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Can Good Christian Live In Adultry

If I am living with a man, not married to him, am I going to go to hell even though I believe I am a good christian. Is this adultry?

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Acts 2 v 38 Is Biblical Right.

Those that Think there is trinity, God put them here Rev. 17 v's 4 - 6. & Make sure you read, AND ABOMINATIONS OF THE EARTH. This Is the trinity author, 2nd. Cor. 11 v 14. Jame 2 v 19, devils also believes in 1 God, but the devil has Many people believing in 2 - 3.
---Lawrence on 2/1/14

\\You would never have known if the phrase was spoken.\\

Since the word is properly pronounced with four syllables, yes, I would know.

\\Cluny: "Besides, instructing the ignorant is one of the spiritual works of mercy."

Instructing in spiritual matters, yes. Correcting English, no.\\

Yes, it is.

But as long as you're a member of your worldly denominational church, I don't expect you to understand this.

Glory to Jesus Christ!
---Cluny on 1/31/14

Lawrence, you are wrong if you think a born again sinner can sin and do whatever they want. When God's child sins, God is there just like a father. He is my heavenly Father. We believe in the trinity because the bible teaches God the Father, God the Son and God the Holy Spirit. that is the trinity.
---shira4368 on 1/31/14

\\Am I the only one or does anyone else find this oxymoronic???
---trey on 1/31/14\\

Do your sins mean that YOU are not a Christian, trey?

Or does apply only to other people? Or only to certain sins?

Glory to Jesus Christ!
---Cluny on 2/1/14

When I read this I had to just shake my head. How can someone think they are a good christian if they are living in adultry? Am I the only one or does anyone else find this oxymoronic???
---trey on 1/31/14

If you are a good'n true Christian, you would Not be doing such as adultery - fornication.

If you in the trinity family body here Rev.17 v's 4 - 6, people are save - kept in their sins, anything goes.
---Lawrence on 1/31/14

Hello,Bless the Lord, in all I see the Lord has made us all different..bless
Bro.Cluny, I be kind & thoughtfull accept all on CNT..God bless the Moderators. It' fun (smile) see us learn & appreciate one another.
Bro.Cluny, has his gift!
one day I vision excellant writer or helping people read,or do thesis..

Adultery really is sin, thank God,the Bible is true, I've changed alot/ we learn / we grow.

Relationships -serious business, take it to the Lord (seek him) Prepare for marriage ( If you going to live for the Lord.)
---Lidia4796 on 1/31/14

Cluny: "But that doesn't make it correct."

You would never have known if the phrase was spoken.

Cluny: "Besides, instructing the ignorant is one of the spiritual works of mercy."

Instructing in spiritual matters, yes. Correcting English, no.
---Steveng on 1/30/14

If ye love me, you will keep my commandments.
Woman, go thy way and sin no more.
The above are the words of Jesus.
Are you going to hell?
If you come out of that situation and not be sexually involved with any man to whom you are not married, your sin can be forgiven. But, you are in error to break the way God established marriage. If you are together, you are one flesh. God instituted marriage--one woman, one man.
Yes, you will go to hell if you do not repent and change your behavior to find favor with God.
---Rebecca on 1/30/14

One little honest mistake. \\

And it's a very common one, made even by the moderators.

But that doesn't make it correct.

Besides, instructing the ignorant is one of the spiritual works of mercy.

Glory to Jesus Christ!
---Cluny on 1/30/14

I dun't usualy capatalize my "e" whin I spel adultery.
---micha9344 on 1/30/14

Cluny: "There is no such thing as adultry.

The word is spelled adultEry."

One little honest mistake. You have made plenty, but no one corrected you. You seem to make a habit of correcting everyone else, but yourself.
---Steveng on 1/29/14

\\If you live with a person you in GOD's eyes married to that person.\\

BCV, please.

