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Should single Christians date or court instead? What's the difference?

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The actual Biblical way is for the families involved (maybe with the help of a matchmaker) to arrange the marriages of their children.

Glory to Jesus Christ!

---Cluny on 9/1/15


That statement could be a bit misleading, depending on what you mean by "biblical". If you merely mean that this practice is recorded in the Bible, well then I agree. But when most people think of the word "biblical", they think "Bible ordained". In that sense, your statement is incorrect. There is no scripture that suggests this is how marriages ought to be, only that this practice did occur in the Bible. Of course, there are a lot of things that happened in the Bible that was not ordained by God.
---Jed on 9/9/15


Should single Christians date or court instead? What's the difference?- Leon

I am not trying to be smart, but I thought they were the same.

The only difference is the age of the person saying the process.

60 years old and older say courting.

35 to 60 years old say dating.

I believe under 35 it is called 'going out'.

I am 43 and my 27 years old niece told me they don't use the word 'dating' anymore.

But, date/courting the answer is YES.
I just think each couple should know how far they can go.
Kissing? Dating only during the day? Holding hands?

KNOW THY SELF.
---Nicole_Lacey on 9/6/15


The actual Biblical way is for the families involved (maybe with the help of a matchmaker) to arrange the marriages of their children.
---Cluny on 9/1/15

A good custom keeping Israel with Israel. America used to honor this with their laws. Are not all created special...specific. Would you meld that which GOD separated.
Kind with Kind. Practicing Jews still do this.
Deu 7:3 Neither shalt thou make marriages with them, thy daughter thou shalt not give unto his son, nor his daughter shalt thou take unto thy son.
Deu 7:4 For they will turn away thy son from following me, that they may serve other gods: so will the anger of the LORD be kindled against you, and destroy thee suddenly.
---Trav on 9/2/15


The actual Biblical way is for the families involved (maybe with the help of a matchmaker) to arrange the marriages of their children.

Glory to Jesus Christ!
---Cluny on 9/1/15


Jed: I have no problem with your conclusions when I consider the source. That you would call me confused is rather amusing. :)
---Leon on 4/17/15




Leon. Why are you attacking me? I'm just trying to answer you're question and have a nice conversation and get on the same page with you. You dont have to be hostile. I will say though that I have returned to my original conclusion, that you are confused about what "dating" actually means.
---Jed on 4/16/15


Jed: No doubt that's a conclusion from a convoluted conversation you've had, in Wonderland, with the Mad Hatter at one of his tea parties. :) (Cheshire smile)
---Leon on 4/15/15


Leon, I have made clear that dating and courting are two separate things. Courting is like dating, but with the intent to secure a spouse rather than just filling immediate emotional and physical needs.

It seems you are confusing a dating relationship with the act of going on a date. Going on a date with someone is not the same thing as "dating" someone, as in being in a dating relationship with someone. Married people can go on a date, but they are not in a dating relationship. They are in a marriage. Courting couples also go on dates, but their relationship is different than a dating relationship. It is a courtship.
---Jed on 4/15/15


...There is no godly purpose for a single Christian to date, unless it is to find a spouse, which is what courting is.
---Jed on 4/14/15



Huh?! I'm wide awake Jed! You're tricky bud. :/ Obviously, you are "subtly" saying dating & courting are the same thing. I would never agree with your slight of word (spin) statement.

Married people date intimately/passionately. Singles should court cautiously/with limitations. That's my stand as pertains to my original blog questions.
---Leon on 4/15/15


Leon, perhaps I misunderstood your earlier post. Initially, I thought you were saying that courting was the more casual act and that dating was the serious relationship. But after reading your last post it seems to me we are on the same page.

To answer the question, unmarried Christians should court rather than date. There is no godly purpose for a single Christian to date, unless it is to find a spouse, which is what courting is.
---Jed on 4/14/15




"Couples that are in a courtship are more likely to refrain from premarital relations as the relationship is more about the future goal of marriage. It is generally understood that most people who casually "date" engage in premarital fornication as the relationship serves no other purpose than to satisfy the present.
---Jed on 4/7/15


Jed: So, let's go back to the original question, "should single Christians date or court instead". You've correctly stated "singles" who date usually do so solely for physical intimacy/pleasure that frequently leads to fornication. Unwittingly, you've made my point. If you have single children, should they date or court?
---Leon on 4/14/15


Couples that are in a courtship are more likely to refrain from premarital relations as the relationship is more about the future goal of marriage. It is generally understood that most people who casually "date" engage in premarital fornication as the relationship serves no other purpose than to satisfy the present.
---Jed on 4/7/15


First of all, yes, there is a distinct difference between dating and courting. But they are opposite of how Leon defined them. Dating is the more casual act, although it more often involves physical intimacy. In dating, marriage is not necessarily the intended outcome of the relationship. Dating is intended to satisfy the present need for companionship, not the long term future. Courting is similar to dating, but with the intention of securing a spouse. When a couple is said to be "courting", it is generally understand that they are not together for the mere enjoyment of the present relationship (as is the case with dating), but with marriage in mind.
---Jed on 4/7/15


Rita: It is unfortunate you've run into a dead end on Stalemate Court whereas many of us are yet making forward progress on Understanding Highway. Bye! :)
---Leon on 4/6/15


Leon, you must be from a place where words have very different meanings from the meanings which most of us understand so I guess it's stalemate on this question. There is nowhere else to go with it.
---Rita_H on 4/6/15


Just for the record, as I've previously stated, "courting" is an activity for singles. Married people don't court. Married people intimately date.

