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Everybody Wants Me For Something

I'm in a phase of my life when I am wanted by everyone for something. My husband is in the same boat. We are so spread out that we can't sleep or function properly. How do you all handle these times?

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 ---Cathy_Y on 5/8/05
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"everybody" does not want you and your husband. Learn to say the word, "No" or "No, thanks anyway" or "No, I have other plans".
---Eloy on 7/30/10

Do what you can and then stop..if you have had a full day and are now tired, let that next person who ask of you know that your day is done, and you will try to help them another day.
---a_friend on 7/29/10

Everybody wants me to do things, and I'm exhausted. My husband and my mother, too. I have nine children, and I just can't do it anymore. I don't know why they don't believe me when I say I don't have time for this and that. They seem to think I need time management instruction and don't know what I have time for. I give up. I'm going to rest, and I'm not doing a thing until I feel better. "I don't feel like it" needs to be a good enough reason. I don't feel good about it, but that's part of the problem. I do it or feel guilty.
---Sara on 7/29/10

Cathy, My friend Doug just went through this, a few months ago. He made a decision, put his foot down, and lightened his load. He was honest with the people involved, and told them he had to draw the line and they understood. He said almost the same thing you did. He was becoming less effective at anything he did . It really played on his mind and spirit. He prayed, changed his pace, and is much happier and has more energy. I know at least in a christian enviroment, we can't do it all. That's why we are the body of Christ, we all have our part. The Lord bless you.
---John on 6/12/08

Learn to say NO!! And mean it. Prioritize for yourself not let someone else do it for you. What is really important and necessary. Read the story of Mary and Martha in the bible. You can learn a lot. Blessings
---Robyn on 9/9/07

We all go thru these sorts of things. Sometimes its that way with me. When you retire, you don't have to work anymore so people expect you to do things for them, no matter how tired or what.
---shira_5965 on 9/9/07

I know what you're going through not only am I full-student, but I also am daughter, missionary, children's church worker, am on the women's and youth drama team, and do countless other jobs. Sometimes you can get yourself worn very thin and you just have to know when to say "I'm sorry I can't do that at this time, but maybe in the future I'll be able to help you." God will show you which programs or positions to take on and which to say "no thanks." Listen to Him, He'll direct you.
---Krystal on 5/9/05

Some times we just have to say "NO".And I believe that's ok. God does not want you to burn out. Say NO, and rest in Him.
---shearon on 5/9/05

i have the same prob. as u i live with 6 other adults i am the only one who works they want me to help paybills,do all the chores,come home after & work cook ,constantly want money, my youth choir wants to go on outings 3-5x a week i have a boyfriend, church, i clean my pastors house, i babysit, alot of people want me to do chores for them rake, clean cars etc. my aunt & sister want me to drive 1hr & 15 min. to pick them up & 1 hour & 15 min. back so they can spend the weekend & have to take them back u have to learn to say no sometimes ask God he will let u know what is neccessary
---andre9789 on 5/9/05

You are to be a good stewart of your time as well as your tallents, money etc.

It is God's desire that our marital relationship (second in importance only to our relationship with Him) is healthy. In order to keep it healthy, we have to balance our committments. This involves saying yes but it also invloves saying no. There is nothing wrong with saying no. If the person you are telling no to does not understand or appreciate it, that is their problem not yours. As I always taught my kids, "Don't let their problem be your problem."
---Bruce5656 on 5/9/05

Whether it is our time or our money that we are giving we all have our limits. If you have $1000 to give to charity you can give it all to one or share it out but when it's gone it's gone With time we all have just so much and some of it has to be for ourselves (like the money). It's wonderful to be generous but we all need to learn to say 'no' sometimes. Some people will ask for your time or your money when they don't actually NEED it, they just WANT it, so be discerning.
---Paul_James on 5/9/05

Set boundaries! Pray for the Holy Spirit's guidance. Prioritize your life based on God's desires for you. Concentrate on your love for the Lord and each other, then your children (if you have them) and finally serve others with His relaxed compassion. The Bible says, "Seek ye first the Kingdom of God and His righteousness, then all else will be added to you." When I started doing that, I was set free. You and your hubby will be also!
---Elsie on 5/9/05

You have to prioritize things. God wants us to do good to others, but we should have the wisdom to do the most important things first in the order: God, spouse, kids, church...etc...As Wisdom from the LORd to help you choose which to turn down and which to accept.
---vienn on 5/9/05

Look into your priorities.But please give time to yourself to be able to fill up the vessel that is you. You are in God's Business? The more it is important for you to rest and to look after yourself. How can you be more giving it you have nothing more to give. Ask for a break from your "Boss". It is high time for both of you to take a Vacation.
---linda6546 on 5/9/05

Learn to say "No"; "No, i have other plans"; "No, but thanks for asking anyway"; "No, perhaps another time"; etc.
---Eloy on 5/9/05


Rejoice in the Lord that you are in such high demand! Do not feel sorry for yourselves! You should probably prioratize what you will do and then LEARN TO SAY NO! (graciously), BUT most of all admit it! When it is all said and done, YOU REALLY LOVE IT !!!
---Pierr7958 on 5/9/05

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I handle them by saying 'No'! If you can't take care of yourself by taking time for yourself and rejuvenating, then how can you expect to be of any help to anyone else? You have to say 'No' to some.
---Janet7433 on 5/8/05

Your family is so blessed. You have something that God has given you that others desire - energy, talents, resources, and you care and love your fellow man/family/ organizations. Pray that God help you to get the right priorities of God, Family, self, friends, your church, the community, and your resouces. So often when you give unconditionally, you gain in so many other ways. I hope you do. Cull the selfish requests from your plans and ask God for help in your decisions and giving you time and strength.
---chuck on 5/8/05

Keep in mind that even if they WANT something from you, they don't necessarely NEED you. Direct them towards Christ and pray for them, that's it! Let God show you what you need to do each day and how to reorganize your priorities...
---Cathy on 5/8/05

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