Glory to Jesus Christ!
---Cluny on 1/29/14

If you live with a person you in GOD's eyes married to that person. You should officially marry since you as a Christian are setting a bad example and not truly living as a Christian should. But all sins can be repented of and forgiven.

We do not just to believe we are a good Christian. We are to read our Bible and see what a Christian is supposed to be and what love towards GOD and our fellow humans means.

As for saying that churches have relaxed rules. That is true. Why because they have watered down grace to say as long as you say certain words you are saved. But if JESUS is not LORD of your life you are not saved. Saved people live saved. We are to hate sin and die daily to selfishness.
---Samuelbb7 on 1/29/14

There is no such thing as adultry.

The word is spelled adultEry.

It is from the Latin "ad ultra"--to go to another.

Glory to Jesus Christ!
---Cluny on 1/29/14

Lawrence, the trinity is all thru the Word of God. I am in the "trinity" family and we also know adultery and fornication are some of the worst sins behind sodomy. see Lawrence, we do believe the whole bible and not part of it.
---shira4368 on 1/28/14

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A Good Christian will Not do such things as adultery - fornication etc.

Now if your in this trinity family Rev.17 v's 4 - 6, it seems like anything goes & your ok. Such a Big Lie from here, 2nd.Cor. 11 v 14, because he tells people they can.
---Lawrence on 1/28/14

Jo-Jo exultant answer. Jesus's point exactly. They forget they will reap what they sow. God is not mock. If their not sowing Grace and Mercy, when they need it, it will not be growing in their garden. But judgment will cause that is what they have SOWN. The word will produce after it's kind. Sow the Gospel it produce MIRACLES in peoples lives.
---BRYAN on 1/4/14

Try be prayerfull,about my responses, I put here. God had a definite purpose
in mind,re: flee against fornication & adultery, let every man have his own wife,and a woman her own husband.

1.Respect -marriage says " we trust God!" Obediance better than sacrifice.

Living in sin,speaks volumes " the two people do not trust God or one another.

It is also,mounted in fear. why buy a cow if you get the milk free? He does not love you enough to marry you.. where is the trust?

note: return with my verses.
---Lidia4796 on 1/2/14

Sis. Catherine, very good points you made. Any genuine believer who loves the Lord, will not live in habitual sin. If someone is living with another outside of marriage, it is a sin against God. If that person ask for forgiveness and stops from living with someone else, God will forgive them. If they refuse to do the will of God, it gives evidence their faith was not genuine, and never truly saved to begin with.
They don't have to speak the words forgive me God, but they do have to have a contrite heart. And only God knows if they do.
---Mark_V. on 9/24/13

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I don't quite understand, what you consider a good Christian. It is adultery and one of God's laws that He wrote with His very own finger, with what you are doing and with whom, "thou shalt not", and He meant it. Does He reside in you?
---catherine on 9/22/13

It is not sexual sin (or any other specific type of sin) that will send a person to hell - it is UNFORGIVEN SIN which will do that and, if it's unforgiven that will be because there was no repentance, no ceasing from sin and no sorrow shown for those wrong doings.
We must ask for forgiveness regulary and not just sit back and think it's a done deal because we asked once before in the dim and distant past.
---Rita_H on 9/20/13

Wow. I can't believe some of the answers I have seen here. Yes, Jesus told the woman to go and sin no more, but what did he say to the crowd? I am guessing by the responses on here that all of y'all are sin free, because I see a lot of stones being thrown. Jesus also talked about the plank in your eye, so I guess y'all also have perfect vision. Maybe if you people spent more time getting to know God instead of knowing about Him, then you might come to understand love, grace, and mercy. And maybe you wouldn't be so angry at others all the time. I sure hope non-believers don't come to this site. I sure wouldn't want to be a Christian if it meant being hateful and judgmental...
---Jo-Jo on 9/18/13

impossible to simply believe in YOUR own mind you perceive yourself a "good christian" when you live like the wicked sinner (sinners live for the world its lusts and pleasures)

