Arguing Rules in Marriage
"Do all things without complaining and disputing," (in Philippians 2:13-16)
"submitting to one another in the fear of God." (Ephesians 5:21)
"swift to hear, slow to speak, slow to wrath" (in James 1:19-20)
"He who answers a matter before he hears it,
. It is folly and shame to him."
. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . (Proverbs 18:13)
"Husbands, love your wives and do not be bitter toward them." (Colossians 3:19)
Ask her why she has done something (c: Be ready for a compassionate and caring answer, versus how I a guy might be mainly practical.
---Bill on 4/17/17|
My understanding from men in 20 years or more marriages: the answer is always "Yes dear."
---Nicole_Lacey on 4/15/17|
cluny states, "Rules from whom or where? There are certainly none in the Bible."
Ever read Eph 4:22-32??
Ever read 1 Cor 13:1-8??
---john9346 on 4/11/17|
Rules from whom or where? There are certainly none in the Bible.
But may I suggest discussing only ONE issue at a time, Do not deflect (You say that I do so and so, but you do such and such!). Stick to the point.
AT the end, bow down to each other and ask each other for forgiveness.
This is how disputes are regularly resolved in monasteries. It's worked for hundreds of years.
Glory to Jesus Christ!
---Cluny on 4/10/17|
Are there rules for arguing in a marriage?
---Joe_Hernandez on 4/9/17
My wife and I use the following guidelines:
1. Either person can call a moratorium and resume at another time.
2. Either person can ask for a Meeting of Two. During the Meeting of Two, each person may speak up 5 minutes without interruption by the other person.
3. We use the word "I" and talk about your own feelings.
4. No taking the other persons inventory.
---Mark_Eaton on 4/10/17|
There is,however, skills for learning how to resolve conflict.
Check out focus on the family website to help you.
---john9346 on 4/9/17|
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