Inter-Racial Dating or Marriage
When it comes to dating or marriage some believers are racists-black would prefer black while white prefers white. Although Abraham instructed his servant to get wife for his son from his lineage, is it ok to discrimate on this grounds? Max.uK
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---Maxwell on 4/8/05
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racism is alive and well in christians too
all relationships have problems, Christians should find some adversity may strenghten their relationship.
bias against races has no place in a christian church or a christian home. Or any home.....
---Andrea on 10/2/07|
BIBLE YES " Knowing that whatsoever good thing any man doeth, the same shall he receive of the Lord, whether he be bond or free" (Eph .6 : 8 KJ V ) .
EGW NO "God cannot take the slave to heaven. He lets him be as though he had not been"(GC 193 , l958 ed., EW 276)
---Andrea on 10/3/07|
From my part, I do not see it as a racist point, but a cultural point. I have seen many mariages having difficulties to get along together in long terms because of cultural differences. I know that we should love and respect one another, but on some issues or subjects, it is very difficult to find one direction to follow that satisfies both partners. It is every one's choice.
---Gabrielle on 10/2/07|
Jesus Christ died for all mankind,therefore we are to love one another regardless of the color of our skins.There are lots of believers that have intermarried and lead a happy life.Jesus did not discriminate while on earth,so we should follow His example.lucy7693.
---Lucy on 3/16/07|
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---susanna on 11/8/05|
hey so far the interracial opinions, remarks and scriptures have not even mentioned "in Christ there is neither ...Greek or Jew" In context it is refering to equality among all in God's eyes. My opinion is this it's hard enough to find some one to love and who loves you. If it happens more power to the interracial couple. Love conquers all. But they must know if they can the different families, and backgrounds, the public opinion and being frowned upon by some. I personally have no problem with it. But there are alot of factors in the mix if you get my pun, I mean drift.
---Kathy3339 on 5/3/05|
I have a dilema, I have met a man who I am seriously attracted to and really enjoy being with. I am white, he is black. I have prayed and have yet to hear God's answer on this. I have asked for His guidance in this matter. Humans have all kinds of opinions on this issue, I am looking for scripture with some relevance to this issue. I will be asking my minister on Sunday, just thought I would throw this out there! I don't have a clue, however I know how I feel when I am around this person and how I think about him when I am not.
---kathy6598 on 4/29/05|
my name on here is gabra7937. i am a white guy, currently engaged to a half-black girl. i believe i am in God's will, and anyone willing to prove me wrong is welcome to try, provided you have scripture. God only sees two kinds of people: sinners lost in sin, and sinners saved by grace. why can't we see things the same way?
---gabriel on 4/29/05|
Julie ... if someone has an honest question or worry, it is valid to ask it and valid to discuss it.
---Alan_of_U.K. on 4/23/05|
How about this? Moses took a wife from Cush, believed to be a black woman, which would make it an interracial marriage. His sister Miriam muttered against it, and God gave her a dose of leprosy to make her behave herself.
In another situation, Jesus told one of the disciples, "what's it to you? You follow me!"
I think if you are have your eyes and heart fixed on God, following your heart is a good thing to do and if that leads to an interracial marriage, What's it to anyone else?
Now quit fussing, that is not what we are here for.
---Julie on 4/20/05|
Elder ... yes I agree, but were the slavers of a few centuries ago sinning? ... they were following what they thought was acceptable, and in fact Jesus did not condemn slavery (although I am sure he would have condemned the way in which slaves were treated, whilst in transit, and in the American fields)
I wonder what things we innocently tolerate now, which our descendants will have revealed to them as sins?
---Alan_of_U.K. on 4/20/05|
Alan thanks for contributing in this matter.
It doesn't matter how people act towards God and His Word it still never changes.
If something has changed it is because it changed from error to truth or from truth to error. That never changes the fact that God's Word is true all the time.
If an issue is wrong it is not because God is wrong. When we discover that we are living in error because Grandpa did it is time to move on to a higher calling no matter what tradition says or dictates.
---Elder on 4/20/05|
Elder ... I THINK that Randy thinks inter-racial marriage is OK. It's the way he says that he is no raving liberal, makes me think he is saying that although no liberal, he agrees that interracial marriage is OK
But he raises an interesting point ... that so many things in the past were OK for Christians and are now bad ... one can understand people asking how can we claim God is unchanging?
---Alan_of_U.K. on 4/19/05|
Randy ... Elder is right ... he did not suggest yuo hang youself because you disagreed with him, or for any reason at all.