Christ simply told the women to go and sin no more

Christ did not say go and continue to sin

there is a VERY BIG difference between people who WISH and pretend they were christians calling themselves "good" yet their ACTIONS are sinful ...simply deceived by false christiandom which teaches its blind followers to follow their lusts "in christ" and live for the world and its ways which contradicts Holy Scripture

those who LIVE and follow Christ are seeking to please HIM

cannot serve both the world and Christ
---Rhonda on 1/21/12

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I absolutely cannot believe some of the responses on this blog about going to hell over committing a sexual sin! God's acceptance of us is NOT based on our performance at all. If we accept Him as Lord and Savior we ARE sealed until the day of redemption. Salvation is not based on works! Any statement to the contrary is from someone who doesn't understand God's Word or His infinite love for us. Can my son or daughter EVER cease to be my children - of course not! Neither can we EVER cease to be His children. Are there consequences and discipline for sin - you bet there are.
---Mark on 1/13/12

Am not judging coz it was written thou shall not judge.but if u feel giult like what u are doing that shows its a wrong step u took. My dear u should do things that pliz GOD and people .if u think u have done something great without e wori of ur parents coz 1st commandmnd says honour ur father and mother. Keep on doing good but dont get lost
---gilbert_mukaronda on 7/25/10


You must repent of this sin, or yes, you are going to hell. Please read Rev. 21:8 etc. which teaches that adulterers will not be in the kingdom of heaven. It is such good news that God is ever merciful to those who sincerely repent and is full of grace and forgiveness. He turns sinners into saints who live to glorify Him. However, He does not forgive the rebellious who continue in their sin. I pray you repent and seek His wonderful mercy and forgiveness. God bless.
---Anne on 7/27/09

Yes, it is adultery. Any sin could cause you to go to hell, and adultery is no exception.
---Betty on 7/27/09

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The mere fact that you are asking this question tells me that the Holy Spirit himself is speaking to you and convicting you of this sin. Jesus calls us to be obedient to the commandments. "If you love Him you will obey His Commands" Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding, but in all your ways acknowledge Him and He shall direct thy path. I will pray for you to have the strength to overcome the ways of this world and live in obedience to the Lord that brings blessing and favor to you.
---Andrea on 7/26/09

Alright you want the truth I am going to give you the truth. The answer is YES>>>if you continue doing this. You must receive forgiveness and you must STOP. Christian or non-christian!
---catherine on 2/2/09

I am in the same boat as Sharr. I have been in my relationship for twenty four years. I know I am living a sinful life. I have been convicted and have left my church until the situation is corrected. Is that the right thing to do? I have been baptisted and am a child of God. But I can no longer worship and feel right doing so among my congregation.
---vernessie on 2/2/09

Sharr - Yes, you ARE committing adultry. The Bible says that lust is adultry. When you live with someone (romanticly) that you are not married to, this is lust, which is adultry. Get out of this relationship, and repent of this sin.
---Leslie on 12/15/08

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Just look at it this way, you say you are an christian right? vision jesus shacking up with someone!!!!!!!!! Then answer your own question.
---ann on 12/13/08

empt, there's no need to come up with a new name. You have so many already, why not stop developing new lives to deal with pain.
---Lynda on 2/3/08

I got edited on my previous posting#3 and they totally left out #2 so it doesnt even make my point. Now i feel like more of the CN family.
---emtp on 1/30/08

I strongly doubt that the true living God lives in you. So therefore you can not be a Christian. You are involved in sexual sins. God hates all sins but sexual sins He really dispises..
---catherine on 1/30/08

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#1 CAROL If you are saved, you cannot lose your ticket to heaven.-Are you of the once saved always saved thinking? That is a very dangerous belief to hold/preach. I realize a lot of people think this way. I am of the "Righteousness through faith" camp you have to live your faith by being how Christ would want you to be. Not just sit by idly until judgement day. Which i think you understand, the teaching of "OSAS" tends to stear people of more baby like faith in the wrong direction.
---emtp on 1/30/08

