What any of us think about this is beside the point. What God says is:
1 Corinthians 6:18, "Flee fornication. Every sin that a man doeth is without the body; but he that committeth fornication sinneth against his own body."1 Corinthians 6:18, 1 Corinthians 10:8, "Neither let us commit fornication, as some of them committed, and fell in one day three and twenty thousand."
---Bruce5656 on 7/29/07|
Jack, If you want a Concubine then go out and get yourself one. But if you want to have a wife wait and get married. The bible says not to commit fornication or adultery, so what do you have to say about that Jack? You seem to have an answer against every thing.
---Cynthia_1 on 3/14/07|
**Living together was not an option in the Bible.**
Did you ever hear of concubines, Cynthia?
It's an institution that the OT especially has many mentions of.
---Jack on 3/13/07|
Ist of all she's a child, It matters not what your state says. Go get a life and education an extended One and leave this Girl to mature and an live before you ruin her life and yours. How dare you ask, as if you don't know the answer! little men (boys) like you should be made to do military service in church before your allowed to pray on innocent women which is what she will be when you get out from learning what God has for both of your lives. (that's all I have to say)
---Carla5754 on 3/13/07|
Why buy the cow, if you can get the milk for free? Mary the girl then. Living together was not an option in the Bible.
---Cynthia_1 on 3/13/07|
My sister Shira5965, I need not say another word you said it for me.
---lynet on 3/12/07|
Are you serious or is this one of those fake questions to spur a backlash.
At 21, you should not be dating a 15 year old, in some places that could get you arrested.
Even when she is 17, that is too young. Common Law unions often destroy the opportunity for a successful marriage later on, and only rarely work out even on their own.
Apologize to her and, if you care about her, ask her to seek you out when she is at least 18 and only if you have not already found someone else.
---lorra8574 on 3/12/07|
Van::At the age of 21 & impulsive & at her age of15 acquience you are much to young to understand but If you do then why the need for this question.Are you trying to justify your actions.?take Alans advice which I second Marry or Desist IT is wrong & you are taking advantage of a child,which is also crimnal I believe.There is a place for everything & every thing in its place.
---Emcee on 3/12/07|
If you both feel you are destined fro each other, why not marry
If you do not intend it to be permanent, you should not live together.
Leaving aside God's rules, when you broke off from each other, one at least will be badly hurt.
---Alan_of_U.K. on 3/12/07|
If you're seriously asking his question you've not only missed one of the biggest topics discussed amidst these blogs but you've also missed one of the biggest subjects in the Bibe and God's Word never wavers-fornication is a sin and living together without being married is against God's Law.
---Heather on 7/12/05|
, regardless of what the law says, it is wrong for anyone under eighteen to get into a serious relationship.
---steve on 7/11/05|
You could always get married right now, if you're both absolutely sure that's what you want and if her parents consent to it. That's a better choice than living together in sin. Laws vary by state, but I know in Texas you can marry at 14. I know people who did that, and it can work if you both love God and keep your vows. Just remember it's a serious decision.
---Billy on 6/30/05|
Yes, I have a serious problem with this. Ou are an adult and she is still a chld. You need to back away and let her grow up naturally with people her on age. Living together is not ok either!!! Read your Bible and leave the chld aloine.
---patty on 6/26/05|
Someone mentioned that we all assume that this is a heterosexual relationship? What if it is a homosexual relationship. The law is different. Both parties must be the age of majority. Both must be consenting. This means you both must be at least 19 or 21 - depending on the country.
---Barbara67 on 6/25/05|
While hormones rage at this age and it's hard to stop them, God simply cannot bless sin. Living together is not the plan for a dating couple. You need growing up time to mature and listen to what God has planned for you.
---Carol on 6/21/05|
, i'm still waiting for chuck's answer. does anyone else have the answer?
---steve on 6/20/05|
If her parents agree to say nothing about a 15 year old daughter living with a 21 year old that is fine as long as the rest of the community is ignorant of the facts. The state can stop you and put you in jail for statuatory rape if it involves sex with a minor under the age of 17.
---gregg8944 on 6/18/05|
I think you both need to grow up and mature.
You sound like you are both just wanting to play house and not thinking of the consequences.
She is 15 for pete sake! she is a kid. My son is almost 15 and man oh man would he get a hiding if the thought of living with an older women ever came up. He is not old enough or responsible enough to do his own cooking or laundry or pay his own bills why would I let him play house with someone who obviously is too imature to wait.
---Shaz on 6/17/05|
Many things in your question bother me.
for 1 you want to LIVE WITH her. That is a sin right there. Also as a mother I know that a 15 yr old is not mature enough to think at your level or to think about living with a man after college, let alone think about college in same ways as you do. She is too young and needs to enjoy her teen yrs as a teen and not play adult before her time.
---Marla on 6/17/05|
If you love and respect this girl, do not touch her until you marry her and thats if you still want to marry her by the time she is in right maturity to marry. If you are both christian please respect God's words.
---vivi on 6/17/05|
Chuck, i have to ask, why do you think her mother should be doing a father's job? men need to be more involved in their homes.
---steve on 6/17/05|
Our emotions are the easiest way that we can be tricked and you really need to ask the Lord to help you make the RIGHT judgements because this one isn't up to par. Please pray and listen to the Lord not just your heart.
