?

My ex wife left me many years ago, because she was suicidal. The US laws did not allow me to stop her divorcing me, though I greatly desired to keep the marriage.

Later I remarried, assuming that I had tried to keep the marriage, but failed.

Was I wrong in remarrying?
---Peter on 8/12/14


Malachi 2,14 - Yet ye say, Wherefore ? because the Lord hath been a witness between thee and and the wife of thy youth, against whom thou hast dealt treacherously: yet is she thy companion, and thy wife of thy covenant,

( When people are marry saved, unsaved and take a vow: God is there as a witness, )
---RichardC on 8/11/14


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Neither my wife nor I were Christians when we got married 48 years ago. I wonder if God thinks that we are truly married? Maybe our marriage isn't God's will after all.
---love.jesus on 8/10/14


there is also another issue...
---aka on 8/7/14

what God has put together, let no man put asunder.

i wonder how many marriages God really put together in the first place.

and...just because two are still legally married does not mean what God put together was not put asunder.
---aka on 8/10/14


mistake it is not permitted for the any person committing adultery or fornication which means the same.

However two fornicators can marry !
---Carla on 8/10/14


Here's what is written in the Bible, Christ speaking: Matthew 19:9 (ASV) And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except for fornication, and shall marry another, committeth adultery: and he that marrieth her when she is put away committeth adultery.

In the case of the wife, she causes the one she marries to commit adultery.

bottom line - neither is free to remarry without consequences.
---wivv on 8/9/14


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Carla, the question is quite clearly asking about the situation where the MAN is the adulterer so why do you say "he is able to re-marry because the wife defiled her temple". A woman with an adulterous husband has defiled nothing. HE HAS done the defiling. That is the whole point of this question and similar ones asked many times before.
---Rita_H on 8/8/14


Can she re-marry it seems not!

Now if the simplicity of Matthew 19:9 and joining scriptures are too invisible to understand, find like I said a scripture that states's other wise.You simply cannot!

There are symbolic and direct examples and direct scriptures that teach a woman is bound by the Law ( of marriage)until her husband is (dead.)

Otherwise reconcile. It is not so with the Male he is able to re-marry because the wife defiled her temple( she is lower in rank to a man) That is why a man's brother was able to marry his dead brothers wife. But the woman was never asked to marry the dead sister's husband.
Just because you can don't make it right/eous...
---Carla on 8/8/14


Rita H, the clarity comes in context. Jesus is discussing Judaic law with Pharisees. In John, Jesus discusses a new law to them. It is not new as it was from the beginning, it is new to Judaism and the common practitioners of the law. Jesus says that his new law is to love one another. 2Jn_1:5 And now I beseech thee, lady, not as though I wrote a new commandment unto thee, but that which we had from the beginning, that we love one another.

if we do this, everything will fall into place and we don't have to sweat vague and "unfair" script. all she has to do is answer this question: if she were in her husband's position, what would she want him to do with her.

there is also another issue...
---aka on 8/7/14


I realize that this question has been asked and answered here several times but I am trying to obtain some clarity (for someone in particular) who cannot understand the unfairness of scripture which allows a man to start over again but not a woman.

This person has an adulterous husband. She has been faithful to him, yet it seems that he can start a new life but she cannot - or so scriptures seems to tell her.

She has no other man in mind but is 100% baffled at the inequality here.

I'll pass on your answers to her in due course.
---Rita_H on 8/6/14


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Carla - Haven't gone over Matthew 19:9 in some time , but this has to do with a spouse that has been marry before in another marriage, people use it a lot to justify divorce, - If you check it on line there's plenty of sites on it,

Matthew 5:32 - But I say to you , that whosoever shall put away his wife, saving for the cause of fornication, causeth her to commit adultery, and who shall marry her that is divorced committed adultery,
---RichardC on 8/6/14


I was married (and divorced) by man 2x when I did not know the father, holy spirit, and jesus.

Now that I am married by the godhead and man, I understand the scripture so much more about marriage and my wife that God chose and not me.

Father, Thank you for forgiving my ignorant past and providing the Way back to you. Jesus I need you to be the chord that makes our rope unbreakable. Spirit guide me every day to learn to love my wife that way that the father does.

Lord forgive for the rules and regulations that we try to form from your scripture. We seek only the truth.
---aka on 8/6/14


On 8 /6/14 - If a man remarries because the wife slept with another :

Matthew 18,21 - Then came Peter to him , and said, Lord how oft shall my brother sin against me, and I forgive him? till seven times ?
Matthew 18:22 : Jesus said unto him, I say not unto thee, Until seven times: but until seventy times seven,
---RichardC on 8/6/14


Does Romans 13:1, then, imply that Hitler's and Stalin's dictatorships were ordained by God?
---love.jesus on 8/6/14


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Leon Sorry I did not fully edit my last response, what I meant was that although an unsaved man can remarry, righteous marriage is no comparison.
---Carla on 8/6/14


The question is I believe if the unsaved get's married at least he only has to get saved. the saved man or woman who did commit the fornication or adultery and separated because of the action they committed, they are not permitted to re-marry or they will live in Adultery.

If two break up for non adulterous reason and re-marry both commit adultery with their adjoining partners.

So the scripture still stands (except it be for fornication) (paraphrased)If a MAN re-marries because the wife slept with another, he is no adulterer.

Matthew 19:9


---Carla on 8/6/14


Romans 13:1 Let every soul be subject unto the higher powers, For there is no power but God, the powers that be ordained of God,

1 Peter 2:13 - Submit yourselves to every ordinance of man for Lord's sake: wether it be to king, as supreme,
1 Peter 2:14 - Or unto governor , as unto them are sent by him for the for punishment of evildoers' and for the praise of them that do well,

( God has put in place Governments in the world with Laws , and they are to be obeyed, So when a unsaved person or someone that does not believe in God goes and gets a marriage license, it would be recognize by God as a marriage )
---RichardC on 8/5/14


Leon although it is correct for an unbeliever to remarry whilst both are permitted there can righteously it is no comparison to a Godly marriage.
---Carla on 8/5/14


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Luke 16:18 - Whosoever putteth away his wife and marrieth another, committeth adultery: and whosoever marrieth her that is put away from her husband committeth adultery.

Matthew 19:6 - Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh, What God has joined together , let not man put asunder,
---RichardC on 8/5/14


First question: Yes, she is. Second question: Yes, she is.

Yes, the adulterous husband can remarry "only because" the wronged wife has moved on with her life (as permitted by Scripture, 1 Cor. 7:15-16) via marriage to another man.
---Leon on 8/4/14


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