#3 My now husband and I had our son, lived together for 10 years before getting married (at the time we were not with god) then I found Jesus and a short while later he did, then we both realized what we were doing was wrong. Planned on getting married (which we did anyway) but now it seemed more important.
---emtp on 1/30/08

DoYouBelieve Jesus is theSon ofGod?Do you believe he died2pay for ALL your sin?Have you asked forgiveness+asked His Holy Spirit2lead your life?If yes4all,you aren't going2hell,but disobeying His commands gives the enemy a foothold,which leads2destruction.If you're unmarried it's adultery.AskYourself why aren't you2married?Marriag was designed by God for us,His best!Hebrew13:4
---Jo on 1/29/08

Galatians 5:19-21 says that you will not go to Heaven while you are living in this sin. You must repent of your fornication and turn to the Lord Jesus Christ.
---Helen_5378 on 4/30/07

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ed may not care enough about you to tell you your plight, but i will. 1 Cor 6:9 says no adulterer shall inherit the kingdom of God. you best repent or you'll lift your eyes in hell. and do it today
---r.w. on 4/29/07

I cannot judge your situation. Is not marriage; a man and woman coming together and sharing their lives as one? There is a diffence between being married in the eyes of the worldly law ( and inland revenue) and being married before the Lord. If you let the Book speak to you, you will know the answer to your question.
---Ed on 4/26/07

1 Corinthians 5:1 It is reported commonly that there is fornication among you, and such fornication as is not so much as named among the Gentiles, that one should have his father's wife.
1 Corinthians 5:4-6 In the name of our Lord Jesus Christ, when ye are gathered together, and my spirit, with the power of our Lord Jesus Christ, To deliver such an one unto Satan for the destruction of the flesh, that the spirit may be saved in the day of the Lord Jesus.
---Exzucuh on 3/20/07

Galatians 5:19 Now the works of the flesh are manifest, which are these; Adultery, fornication, uncleanness, lasciviousness,
Galatians 5:21 of the which I tell you before, as I have also told you in time past, that they which do such things shall not inherit the kingdom of God.
---Exzucuh on 3/20/07

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If you were a good Christian you would not be living with a man who is not YOUR own husband. What matters is not what you believe, but what Jesus said and what we read in the Bible. If you go against God's laws, regardless of whether you think that they are fair or not, you have committed a sin, and sin leads to Hell.

Fortunately, you have the opportunity to repent of your sin, amend your life and get closer to God. He is a loving and merciful Father, He doesn't want you to get burned.
---lorra8574 on 3/20/07

No, it's not adultry, it's fornication. Do you seriuosly consider yourself a "good Christian" while living in known sin?
---Jerry on 3/20/07

my wife went to bible college and graduated. years into our marriage she got tired and started an affair with another man. well i am trying to get over it. but the fact that she went to bible college and new the book like the back of her hand. what i do know is that christians can manipulate the bible to suit their agenda
---bobby on 8/9/06

Hi, again! I n answer to the question about man and woman living together- I agree it is wrong, however a freind of mine IS staying with her male freind, in order to avoid homelessness. I know how it looks, but I would be more worried for her safety if she lived in the street. Please pray for God to make her another way. THANK You.
---Glenda on 9/17/05

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Hi, again! I n answer to the question about man and woman living together- I agree it is wrong, however a freind of mine IS staying with her male freind, in order to avoid homelessness. I know how it looks, but I would be more worried for her safety if she lived in the street. Please pray for God to make her another way. THANK You.
---Glenda on 9/17/05

i think you know what adultery is, you can commit adultery physically or in your heart and mind. Are you or he married to someone else? if so, then why are you and he living together instead of with the spouse?
---Eloy on 7/4/05

