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It Affects All My Relationships

How do I change. I have always been down on myself, and it affects any relationship I have. I hate being this way.

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 ---lorie on 4/20/05
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The problem is something that happened long ago with somebody very close to you that you admired a lot, they were down on you and it stuck with you. Try to remember who that was, maybe your father or mother, brother or sister and take the charge out of their words.
---gregg on 5/17/07

"God doesn't make junk". This is the first thing you must realize. When was the last time you had a complete physical? (It could be a harmonal problem or a nutritional imbalance.) What about your early childhood - did your parents expect you to do more than you could, and put you down when you couldn't rather than encourage you. Is is an attention getter? Focus on what you can do and don't concern yourselt with what you can't do. (You might write these positive things down.)
---WIVV on 4/11/06

I am so grateful to all you Brothers and Sisters in Christ who help us when we have our down days. Lorie dear, be with Jesus, stay in the living power of the Word and discover what a wonderful God we serve! He loves us so much He gave His Son to die for us. He let us come to this earth to bless others in His name. Walk with Jesus, love Him with every ounce of your being. He wants us to rest in the palm of His hand. Just think, this is the very Creator of our universe! He knows everything that is happening to us as well as every hair on our head. Isn't that awesome?
---Elsie on 5/6/05

Lorie Get into the Word of God Read what He says about you speak it out loud memorize those verses that speak life to us When satan comes in like a roaring lion looking whom to devour you can say it is written God says this about me Then speak those life giving verses.You are special in His sight You are the apple of His eye He is concerned about everything that concerns you He called you by name before the foundation of the world Did you know that?He loves you with an everlasting love Look to the Word of God to know how very special you really are to God shear3487
---shearon on 5/3/05

start thinking positive..negativeness is something I had to overcome as well, I had a low esteem of myself and I was my worst enemy...when you make your self down its JUST THAT..."YOU" are making yourself down with negative thoughts...when you get them...say .."NO, that is negative, NO, I wont think negative anymore." then praise the Lord afterwards. satan backs off from praise, so do it alot. its just a demon he sends out to haunt us. negative you want it ? rebuke it. works. I should know, as long as you nurse it daily it wont go away. .........Jan4876
---Jan on 4/29/05

Oh my dear,i feel for you.I take particular note of the phrase "always down".It seems not to be an occassional kind of depression but a consistent occurence.You need to check whether the kind of life you live is at cross with your values.If,so then you will probably always have inner conflicts and unhappiness.You also need to learn to forget yourself and desire to add smile to other people's face.Try these and you will be surprised the amount of joy you would experience.Just forget about yourself and think of others.Sow joy,and you will reap a lot of it!
---ThankGod on 4/26/05

One thing to take note of and always remember is that you were made in the image of God. Although we were created in His image we are not perfect but God loved us so much that He shed His blood to redeem us. So, that alone should help us realize how valuable and worthy we are. It is sad when people can put us down etc. but we are all extremely valuable to God and to each other. So, you are okay, for sure.
---Dennis_Z. on 4/25/05

You are NOT ALONE in your feelings. Even Bible giants have felt discouraged. Look at DAVID's discouragement for instance: (Ps.6:6-7/40:12,88) In his discouraging moments he discovered that: God does not forsake us when we are down! Ps.16:5-11/139:7-17), also that trust (faith = youve got to believe!) leads us to rejpice even in difficult times, also that God is in complete control even in trying moments (Ps 118:6-8.14,17). Finally, praising and giving Him thanks even in tough times will cure us from our discouragement.(Ps.118:1; 113:3; 71:1-3,8,24 and 59:16.) So keep your chin up!
---Pierre on 4/25/05

If you have accepted Christ as your savior you have the Holy Spirit in you,why would you be down on yourself when God sent his son to pay for your sins?.you have been made rightous by the blood of Christ,he accepted you,now you accept you.Don't compare yourself with others around you,God loves you,and so do your brothers and sisters in Christ.
---RUSSELL on 4/24/05

You start believing the truth about yourself and learn how God sees you. Freedom In Christ ministries has a terrific website with a list of statements called "Who I am in Christ." Copy it, print it, say it to yourself everyday. Believe it.
---Madison on 4/20/05

please get counseling at your church. they can help you. there's no need to suffer alone.
---curt on 4/20/05

Dear Lori, Please don't beat yourself up! I used to do the same thing until I learned to trust Jesus. He made a change in me when I couldn't. He even said it in His word..." apart from Me you can do nothing."...NIV. YOU are fearfully and wonderfully made, God loves you and I love you. God bless you abundantly!
---John on 4/20/05

It is hard at times to love ourselves.Confess any unforgivness or uglinessyou have inside. Keep reaching out to others and love them, soon it will come back to you. See the good in others and tell them....We are supose to acknowlede the good that is in us. Keep doing what you know to do that is right. Your life will turn around for you. God Bless you.
---Linda on 4/20/05

Lorie, I am sorry that you are feeling this way. It's awful I know. It was critical for me to find out who I was in Christ. I tried lots of other things, but they didn't work any permanent change -only God did that. The Freedom in Christ website has this information. God loves you as you are, but He would also love to show you the REAL YOU - His much loved child.:) If you read that material every day,and the applicable scriptures, changes will come. God bless you and hang in there! This kind of thing takes time to get over it, but you are worth it. God says so! I will keep you in my prayers.
---CarolT on 4/20/05

I am sorry that you feel down. This is normal and to be happy is a goal. Sometimes we reach it, at times it is for others. Remember, you are made in the image of God. He made you unique. There is no other person in God's creation exactly like you. To lift your image of yourself, you must work to accomplish goals you set for yourself. Would be good to have someone who really cares notice other that God. Make the devil real mad-do not let him and his get you down.
---Chuck on 4/20/05

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