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Can We Get Married In A Church

I was married before but never through Church because I wanted to make sure who I will be with forever under God's blessings. I met a wonderful woman that is on the same situation, we both have a child from our previous marriage, we both are believers of God. Can we get married?

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It sounds like you are caught up in the LIE and DECEPTION of Satan which has been happening for ages.

The CHURCH is not a building people go to on Sunday Mornings.
---Rob on 8/20/09
We understand the point you want to make, and I certainly agree, but you are taking their question out of context.

What they are really asking is: can they have a Christian wedding?, will God allow them to marry each other?, and can they have Christian witnessess to the ceremony?, etc...etc...etc...
---obewan on 8/20/09

It sounds like you are caught up in the LIE and DECEPTION of Satan which has been happening for ages.

The CHURCH is not a building people go to on Sunday Mornings.

The CHURCH IS THE BODY OF CHRIST, made up of those people who have a trusting faith in CHRIST.
---Rob on 8/20/09

What ever you do, you can quit worrying about "who you will be with forever". No marriege lasts into eternity. The Bible says
Matthew 22:30
For in the resurrection they neither marry, nor are given in marriage, but are as the angels of God in heaven.
---Donna66 on 8/17/09

Don't get caught up in the venue. The venue means nothing if you are not in God's will.
I am without knowledge as to why you are not married to your first wife, but with the exception of adultery and death mentioned in scripture you are still married to your first wife - in God's eyes.

The question is do you care.

If people really want to get married a 2nd, 3rd or even 4th time God won't stop them.
They can always finess scripture to fit their heart's true desire. Happens all the time.
---larry on 8/17/09

Surely, you must know the answer without even asking.

There are many churches that would say no, and there are many that would say yes.

You need to decide what is right according to serious study of scripture and your own heart's leading.

If divorced people really want to get married, they do not have to look very far these days to find a church that will do it.

Even the "strict" Catholic church can be bribed for the right amount of money. They just annul the first marriage for a "fee".
---obewan on 8/17/09

//Can we get married?

I do not see why not.

The church believes in repentance of past sins and restoration of those who have sinned.

And that is the advice most pastors will give those to whose they counsel.

Unfortunately, there are the legalists who do not believe one can be forgiven of past sins and restored to fellowship. Generally they are the ones who fear that their own marriages may fall apart.
---Lee on 8/17/09

Jesus prohibited divorce except for adultery, that included lying about ones virginity. The non adulterer could remarry. The adulterer was not free to marry, and anyone marrying one is entering a prohibited marriage. A divorce without cause, was no divorce, and so, another marriage was a type of bigamy. The exception is in 1Corinthians 7:15. If the unbeliever departs, the Christian can remarry because the marriage was not 'in the Lord'. Both Matthew 19:9 and 1Corinthians 7:27-28 allow remarriage.
Deuteronomy 22:17-19, 28-29, 24:1-4, Proverbs 2:17 (forsaketh husband), Isaiah 54:4-8, Jeremiah 3:1, Malachi 2:14-16, Matthew 5:31-32, 19:3-12, Mark 10:2-12, Luke 16:18, 1Corinthians 6:15-16, 7:10-17, 27.
---Glenn on 8/16/09

i dont see why not. God permitted moses to give his wife a written degree of divorcement and he remarried. so i guess the question is. was your divorce from first marriage due to adultery? if so then according to scriptures yes you can.
---edward on 7/12/07

Discuss this with the pastors involved and consider well their advice. I know a widow who years later met who she felt was THE man. Nobody was in favor of the marriage: her friends, her adult children. Even the groom was lukewarm, who was a nominal member of this church, too. The pastor would not perform the marriage unless certain conditions were met. She wouldn't hear of it, and basically eloped for a ceremony by a minister she was acquainted with. The marriage ended in divorce 3 months later.
---Jack on 6/9/05

Where did you get the idea that this question was not about a man and a woman?
---Bruce5656 on 6/7/05

There should be no problem doing that at most any church; best if it is the one that you and your future wife decide to attend together! The pastor will most likely ask you to meet for some counseling sessions to make sure you both are Believers and should be getting married... if not, it wouldn't be that good of a church in my opinion. At a large church, it's sometimes hard to get an open date and work out details though.
---Daniel on 6/7/05

Are you Catholic?If you are I know they are pretty strict about being divorced.As I understand it you cant get married in a Catholic Church.But as far as I know other then the Catholics,I think that you can get married in a Church. Do you attend one regularly?Talk with your Pastor.
Best wishes for a godly union,
---shearon on 6/7/05

That would be a good question to ask your pastor.
---nancy7755 on 6/7/05

A Christian marriage has NOTHING to do with where you get married or by whom (minister or justice of the peace etc). It has everything to do with WHO is getting married and who is involved in the relationship. If a Christian man and woman marry and the let Jesus make the third part of the relationship, THAT is a Christian marriage

If you think that getting married "in a church" setting will make your marriage any more blessed by God, you need to re-examine what marriage is.
---Bruce5656 on 6/7/05

Yes, both of you should get married in a church to start off a marriage right so that the child could have a mom and dad(for the intrest of the child).
---Jamie on 6/7/05

You both have to obtain a divorce first.
---Albert on 6/7/05

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It is wonderful that you want this marriage to work by being blessed in a church before God. Many churches will comply and others may have reservations. I suggest you both visit a church to get the "feel" and if it is right-get an appointment with the pastor for the necessary arrangements like classes or what is expected of you and your bride. Yes, the previous marriages will come up so be prepared for that question, repent, and work toward getting your other priorities aleigned. Best Wishes
---chuck on 6/7/05

In God's sight a marriage is between a man and a women and therefore You wouldn't have Gods blessing
---Dusty on 6/7/05

Before I reply, I'd like to clarify what you are saying. As I understand it, you're saying that you didn't get married in a church the first time because you didn't expect the marriage to last, and wanted to "save" the church wedding for later? Please tell me if I am reading this wrong. Were you a believer when you got married the first time?
---Tanya on 6/7/05

You both have to obtain a divorce first.
---Albert on 6/7/05

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Why would you not be able to marry? Are you both divorced? God is a forgiving God and loves us. Just because we have made past mistakes does not mean we are doomed to a life alone. If you are both divorced and love one another and put God 1st in relationship, why not get married.
---M. on 6/7/05

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