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Jealous I Am Close To Husband

My best friend got married last year to a woman that had a sad childhood. I tried to be her friend but she hasn't treated me nice at all; she has no close female friends and gets jealous that I am close to her husband. How do I deal with this?

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 ---ed on 4/16/05
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I know it might be hard, but for the sake of your friendship with her husband, you just have to keep treating her with love and kindness. I believe in time, she will come to trust you and accept you. Maybe you could also invite her to do things with you and her husband. Like, play a card or board game (at her house, where she feels safe.)All three of you could go to a state park, walk some trails, you know things like that. I know it sounds cheesy, but you have to show her you're not the enemy. I hope this made sense, I tend to ramble.
---Becky_S on 7/5/07

1 Cor.13; Love suffers long and is kind; love does not envy; love does not seek its own, is not provoked, thinks no evil; does not rejoice in iniquity, but rejoices in the truth; bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things." love covers a multitude of sins.
---Barbara on 3/8/07

If you a girl, I believe his wife has a right not to have you close to him. Though his is your friend that will never change but her jealousy might cause them to break up. You would not want that to happen if you really love someone. Love is to care for the other without nothing in return. Keep your space. Maybe God wants you to pray for her and their happyness.
---lupe2619 on 5/8/05

Hi Ed,it seems as though this lady has some serious issues of insecurity and perhaps wants to control her husband rather than love him.It also sounds like she needs to grow up a bit,she needs help bad.If she won't get help,then maybe her husband could get some help in understanding and dealing with her for his own good.May god help them.
---RUSSELL on 4/24/05

I have NEVER spent time alone with her, and would never do that.
---ed on 4/23/05

If this man tells you personnal things about his relationship with his wife, he is endengering their marriage and so do you. It's dangerous to spend time alone with someone of the opposite sex when that person isn't YOUR spouse. That man needs to pray more WITH his wife, not ABOUT her...
---Cathy on 4/22/05

She obviously has many underlying issues because of what she has been through, but only she can make the step to recovery. There is power in prayer however, and where two or more are gathered God is in their midst. Next time your friend needs to vent, respond with "Let's pray about it." Turn those venting sessions into intercessory prayer for the wife and their marriage. It's absolutely amazing the things God can accomplish in one's heart! Stand on that truth and pray without ceasing.
---Katie on 4/22/05

1corinthians 13 on unconditional love, i can understand that...he has to pray for the strength in Jesus to be there and encourage her to help her grow. he cant save her and she probably does need to hear that..Love is patient, love is kind and endures forever. not saying its easy but all things ARE possible in Christ Jesus <><
---monique on 4/21/05

Well, it isn't that simple; well over a year into their marriage, he is telling me that he has to tell his wife constantly that he loves her - I mean at least 20-30 times in a day. Else, he says she cries out that he "doesn't love her". By nature, he is a shy kind of person and even though he tells her often how much he loves her, it is never enough. Where does it end? She refuses marriage counseling, so he has to vent to someone. So he tells me and I'm there for him.
---ed on 4/18/05

Just like a mother has to cut her apron strings; You must do the same with your friend. A mom has to realize that the children she loves so much have to be happy on their own; you must realize that a man must cleave to his wife and be one flesh(no matter what kind of a childhood she had). Marriage is very important;and they need to grow in their relationship. When the time is ripe, you'll be there. Be patient,wise and I'm sure that you have other friends that you can appreciate, also.
---Eloisa on 4/18/05

pray about it and listen to the wisdom of the Heavenly Father and not man...your friendship is not more important than their marriage, dont come between them. encourage your friend on his marriage in Christ.
---wayne on 4/16/05

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