First of all it is Abba Father, not Alba. No
a Christian cannot live in adultery. They must repent of their sin, and if they do God will forgive them. Any sexual sin is sinning against your own body. [1 Cor 6:18] Pastor Danny, I agree with what you said. I don't see how anybody think they could live in adultery, and get away with it. I know firsthand, because my ex-wife was unfaithful.
---Gary on 7/4/05

Adultery is a sin. Sin has happened. Many people don't worry about God's opinion at all. God says that at first there is a type of "Sick" pleasure in sin. Then gradually comes remorse and repentance. See Psalm 53 - A Psalm of David when Nathan the prophet went to him, after he had gone in to Bathsheba.
It is always better to avoid sin, than to repentent.
---Barbara67 on 6/22/05

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It don't look good. What do you call a good christian? I don't understand if you are a christian, then you wouldn't be living with a man. There is no good christians or bad christians, Just a true christian. In order for one to help out further, we need to know what you consider a "good christian".
---Rebecca_D on 6/22/05

I asked a question and got a lot of responses, to living with a man, not married to him. Am I going to go hell even though I believe I am a good christian. Is this adultry, we do not have sexual relations. Is that still adultry?
---Sharron on 6/22/05

Carol, are you saying that if a person got saved 15 years ago and at one time was on fire for God, and now he has falling from God, a backslider, he can still go to heaven? I am just curious to your answer. I found what you said "you can't lose your ticket to heaven" dumbfounding.
---Jo on 6/21/05

If you are saved, you cannot lose your ticket to heaven. But God cannot bless sin, and living with a man and not being married is sin. I know this because I did this with my x husband and the marriage was definitely not blessed.
---Carol on 6/21/05

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All these questions appear because of what one believes. Sharron, what, in your view is being a good christian? Is it paying your taxes and giving to the poor and helping out at church on Sundays and honouring your mother and father or is it loving Jesus with all your heart, soul and mind? If its the latter, then Jesus said if you love me you will obey my commandments and one of these is no sex outside of marriage so I'm sure you can answer your own question now.
---lisa on 6/20/05

I'm a little sick of wooly thinking, equating fornication with adultery. If they were the same, there would be no need for two words.
Fornication, in the Greek, actually speaks about going to whores, and comes from the Greek word "porneos", which is the word we get pornography from.
Yes both are wrong, but please use them correctly.
---mike5663 on 6/20/05

Sharr, you may be a good person, but goodness isn't Godliness.Goodness isn't being saved from sin.To say you are a good Christian you must be free from living like the World-sinners.If you are having sex it is fornication, if neither are married to another,it will send you to hell.Romans:6:6&12 (paraphraised)old man is crucified with Christ that the body of sin might be destroyed-we should not serve sin.Let not sin reign in mortal body that ye obey it in the lusts thereof.
---Darlene_1 on 6/19/05

I think it's fornication which is also as wrong as adultury..fornication is sex before, or (and) without marriage..Adultury is sex with another person when your married. But in the end it is still wrong.
4-Marriage is honorable among all, and the bed undefiled; but fornicators and adulterers God will judge. Hebrews 13:4. Read Ephesians 5:5 too. NKJ bible
---viv on 6/19/05

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If you are living with a man, and there is sex involved, yes this is fornication or adultry. "Believing" you are a good Christian won't make it so if this is your living arrangement. If this is the case, you need to remove yourself from this situation, repent, and BECOME a good Christian. God bless you.
---NVBarbara on 6/19/05

Regarding sharing accommodation with a member of the opposite sex - these days the only appearance of evil there is in other people's minds. I think exactly the same gossip would abound if two females or two males shared accommodation. In fact I know this because I've witnessed such gossip about two females in my church. It seems to be much easier to think evil of people than good. Sad ey? Regarding the question though, yes it's wrong behaviour.
---F.F. on 6/19/05

The only good Christian is a dead one. Dead to self and alive in Him. We are made righteous by believing in His righteousness, not by our self righteousness. As far as your choice to live in fornication, its going to cost you. Your're only one quality decision away from death, toward life in your walk with Him. Jesus frees you to turn and go in another way. He is the way, the truth, and the life! And hell is not for believers.
---sam7944 on 6/19/05

