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I need encouragement! My wife and I of 21 years have been separated for 2 months. It is my fault because I didn't do my job as spiritual leader of my home and allowed Satan to steal my wife. God turned my world upside down and I have repented. I refuse to give up on reconciliation. Please pray!!

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 ---terry9798 on 5/5/05
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You say it is your fault. We know there are Christian wives who stay home to deal with problems when their husbands are wrong. But SHE chose to LEAVE?

There are sound ladies who have STAYED, to do what they can to HELP make things better when their hubbies have been wrong.

So, this is not all on you, I'd say.
---Bill_bila5659 on 8/22/07

You say you have repented. God knows what this really means, Terry. If you feel you have had so much control of things, that it is YOUR fault she left, this could mean you overestimate how much control you have. And so, "repenting" could be just a way of BOASTING how YOU had such control of her but did not use it.
---Bill_bila5659 on 8/22/07

When I see I have been wrong, and repent, this does not necessarily mean I now am so right and know how to do things right. Also, God may not consider my repentance to be real.

So, I need to submit to God, while You evaluate me. And You will decide if I have really changed the way You know is for real. I myself am not the judge. I need to be tested before You will have me being trusted.
---Bill_bila5659 on 8/22/07

Terry, you are blaming yourself for something that is your wife's responsibility even tho you are the head of the household. God will turn your world upside down, but God will not seperate a family----The devil does that. Pray and get close to the Lord. Have faith He will restore your family. The devil tried to tear my family apart, but I hung in there and prayed until I couldn't sleep. Now, my husband is saved, praise the Lord. Our home is the way it should be now.
---shira_5965 on 8/21/07

i sympathise with your situatin. the first step is to invite God to take control. this is easy for you since you have alreday admitetd that you are on the wrong.
i'll praywithyou
---vero on 3/12/07

Brother,we all make mistakes, no one is perfect; your wife belong to you, let her know that you want to have her back, don't be too proud to ask her forgiveness; trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding.I am praying for you both.
---mary on 5/5/05

Brother, you do have to listen to someone. doing things along does not help. God works through many and uses His church, the body of Christ. We are called to help each other and love each other. God uses His saints for His ministry all over the world with different skills for His purpose. God helped me through many brothers and sisters that He put in my path. Study to be approve and open your heart to His word and He will do the rest. ,
---Lupe on 5/5/05

Gregg,can you explain?
---RUSSELL on 5/5/05

Please listen. Do not take everyones advice about your marriage problem. Trust in the Lord with all thine heart and lean not to thy own understanding, but in ALL thy ways acknowledge Him and HE will direct your path. You should seek HIS advice and trust HIM for reconcillation. After all, he promised that if we delight ourselves in HIM, he will give us the desires of our heart. So if you want His blessings, you must do what he says..
---Van on 5/5/05

God is not the author of confussion,that's the Word of God.When a marriage breaks up confussion is rampant.Satan didn't steal your wife that was her choice.God doesn't override free well and neither can Satan.God also didn't turn your world upside down.Human beings mess up their worlds all by themselves.If need be,forgive youself and go from there,but be aware if you sinned against your wife she may not be willing to forget and take a chance on your changing.Pray God's will be done for your life,his will and yours may not be the same.
---Darlene_1 on 5/5/05

Greg, you are so right. People give credit to the enemy on things we are responsible for. His attribute is not to be everywhere at one time. Only God can. We make things easy for him when we are responsible. When sin is in us we do things and hide them from others. God is waiting for us to repent everything. Time and patience has to grow in us for us to see what God has in store for us. Stop calling her and leave her along. God has to work in her life and yours too. Oh, patience is hard but worth the wait.
---Lupe on 5/5/05

The two become one as stated in Genesis, and the man is the spiritual head of the body. But, sometimes we forget that being the spiritual head also means "giving yourself" for her. Who is more important to you? It should be the Lord first, her second, your children, and then yourself...if that is not the order, work on it. God bless you.
---Lela7444 on 5/5/05

continue: I sure hope that thing work out for you. You mention that the devil stole your wife. That is not correct brother. everyone always blame Satan. Why not blame yourself. Make things right with God and be honest about it. Pray for her and your family. Are you willing to spend the time to make things right? if you are, even if things don't work out you will go on with your life having done the right thing. You cannot change the past but you can the future. God answered my prayers after about a year. your time might be less.
---Lupe on 5/5/05

You have done your job. You repented. That's all that God ask's of us. I will pray for you and your wife. I know how you feel. My husband of almost 32 yrs. walked out on me, and we are divorced now, and have been for almost 2 yrs.... but I will not give up the hope that God has a plan. What ever his will be... will be done. I pray that we will get back together and I have faith and belive that it will happen... just like you need too. God is good and only he know's what is best for us. Give thanks to Jesus every minute of every day and you will be blessed. You are in my prayers.
---Pearl on 5/5/05

Continue: Also brother, you need to give this time. God has to work in your life too and patience is so important. When God puts things together they are perfect. I have seen some get back together and they break up again. Nothing happens unless God allow's it for a reason. Do not give up for God never fails but we do. Give your wife and yourself time. leave her along and don't bother her. That is something we keep doing. Read 1 Corin.13 for that is true love.
---Lupe on 5/5/05

Brother, I went through the same things myself, and when she left it devastated me. I had her as my God in my life. She was on the throne instead of God. God has to be on the throne and not your wife. God never fails, but humans do. Second, remember that she does not think like you or feel what you feel. We cannot make someone see what we see and feel what we feel or we cannot make them love us. They have their own lives and character. Sometimes we want them to forgive us but they have their own way of doing things. God deals with all of us different because of our make.
---Lupe on 5/5/05

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First, why do you give Satan any credit? I guess Satan likes people to give him credit for things he didn't do. Satan is the one who turned your world upside down because of your own assumptions, you assume that you did something wrong; go back, in your mind, to when the trouble started; you are seeing things backwards and upside down. Remember, your wife is your helper and a reflection of you. I pray for your enlightenment.
---gregg4933 on 5/5/05

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