How To Know A Guy Is Trustworthy
How can you be sure that the guy you have been dating though have not met really means what he says and so he is trustworthy? I know prayers is the first answer but what are the next ones? Bye, Mary
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---Mary on 5/22/05
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You know a person by the example he leads and the company he chooses.
Do an online KJV bible search for "one another," "each other," "comfort," and "encourag" because living a christian life is a 24/7 lifestyle not a once a week pep talk dished out by denomianbtional churches.
There is nothing in the world that can take the place of face-to-face meetings with people and getting to know their parents and their friends.
---Steveng on 8/2/10|
It's the same & or even more with the Ladies.
Miss M.E.R. 61, has been married 3 times, her last 2 had mistreated her. I 62, only once married. I've been driving 50 mi's who I had been seeing - dating, & a week from today 7 - 31 - 10 about 1 or 2 oclock in the aft - noon when I talked to her she said that an ole school sweetie came calling. You know how that made me feel. I told her that I wont call for a few days, & for her to call to let me know if she'l be getting with him or what ever. She's Not called. So I'L leave it in the Hands of God.
---Lawrence on 7/31/10|
There are no guarantees in life. You just have to pray and ask the Lord to lead you in the right direction. Then you proceed with caution. Especially in this age we live in now. It is so easy to hide behind a computer screen and lie to another person. Flat out knowing you are insincere. But the liar will be found out. Sooner or later.One thing about insincerity: you can't hide it very well. It shows and quickly. You can do a background check( free or little no cost) Ask indepth questions, agree to meet in an open and safe place as soon as possible. If he/she balks at any of this, beware! These are a few things to do for starters. This goes for young and old who are trying to meet someone.Again--beware!
---Robyn on 7/30/10|
ello i love christ
---Miranda on 11/17/07|
The issue was made about if YOU are sincere > you need to check YOURSELF! We can be so intent on making sure another person will be our way, but NOT so concerned about if we are how God wants.
I'd say get more involved with a variety of Christians, especailly ones who can see through you and help you do better . . . not to put all your eggs in one basket with some one person.
---Bill_bila5659 on 5/4/07|
Ask for the phone number of his parents and siblings. And if he has been married or lived with someone before get their number too. That will tell you everything you want to know and quite likely some things you don't want to know but should. If you get involved in a relationship like this without checking up on the guy first, you are in for a big surprise. You owe it to yourself to be informed.
---john on 5/3/07|
You can only ever get to know a person by meeting them. You just cannot know a person over the internet as you cannot hear the tone of their voice or see them or anything else about them.
---Helen_5378 on 5/3/07|
Hi, Mary > one giveaway is how an untrustworthy person will try to get you to "trust" him without questioning him. NO one is perfect; so I EXPECT people to keep checking on me, ALL THE TIME, to sense in the Holy Spirit how I am at ANY given time, and NOT go along with me while they can tell I'm acting in ego > "God resists the proud" (in James 4:6 and in 1 Peter 5:5 ) > so do the God-ly who have SENSE (Philippians 1:9)!
---Bill_bila5659 on 5/2/07|
I may not be very old, but time sure has changed. I can remember when a simple hand-shake was good enough. Now it needs to be in writting, signed by both parties, and have witnesses. In this day and age, I would not trust just anyone. People can be so sly, and dangerous. It would be hard to trust someone whom you have not seen. Because until you meet them face to face and know their spirit, you can't have a personal relationship or even a close friendship. Be careful.
---Rebecca_D on 5/2/07|
You don't know, if you have never met him there is noway to know. My goodness, it is hard enough when you meet people to know. Come on now.
---catherine on 5/2/07|
Please be careful- I too found someone from this site and he lied through his false teeth! but knowing this came to late. If things don't add up and you feel uneasy- back away. Check up on him- his background -what church- everything you can find out about him - DO! IF HE complains- he has something to hide!!!!!!!
---sonia on 5/2/07|
mmm love will make a way when there seems no other way. it works in ways we cannot see love will make a way for me
---rich on 1/22/06|
What are the Advantage & disadvantage of the internet ?