He said that just as you had said that there was claimed to be scripture in support of a ban on mixed marriages, so he could find scripture that could be claimed to say that you should go and hang yourself.
---Alan_of_U.K. on 4/19/05|
Randy let's get to where the "Rubber meets the Road." (That's an old tire slogan for you youngsters.)
You have done much talking yet not stated your position and/or belief. So what is it?
Is "interracial marriage" right or wrong for today.
I lived yesterday, yesterday but am not living yesterday today.
People plainly know my position so what's yours?
---Elder on 4/19/05|
am one guy who wants any race from any where any time any day, just message ogoka7676 on christianet.com i love people so much as far as they are Gods creation.
---Don on 4/19/05|
Elder your previous blog said that you had scripture that would show me that I should hang myself. And again you make my point. Conservative Christianity once was vehemently against interracial marriage and now according to this blog it is OK. God is always the same, what people believe changes with the times. You are right you cant have it both ways and I see that what you are trying to live by the law and by grace.
---randy on 4/19/05|
Randy either "interracial marriage" has always been right or wrong. So which is it?You can't have it both ways.
I served with the US Air Force, Army, Army Reserves, Army National Guard, Air National Guard, State Defence Force and the Marine Corp. I served in each of them. I know the score of service. I served in Viet Nam and other combat zones that most don't know of.
I said all that to say this, We have an honorable man serving as Commander-in-Chief who served his country properly in the National Guard.
---Elder on 4/18/05|
The National Guard was my hardest duty.
No one called you a liberal or asked you to hang yourself. I hope you pay closer attention and stay on the subject when dealing with the public trust than you have shown here otherwise there will be a lot of innocent people in jail.
---Elder on 4/18/05|
Elder, you make my point eloquently. Sixty years ago conservative Christians were vehemently against inter-racial marriage. What was once liberal the conservatives now embrace. Just look at the issues of slavery, womens suffrage, school integration, and the list goes on. Now the paradigm has changed but Gods truth has not. And why should I hang myself, just because I disagree with you? Bless you in your journey. BTW I served my country honorably during Viet Nam (unlike our commander and chief) and have been in law enforcement for 26 years, so you cant really consider me a screaming liberal.
---randy on 4/18/05|
Randy I can give you Scripture reference that will say you should go and hang yourself today. That doesn't make it right though.
When did anyone become liberal for proclaiming the truth?
I bet if we pull your dipstick we would find that not all your oil came from the same can either.
By the way in some places it is illegal to leave your horse tied over night on the street and the Lamp Lighter is to start work at dusk.
---Elder on 4/15/05|
It is funny how liberal everyone is now days on this issue. It was less that sixty years ago that it was against the law in many states in the US for mixed race marriage. The public overwhelmingly supported the ban. Scripture was sited for the ban. What would it do to marriage and what would it do to the children. An activist supreme court overturned the ban. All of these reasons why there should not be mixed race marriages sound familiar these days. Different issue same excuses. BTW interacial marriage laws are still on the books in some southern states.
---randy on 4/15/05|
It is I suppose likely that the person we develop these closer ties with ... leading towards marriage ... will be someone with common bonds. Some of these bonds are ... faith, background, education, race, interests, height & weight, age.
I do not think someone who marries the same race is a racist, any more than one who marries someone of the same education is an intellectual elitist.
---Alan_of_U.K. on 4/14/05|
I think we have to reckognise that "falling in love" is an emotional thing, not a rationalised considered action.
We do not have a specificaion of the person we are prepared to fall in love with, so there can be no question of honestly saying "I will leave race ot of the equation", since there is no equation anyway.
What happens is you meet someone and on getting to know them ,it gradually leads to closer friendship ...
---Alan_of_U.K. on 4/14/05|
No is the answer. I see that many have responded very possitively and shown the true love of God in their answer. Let God choose whom He may to do His good works. Remember "what God hath put together let no man put asunder". My prayers.
---Blue on 4/14/05|
I'm European and I married an Asian woman. Two different cultures altogether but we get along EXTREMELY well and have zillions of things in common.
It's not the race but it's the compatibility that we should give more importance to.
---Albert on 4/14/05|
I could and would fall in love with and marry a man from any sector of the human race. For we wrestle not against flesh and blood...God is love, and through his love, he has given me liberty-I am free to do what I will as long as I do not sin! Amen and Amen
---Crystal on 4/11/05|
i feel as long as its OK with people i dont think it should be an issue at all
---robin on 4/11/05|
Interracial marriage, will continue to be a sore point in peoples lives until we see as God sees us as individuals with the capacity to love unconditionally, LOVE knows no boundary , no colour , Paul said that we should not be unequally yoke, he said what fellowship hath light with darkness,that is simple two cannot walk except they agree this has nothing to do with the colour of one's skin,I am an open person willing to fall in love with anyone of any colour I am also black ,my feeling and my mind sees more I see people who the blood of Christ was shed for.veronica.
