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Do I Have To Go To Birthday Party

Show I go to peoples birthday parties even though they don't come to my family's birthday parties? I can forgive them, but to I still have to go?

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 ---Mary4553 on 6/6/05
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I do not believe that you should feel obligated to go. Though, it may be a way of witnessing to them. A lot depends on the kind of parts that they have. I would ask God as to whether or not He wants you to go. If so, go with a gladful heart. If not, be polite when you decline.
---Ray on 2/11/08

NO!! It is more important that you forgive them. Even so, going to a party out of duty and feeling bitter or angry is probably worse than staying home. At any rate, nomatter what you feel, you are not obligated to go to any party that you do not want to attend.
---jody on 5/16/07

More importantly, what kind of example do you want to set for your children? Do you want them to think that you only do for others IF they do for you? Or will you teach them Christ's way? Matthew 5:22,43-48.
---lorra8574 on 5/16/07

I have relatives that do not show up to my kid's birthday parties. In fact, my son is having his 8th birthday party this Saturday. And they've already said, they couldn't be there. I understand things come up, but they were told about a few weeks prior. It hurts, but you need to lift your head up and keep going on.
---Rebecca_D on 5/15/07


Yes - it might be fun. How much budget money is left for a birthday gift? What if you can even give some testimony? Who knows who you will meet!!

No of course not. I don't have enough money for a birthday gift? But I really can't tell them that. Thank you for the invitation, but I can not come. Happy birthday. (You could send a homemade card)
---Barbara67 on 5/15/07

A mature way to handle this problem would be to call your brother and tell him what you have told us. Scriptures say to speak the truth in love. Work out the problem. Tell them you are concerned because they do not come to your home for events and you would like them to participate in your family celebrations.
---Madison1101 on 8/16/06

Do what will cause the least amount of problems.
---Sally on 8/16/06

mary4553, thanks for the feedback, i am 45 and yes i do invite them to our b/day parties, and they do not give us any reason why they could not come, this happens to be my brother and his family, they are born again christians, my husband is not saved and never likes going to their place, simply because he says that they are hypacrits, sorry about being petty, but it becomes an issue when you want to do the right thing.
---mary4553 on 6/7/05

You can "forgive them" for not comming to your party? This statement demonstrates a lack of maturity. As was pointed out below, the problem seems to be one of your attitude.

Here is a suggestion: Don't let their problem be your problem.
---Bruce5656 on 6/7/05

Of course you don't have to go to birthday parties. Go only because you like that person and want to go. However, don't expect to be invited to their parties either. However you can always acknowledge a birthday with a personal note and/or card just to let them know you care. There is nothing to forgive. Everybody is free to make their own choices. If you feel offended, get over it......and ask God for forgiveness!
---Elsie on 6/7/05

Do these people get invited to your family's birthday parties? Not everybody can come to a party on the date specified. Do they not come just out of spite or hard feelings or what? What is to forgive? If you want to go, go..if you don't want to, then politely decline. You don't HAVE to go.
---Ann5758 on 6/7/05

Someone once told me that there are only two things that we have to do in this world, and that is pay taxes and die, everything else is voluntary. So if you don't wanna go, don't go. Parties and gifts should be voluntary and not obligatory. i know some that really hate receiving gifts because they view it as a bill, as, "O' no! now i have to get something for them, to pay them back in return"- how sad.
---Eloy on 6/7/05

You dodn't HAVE to go but if you want to repair the damage in your relationship, it may be advisable if you attend.
---Albert on 6/7/05

You should be glad that they have asked you to come. Show respect and go.

If everyone waited until someone "treated" them the same way nothing would ever get done.

From what I read in this the biggest problem is your attitude. Change that and things will get better.
---Elder on 6/6/05

How old are you? What is your motivation in have them return the favor or to enjoy their company? This is so petty.
---Madison on 6/6/05

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