If you're married & aren't regularly dating your spouse, you're "courting" disaster. Likewise, if singles are dating, without being held accountable to sexual intimacy limitations, they're also "courting" disaster.
---Leon on 4/2/15


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In "From the translators to the reader", the introduction to the KJV of 1611, is asked the question, "Has the Kingdom of God now become words and syllables?"

Apparently with some people, it has become at least words.

Glory to Jesus Christ!
---Cluny on 3/28/15


Leon, yes I am married with a larger than average family of children and grandchildren (and siblings, nieces and nephews).

Nowhere have I said that sexual morality had become outdated and NEVER have I heard a married couple say that they were 'courting'.

My answer was regarding the use of the words 'court' and 'date'. Here in the U.K. they mean exactly the same thing (except that courting sounds old fashioned these days) but that must not be so where you live. Other than that I have no more to say on the subject because we, obviously, use language differently from each other.
---Rita_H on 3/28/15


Rita: You obviously don't understand. Are you married or have you ever been married? Obviously, you seem to think what I've outlined is old fashioned & outdated. Since when did sexual morality become outdated? Courting is a custom that has been practiced in many 20th as well as 21st century ethnic groups. Dating outside of marriage leads to promiscuity. I know you won't take my word for it. At least be honest enough to look at modern society dating, which is actually "anything goes sexual baiting", that often leads to unwanted pregnancies & contributes to the spread STDs.
---Leon on 3/26/15


Leon - "Courting, unlike dating, is done with one or more of the female's family members present, at all times, to guard against impropriety." That would have been true in 19th century Britain and is NOW in Muslim countries.

"Dating is the intimately, no holds barred, personal mating activities & ritual that should be performed by married people only (publicly or PRIVATELY)." NO, what you describe IS marriage or the behaviour of people who never intend to marry anyway.

Dating is keeping a 'date' with a member of the opposite sex/spending time together to see if there is the likelihood of the two becoming a married couple - unless vocabulary, where you are, is totally different from where I am.
---Rita_H on 3/26/15


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Cliff: Whatever God forbids comes with dire consequences (e.g., short term or life long sexually transmitted diseases to include the life threatening kind & unintended pregnancy) for those who disobey. Depending upon the situation, yes, it can be "game over" ~ happy life destroyed.
---Leon on 3/25/15


Leon, The 10 commandments were written as "must not" without stating penalties including #7.
We know that it isn't an "acceptable practice", but if it happens...then what?
Is it ..game over?
---1stcliff on 3/25/15


Leon, I had a post to answer you but it did not pass censor ,Oh well !
---1stcliff on 3/25/15


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TROLLS (TARES) BEWARE: God is watching you...
---Leon on 3/25/15


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My on-line dictionary defines "courship" and "dating" in similar terms.

Leon is the only one I've heard of who links dating with intimate physical behavior.

Glory to Jesus Christ!
---Cluny on 3/25/15


\\Poor Cluny! You can't handle the truth, can ya? :)
\\

Of course, it has not been sufficiently demonstrated that truth comes from you.

Glory to Jesus Christ!
---Cluny on 3/24/15


As I'm sure you know Cliff, fornication isn't an acceptable practice within Christianity. Such activity is a formula for disaster on many levels. How do you equate sexual immorality to courting and/or dating?
---Leon on 3/24/15


1st Cliff, I wonder what that particular pastor meant by 'sow his wild oats'?
---Rita_H on 3/24/15


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A Mennonite Pastor once told me that they turn a blind eye to young people "snuggling" and that a boy should sow his wild oats 'till he's 30 ,then settle down to be a devout Mennonite !
---1stcliff on 3/23/15


Poor Cluny! You can't handle the truth, can ya? :)

You're such a nasty lil' cuss, "Glory to Jesus Christ?" Nope, not coming from you!

If you don't like the question, keep it moving. You won't be missed. As it is, you add your two cents to more blogs than anyone else on CN. You seem to think you're some great font of wisdom. Get over yourself. You're not all that!
---Leon on 3/23/15


\\Dating is the intimately, no holds barred, personal mating activities & ritual that should be performed by married people only (publicly or PRIVATELY).\\

Did I say that dating and physical intimacy were intrinsically connected?

And if you don't like the answer you get, don't ask the question.

Glory to Jesus Christ!
---Cluny on 3/23/15


They're as different as day & night Cluny, contrary to what secular society practices:

Courting may lead to dating. It's the initial, public exploration of the possibility of a potential relationship with another person. It's the "I'm interested in you. Are you interested in me?" stage limited to flirtatious gestures meant to gain attention & favor of a potential mate. Courting, unlike dating, is done with one or more of the female's family members present, at all times, to guard against impropriety.

Dating is the intimately, no holds barred, personal mating activities & ritual that should be performed by married people only (publicly or PRIVATELY).

Book of Ruth Cluny...
---Leon on 3/23/15


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There is no difference between dating and courting. They are two different names for keeping company and getting to know each other to see if marriage is a possibility.

Glory to Jesus Christ!
---Cluny on 3/23/15


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