---veronica on 4/10/05|
A person's skin color should not make a difference. What should be considered is compatibility in the areas of culture, values, morals, and spirituality. Some people date interracially out of curiousity or because it is believed to be taboo. These relationships always end in failure. Be true to yourself and to the one you love, only then can you be sure that they are the one for you. We are all equal in the Lord's eyes. God made cultural and racial diversity, not to separate us, but to allow us to learn to love as He does, unconditionally. Take heed and practice what you preach.
---Dee on 4/10/05|
HI..I am a white man. THere have been many black woman that i would have considered for a wife. But I didnt cause they;re black. ANd as such created what i felt was not only an unfair decision but a decision that i didn't have the right to make... Making a decision for kids of generations to come. I am now 47 and not looking to creating more kids, so i wouldn't preclude a woman of color for marraige. AGain i must make it clear this was the ONLY reason that i did.
---Jim on 4/10/05|
I know that christians do discriminate, when I meet lots of people online, the minute they find out I am black the conversation ends. When I see people's skin, I see an awesome GOd of variety who has great taste to create such diversity. Right now I am single, I am an ambitious person who has excelled and has great qualities, but who will know cause even my own blacks discriminate against me. I pray that one day someone will look beyong my face and see a Godly heart. I do agree that culture will prevent people from getting along, but that should be the deterent in marriage,notcolour.
---Jay on 4/9/05|
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Jerry ... in the UK at least, there is welcome and increasing acceptance of children with racially mixed parents.
We are of course talking of Christian marrying Christian. Mixture of faith leads either to denial of one faith or loss of both.
I love what Elder has said ... as usual he points to a huge Truth. (Note the capital T Elder!)
---Alan_of_U.K. on 4/9/05|
Miriam criticized Moses for marrying an Ethiopian woman. God subsequently made her a leper. (Num 12:1-10) I don't think I'll speak out against interracial marriage. There is generally a social price to pay, however, especially for the children of such marriages.
---Jerry on 4/8/05|
'Here there is no Greek or Jew, circumsized or uncircumsized, barbarian, slave or free, but Christ is all, and in all.' (Col 3:11)
---gregg on 4/8/05|
Yo! Bubba, Lookie here bro., when I was sick I received 17 pints of blood I can marry anyone I want to.
Sometimes I get the shakes, sometimes the Elvis shimmy then I want to relax in the porch swing with a glass of lemonade after that I gets ta Break Dancing.
I found out ya don't care who's blood you get when ya need it.
Don't marry outside your race though...kinda try to keep it all Human........understand?
---Elder on 4/8/05|
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I'm a white male living in a southern community where history has created distrust, but have been blessed by friendships in the black community as close as family. I firmly believe we should base our relationships on things we have or have not in common, not by color. Customs and culture can make it difficult to relate in a relationship, but is not necessarily a prejudice.
I think Abraham wanted his son to have a wife from his linage for reasons of custom and culture, like parents from a Christian culture would want their children to marry others of their faith and ethics.
---Leigh on 4/8/05|
You seem to be suggesting that it is racist to marry someone of your own race!
But no one can stop a person falling in love, and who is to say that falling in love with someone of your own race is wrong.
---Alan_of_U.K. on 4/8/05|
This has been a frequent question on the 'old' Forum.
God seems to like variety, from snow white to deep black and all in between. But underneath we're all the same. There is no shame in marrying outside your race, cultural differences can be learned and appreciated. I am in the US and have dated Filipino, Greek, and African Americans. I don't see a problem.
---Kathay on 4/8/05|
This can sometimes be a difficult subject. As an African American woman I will not speak for all African Americans as I will only speak for myself. The only time I have a problem with people who date outside of their own culture is when they feel like people in their own culture don't measure up, or lack something. We all come in different packages with different standards and levels of education. Tall, short, fat, skinny, long hair, short hair, pretty, average ect..... I think you get my point!
---Adrienne on 4/8/05|
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It's about time someone had the nerve to touch this subject about racism among some believers when it comes to marriage. I have spoken out against such to no avail God created us All. We are all Human Race none is Superior above another God does not discriminate,"Why" should we? We need to examine our hearts. Ask for forgiveness.
---cody1084 on 4/8/05|