---Sherine on 12/4/05|
How can you be dating when you have not even met? If you fear he is not sincere, then get out of the relationship! The advantage and disadvantage on the internet is you can be whoever or whatever you want. You can start a new with people who do not know your past. But you can protray yourself as something you are not. And base a relationship upon deception. My advice is to listen to your heart. If you think he's not being sincere, then part company. And finally, proceed with extreme caution!
---wandamae on 5/28/05|
Mary, I don't know about others but whenever I had contacts with people on the internet, I never went wrong at all and the ones I met as friends were the "same" people I communicated on the internet.
It is quite obvious if people are being themselves or being phoney.
---Albert on 5/23/05|
I am fascinated by this "have not met dating" stuff! What have you done together? Where have you gone? Have you met each others friends and family? Have you worshipped in God's house together? And then the grand question. How does HE know YOU are sincere? Why assume only a male is insincere and has false motives?
---rachel on 5/23/05|
Dating? doesnt it involve physical and online,the truth is trust is earned Not gained and once LOST and INDOUBT- its just difficult to trust fully, the truth is when one lies he or she has to mask the first lie with another lie if you are keen enough believe it or not its just easy to catch one as long as you listen keenly and remmeber-though there are true pretenders real good ones, youve got to be careful not all that say LORD LORD ARE TRUE BELIEVERS.GOD BLESS YOU
---PETER on 5/23/05|
I say this lovingly, from words seen on a screen one can get an emotional experience. Online, ask him to pray with you (let him lead), to explain simple Bible truths, what is his church(look it up on the web). Ask questions about the Christian faith. If he can pray and answer reasonable questions right away, try a meeting at his church if you aren't too far away(take a good friend with you). Interact with others at his church; notice how they interact with him and if he's a regular or not.
---Joy on 5/22/05|
Proceed with caution. And...getting to know someone, takes time. It's tougher over the net because people can project whatever they want. Follow your instincts and try not to be naive. Take time, mainly.
---Kristine on 5/22/05|
Be very careful! I agree with the comment about investigating his life. I spent 5 months communicating with a man here on Christianet who seemed to be a wonderful Christian man. PTL for God's spirit who never gave me peace about meeting him! This man's lies were eventually revealed and he was NOT who he claimed to be. Seek God's peace!
---Teach3893 on 5/22/05|
It is not only like that online, I met my ex in church and he tried to kill me 5x's and lied ALL the time. No matter how long you date, yo dont know someone till you are married and they let down their shield. My dad had a mail order bride, best thing that ever happened to him. She was great. that was precomputer days.
---pat on 5/22/05|
I agree with Sonia, I too have met guys and all they did was lie and get you under their snaches and your feelings come out.They ingnore you and look elsewhere so be careful and only trust the Lord.
---abby7367 on 5/22/05|
---Leon on 5/22/05|
Mary in the bible it says to try the Spirits and know that they are of God also listen to all he says ...test him by Gods word, ask him the same question over and over to see if he gives you the same answer and sometimes it takes time especially online ....but also ask for his phone number to check him out .......all who say they are of God are not ..Many wolves come in sheep clothing ....many men want a good woman(Christian) but they themselves do not serve the Lord Jesus Christ.
---Lea on 5/22/05|
Dear Mary, I am a bit confused by your question. How can you "be dating but have not met"? We can "trust" people when what they do matches up with what they say! You have to date someone a LONG time before you really know their heart! That is why it is never a good idea to marry too early in a relationship. In addition, ask your good church friends about the person. Objective person/s can usually discern what we cannot see when we are "in love". Blessings!
---Elsie on 5/22/05|
Mary, I have usually trusted my intincts. I believe that the Lord has given us the ability to 'know' truth by these 'gut feelings'. I almost married someone last year, but just felt there were too many red flags. Now whether or not he was being truthful to me doesn't matter because I believe that God gave me these fellings of 'red flags' because he was NOT the right one for me. Continue to pray AND listen to what the spirit is telling you.
---Janet7433 on 5/22/05|