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Recently Divorced Brother

A certain recently divorced Brother who was living in adultery for having been the one to stray from the marriage bed when he got saved came under the conviction that he should marry his new partner instead of leave and belong only to Jesus. What would you say to this man?

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It is a done deal! So what is the issue? They have already married. It is already done. Was sin involved? Sin is always involved. Sounds like the woman at the well to me. It has already happened. Was it adultery? Yes! However, marrying the woman is a lesser evil after the adultery already occur. As such, David married Bathsheba. After committing adultery and orchestrating the death of her husband, David married the woman that he had committed adultery with. He did the right thing! And this man (COUPLE) too after all the law breaking decide to do the right thing. Hopefully they will continue to live in covenant. None are righteous, no, not one.
---mike4879 on 2/16/17


God does work in mysterious ways, and the final chapter may not be evident yet. What I would suggest first for this man is, #1, he needs to go to his first wife and ask her forgivness. She may not give it, but he still needs to do that. Secondly, he needs to go to his second wife and also ask her forgivness, that is, living in sin with her for years after he was saved. Often people think because they got saved we don't need to reconcile with those we hurt before we were saved. People do divorce and remarry. And unsaved folks do not hold to the same standards Christians do. NOW that he is saved, he needs to humble himself before both these women if he wants the Lord to bless his life now.
---kathr4453 on 2/16/17


And it's all okay 'cuz it's not covenant adultery. ---Nicole_Lacey on 2/15/17

I am not saying that his pre-covenant adultery and abandonment isn't terrible, but no one is held to covenant standards if they are not in covenant with Jesus. Yet, those not in covenant will answer to the Law.
---aservant on 2/15/17


he got saved came under the conviction that he should marry his new partner . . . What would you say to this man?---Pharisee on 2/12/17

2. If she was married before he became a Christian, her adultery with him was not covenantal adultery.

If she divorced after He was saved, and he has married her, BOTH he and she has committed adultery.

If she had never divorced, is single and he has married her, after he was saved, he has NOT committed covenantal adultery.

Saved men are not permitted to marry divorced women, if that woman was the guilty party causing her divorce.
---aservant on 2/15/17


I directed this fellow to read this blog and so I'm giving a proper chronology of events so the best understanding can be given to the responders:

1. Left wife
2. Dated several months (different women)
3. Met and had phone relationship to current wife/partner
4. Signed divorce papers the same day he left to be in her house
5. 2 years after was saved
6. lived together for four years & she got saved
7. married
---Pharisee on 2/15/17




//How convenient! He divorced, then promptly got saved, then promptly gets to marry the woman that helped to break up his marriage. And it's all okay 'cuz it's not covenant adultery. Yet, really when did this brother first believe on Christ Jesus?---mike4879

No worry, God isn't stupid.

It might be the sin of presumption
---Nicole_Lacey on 2/15/17


How convenient! He divorced, then promptly got saved, then promptly gets to marry the woman that helped to break up his marriage. And it's all okay 'cuz it's not covenant adultery. Yet, really when did this brother first believe on Christ Jesus? It smells like the born again and again gospel.
---mike4879 on 2/15/17


he got saved came under the conviction that he should marry his new partner . . . What would you say to this man?---Pharisee on 2/12/17

Depends.

Scripture does not take into account any sin before he became saved, because Scripture pertains to covenant. He was not in covenant with Jesus until after he was saved.

1. If he married his partner BEFORE he became a Christian, he has not committed covenantal adultery.

If He was saved, and then married her, he has committed adultery. Mt 5:27-32, 19:9, Mk 10:11-12, God would not have convicted him to marry her.
---aservant on 2/14/17


Really what can one say? Any confrontation is regarded as double standards and hypocrisy these days. John 3:16 is less popular than Judge not lest ye be judged yourself. That leaves No,one is righteous. NO, NOT ONE. You can show him all sorts of verses but they won't mean anything to him. Yet, the verse to show him may be one that says he will be HAPPIER to remain UNMARRIED.
---mike4879 on 2/12/17


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