Sharr - There is no such thing as a "good" or "bad" Christian. You either are a Christian, or you aren't. If you accepted Christ into your heart, then you are. The issue then becomes how you ACT as a Christian. Have you asked yourself, "If Jesus were me, would he be doing this?" Remember, the Holy Spirit dwells in us as Christians, and therefore whatever we do, we are doing it with the Holy Spirit.
---holly3878 on 6/19/05

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To be a good christian as you put it you would need to either live apart from this man or marry him. A good Christian would not willfully put himself into sin. Living together without marraige is adultry and this is sin in God's eyes.
---Shaz on 6/19/05

The word says, "Don't let your good be spoken evil of". I think it is wrong for what you are doing. I think God has convicted you over this, or otherwise you wouldn't have posted the question.
---Rebecca_D on 6/18/05

It's not uncommon for a couple who are living common-law to become Christians and then get married. Problem solved.
---DoryLory on 6/18/05

To live with an man or woman as a married couple is not pleasing in God's site. The Apostle Paul said it is better to marry than to burn. Your body is the temple where the Holy Spirit is supposed to dwell. However, the Holy Spirit CANNOT dwell where there is sin and ungodliness. Ask God to lead and guide you, He is faithful to His Word and will help you. Psalms 37:23 says, "the steps of a good man are ordered by the Lord." Trust God, He knows best.
---Brenda7878 on 6/18/05

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Before passing judgement on you like everyone else has here what are the living conditions like? I share an apartment with a male roomie but there is absolutely no physical contact, so does that make me a wicked sinner too? We share for financial reasons and that's before all of you go judging people make each blog a matter of prayer as you may very well be in the same position someday.

Moderator - Yes, Christians should avoid the appearance of evil even if there is nothing physical going on.
---Fran8674 on 6/18/05

The Bible makes it clear that sex outside of marriage is either fornication or adultry. And the Bible says they that practice such, will NOT inherit the kingdom of God. However God can forgive, but you must forsake adultry. God will give you the strength if you ask and trust him.
---Gary on 6/18/05

Absolutely! Thinking you're a good Christian doesn't make you one any more than thinking you're a car makes you a car. You must get out of that relationship immediately, ask Christ for forgiveness, accept His gift of salvation, and stay clear of this man unless he decides to marry you. Then no sex until the wedding night.
---Ann5758 on 6/18/05

sorry sharr its adultry with all what the word mean , and you sure you will go to hell ,moreover will suffer all your life for just while of pleasure ,(( flee from sexual immoratity all other sins aman commits are outside his body but he who sins sexually sins against his own body )) (( do you not know that your bodies are members of christ shall I then take the members of christ and unite them with a prostitute ? never ))
i'm sorry for my frankness, but thats the true
---mena on 6/18/05

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Do you believe that if you know adultery is sin, and you choose to commit adultery that you will lose out on eternal life? Some do not believe that adultery is sin.

God sees not as man sees. You may be married in His eyes with no legal papers. On the other hand you may be living with someone and have no physical relations (this is rare) and God knows your heart, your purpose, your need. What we believe about ourselves (a good christian) is not important--what God knows and says about us is.
---Wayne on 6/18/05

Sharr : The wonderful word of our Alba Father God ,the bible tells us that sex outside of marriage is a sin toward Him.Jesus let you choose where they spend eternity, Heaven or Hell,A christian would repent and not live in Adulty , for it is Adultry if you are having sex outside of a marriage . Please receive this in the love and compassion of Jesus Christ .Pastor Danny
---Pastor_Danny on 6/18/05

Considering your life-style how do you conclude that you are a GOOD CHRISTIAN?
As for your final destination, we will leave that up to you and God.
I do believe you are living in an arrangement which the LOrd does not approve of.
---Pierr7958 on 6/18/05

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