---angea6336 on 6/17/05|
Van, PRAY. Girls are very sensitive at this age and although you find a lot of great characteristics in her, you really need to read the bible on Fornication. The Lord says no to fornication. About the age thing, the Lord says to obey the laws of the land, and unless your state says that dating/sleeping with a 15yr old is ok, you should resist temptation, because I guarantee that the enemy is working in this, whether you see it clearly or not.
---angea6336 on 6/17/05|
No, fornication? No, not okay. Especially not now!! Young love? Yes, this is a good thing!! My parents were 6 yrs apart too. but her parents may not approve of this. But even if they approve, you have to make sure she is at least done with highschool and 18 or older before you marry. Make sure also that you both pray together. Ask for guidance whether or not God means for you to be togther in this way and what God would have you do.
---Laura on 6/17/05|
I personally don't see a problem with the age difference as long as her parents are ok with it. As far living together, Jesus said that fornication is a sin. Wait for her to grow up a little more then live together in marriage. That way you will do what is right and pleasing to God.
---Cathy on 6/17/05|
Van, I don't mean to be nasty but I think you need some growing up to do and mature more before you enter into commitments.
A 15 year old is a child and you should either leave her alone or wait until both of you grow up.
---Albert on 6/17/05|
Dear Van, please don't end your relationship with your girl but don't allow it to become intimate until you're married. Once she's 18 then go ahead and get married if that's what feels right for you. Don't listen to people who tell you that she's too young to make up her own mind at 18. If it's God's will the marriage will go ahead and be blessed. I pray that you will have a wonderful life together, as I have had with my husband whom I married 2 days after my 18th birthday almost 25 years ago!
---Geraldine on 6/16/05|
Dear Van, The 15 year old you are dating is a "minor" in most states. It may be against the law for you to be dating her. You both need to concentrate on learning how to be responsible adults. This is not acceptable behavior and this young girl is too impressionable to make a decision. It is up to you to stop this relationship and look for someone your own age!!
---Elsie on 6/16/05|
She is under age. Do it right, be of the same faith and wait until both of you are legally adults to marry, then live together.
---Eloy on 6/16/05|
Van: Ask yourself:" What would Jesus do?'" then act accordingly!
---Pierr7958 on 6/16/05|
You would be living in sin - fornication.
Think about the country's law.
There is more than a 3 year age difference between you & her. So even if she is a consenting teenager, you are classed as an adult. Any sex is illegal/rape.
Anyone under the age of 18 needs parental consent to marry.
You have 4 choices
1. forget the whole idea
2. wait until she is much older at least over 18
3. consult her parents immediately
4. or risk going to jail.
---see_a_lawyer on 6/16/05|
You are wanting the board to agree to something that everyone sees as wrong, wrong, wrong. First, the girl needs a spanking from her mother, if she cares,second, you need to get a life for one of your age. Third, get responsibility like a job before you have more than one cradle to rock.
If it is meant to be-let it rest while you get your head together and rest your harmones.
---chuck on 6/16/05|
This type of relationship is totally out of sync with God's plan for our lives. Fornication is unacceptable behaviour no matter the age. Sleeping together is O-U-T. The age difference bothers me too. The two of you are very young and still have a life time of goals to disuss and plan for. Living together when she is 17 is not advisable. The both of you need to mature and understand God's purpose in your life. Why don't the two of you join a Christian Youth Group.
---Carol on 6/16/05|
I think your rocking the cradle. She is too young to be thinking of anything serious. As far as living together, well apparently you not aware of it being wrong in God's eyes. Find someone your own age and let the girl finish her school, and when she turns 18 then she can decide for herself. There is no way her parents agree to this.
---Rebecca_D on 6/16/05|
Fornication is a sin--like adultery. Called calls for marriage..not co-habitation. Matt15:19; 1 Corinthians 6:18 - Flee fornication. Every sin that a man doeth is without the body; but he that committeth fornication sinneth against his own body
1 Corinthians 7:2 - Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband.Galatians 5:19; 1 Thessalonians 4:3 -For this is the will of God, even your sanctification, that ye should abstain from fornication
---wes913 on 6/16/05|
I think if you really love her,you'll wait until you are married to live with her.A lot can happen between now and when she is 17,you may meet someone your age in college that you fall for and not even want her anymore.You shouldn't be with a 15 year old in the first place, that's too young for a serious relationship with a grown man.What is a 21 year old man doing with a 15 year old child?It isn't fair to the girl, she has no chance to date boys to see what she wants or doesn't want in a man when grown.
---Darlene_1 on 6/16/05|
I am a mother of two girls and I am trying to figure out why a mother of a 15 year old would allow her to date someone that old. She is a child. The other thing that you asked is it wrong too. I would have a lot of questions why a 21 year old has interest in a 15 year old. Well I know what you are doing is wrong and you two moving into together is wrong. especially with her being so young and I look at this way she is a child she hasn't even hit adulthood and you have these plans.
---Debbie on 6/16/05|
You shouldn't do this and probably know this. She is extremely young for one thing and her studies should be of more importance to both of you, at this time, than a sex life. Keep yourselves for marriage and you'll never regret it.
---Xanthi on 6/16/05|
Van, why do you ask such a question when you already know what the answers will be. You will do what you want to anyway.
---shira_5965 on 6/16/05|
Galatians 5:19-21, "Now the works of the flesh are manifest, which are these; Adultery, fornication, uncleanness..., they which do such things shall not inherit the kingdom of God."
A 21 year old dating and making such plans with a 15 year old is another matter again. If you are both making such plans, seriously, together, you first need to consider your relationship with God before your relationship with anyone else.
---Bruce5656 on 6/16/05|