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Should I Find A New Church

Should you seek a new home church if you are embarrassed to invite visitors due to the unfriendliness of the people in the church?

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 ---Karen on 6/6/05
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always pray and let the lord lead you where he wants you to be. The lord will let you know
---sandr5737 on 4/16/07

"Chrisitan" means to be christ-like, Christ was love, if people in a church does not manifest christ like behavior, why would you waste your time going there? I would find a christian church to go to!
---Pat on 4/16/07

If your church is unfriendly, its not the church of God..I would like to invite you to my church though...come see us in your neighbourhood and you will be most welcome to join us next sabbath...we are the seventh day adventists...yes, many misunderstand us but come and see for yourself..I guarantee you a blessed sabbath of fellowship with God and the church...
---jana on 8/21/06

First, ask yourself "why" am I embarrassed to invite others. (You state it's the unfriendliness of the people - but is this all?) Second, ask yourself, is there anything I can do to improve the situation so I won't be embarrassed? If you can't do anything about the situation, you may want to look for a new church home.
---WIVV on 11/26/05

Karen, if it is your home church, you should try and seek happiness in it. after all it is god who you seek in church. if you are happy with the service and the prayers then that should be all that matters. are you friendly towards them yourself? or would some of them say the same about you? think about that before changing churches. Read 1 Cor.1: 10ff.
---jennifer on 7/5/05

Karen: It is not a good idea to change church. A better idea is to talk to the committee chair who appoints the host/hospitality team(s) and let them know that you would like to serve on one of these teams. Next, encourage others whom you consider friendly to join your team and before you know it, the ice on which the visitors used to skate on before you got involved will have melted!
---Pierr7958 on 6/14/05

Please dont mistake being unfriendly to being the type of person who just dosent like to hug and stuff. A lot of people in my moms church want to hug everybody all the time. Me and my mom dont like that. But we are nice, friendly people. We just dont like to be hugging a lot of people.
---sue on 6/7/05

I thought I was the only one that had this problem! Even though I am at the same church, I usually encourage my friends to visit many churches until they have found one that they click with. I stayed at my church because the Holy Spirit has not instructed me to go.
---Cathy_Y on 6/7/05

i wouldn't. If it was my home church, i would still invite people but forewarn them that the parishoners are not very friendly. Who knows, perhaps the people i'm inviting aren't very friendly either, in that case they would fit right in- right into the ice box with the other ice cubes...don't be offended, it's just a figure of speech, if you know what i mean.
---Eloy on 6/7/05

As one who has studied to be a pastor, I have studied some of church dinamics. I do not have the room here, but sometimes people do begin to think that it's "their church" instead of God's church. Or, they could be uncomfortable with strangers. I would suggest you talk with the church leaders that you trust about the situation, and pray for God's guidance.
---Ray on 6/6/05

Have you spoken to the leadership and addressed the situation, if many people have moved on then it can be seem to the long standing parishoners that no one is going to stay and there fore they will not get to close but in doing so they seem to be unfriendly. The bible says that we should first seek to sort things out with our brother, if you have done that and everything else within your power then the rest is up to God
---Steve on 6/6/05

If these people are that unfriendly why are you there? God's people are not unfriendly. These people need to find an alter and quick. Pray that God will show these people how they are treating others. I wouldn't leave right just yet, pray about it, bring the vistors with you, who knows what God has planned.
---Rebecca_D on 6/6/05

First of all, pray to God for guidance in this matter, He will show you in some way what you need to do; maybe this church needs someone to help change the atmosphere, and you might be the one that can do it
---antha6445 on 6/6/05

I have recently changed churches and reigions. Its been a long journey to get tot where I am. My new church is like an extention of my family. Everyone is so friendly. But no matter where you go, there will always be that one person who will try to rock the boat. But if you stand steady and strong, its a good thing. Remember If God brings you to it...He will bring you through it! Pray to him for direction, He will answer! Good luck my friend!
---Kim on 6/6/05

your church should be warm, friendly and inviting. I can't imagine me belonging to an unfriendly church. If your church embarrasses you, then find a new one, one where you can worship in unity and freedom.
---shira_5965 on 6/6/05

Christ said the 2nd greatest commandment is to love others as ourselves and the way people know we are Christians is by our love. To be unfriendly doesn't project love. I wouldn't be a part of a body whose attitude toward guests is embarrassing or a poor witness. Are they unfriendly or do they just not show friendliness? Maybe they need to be taught the purpose of the church. Can you talk to the pastor honestly about your feelings and seek his help? Pray before makning a change.
---Sandy6766 on 6/6/05

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Depends on what the holy spirit leads you to do. The church where I met the holy spirit used to be tombstone dead. But it changed after a small group got together and prayed for a pastor who would teach the word and for the people to experience the holy spirit.But if God isn't asking you to stay there to pray in his spirit and pray out whatever spirit is choking out the life in the church, ask him if he wants you to stay or go.
---flor on 6/6/05

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