Is this according to the Quran?
bible evidence is for you to read for yourself, if your husband left you he is in adultery if you did not commit a sexual sin with anyone else. If both of you remarry you are both adulterers. that's why it makes sense to know the word, not look for answers from people who don't know themselves ! oh you may find one person or a few write according to the word, the others will write according to another gospel.
---Carla on 12/13/14|
MICHA9344: //But, if the spouse is remarried, one must wait for the other to be free//
The Bible does not agree with this your proposal or understanding, please read Deut.24:1-4.
---Adetunji on 12/2/14|
Okay so some people do not have common sense... Women who stay with their spouse when they can catch a SDT is not the issue, re-marrying and catching it from a perfect stranger is even worse!!!!
instead of advocating remarriage go research the national statistics of re-marriages and pray tell me someone please... how in the name of "remaining single, staying with Christ, looking to the hills, considering the lilies, the sparrows, and faithfulness to the Most High God is considered untruthful promise of servitude ????
---Carla on 12/1/14|
Peter you say... "if the wife is Christian. For in Corinthians we are told that the Christian wife should stay with the 'unbelieving' husband, and since the adultery here is mental and does not bring physical break between the two, the wife should remain with the husband," WHERE SHE CAN CATCH SOMETHING VERY NASTY! Is that what you think God wants for the faithful wife of an adulterer? I don't.
---Rita_H on 11/28/14|
A woman can be released by mans decree, Er Mmmmm let me see God married them and man can un-marry them... keep taking the lies satan feeds you... What The Most High has Joined No Man, beast or living creature can annul what he has sanctioned apart from death.
What an Accursed gospel of the father of lies, satan the devil
---Carla on 11/28/14|
An unbeliever gets divorced, becomes a believer, and wants God to release her from her vow even though she has been released by man's decree.
This could be a "he" as well.
If the spouse is a believer, the only option is reconciliation, for you are both under Christ. He has forgiven you, you forgive each other.
But, if the spouse is remarried, one must wait for the other to be free.
If the spouse is an unbeliever and has left on their own, you are free.
But, if the spouse wants to reconcile, then do so, for you have taken a vow.
All of these are against culture and hard to accomplish, but you have not suffered yet unto death for the name of Christ.
---micha9344 on 10/24/14|
YOU DO NOT ANSWER because your argument is not truth... it is an assumption, heresey !
---Carla on 10/15/14
Actually, I didn't answer because I have been on this sight for years under many names and you have been given scripture SEVERAL times yet you will not listen.
What sins does Christ not take away?
Can you answer that?
And What does God classify as adultery?
NOT what you classify as adultery BUT GOD.
What you THINK doesn't matter. What matters is WHAT GOD SAYS.
You can hold people in bondage in your own hardened heart but I refuse to. I am dusting off my feet with you since you refuse to line up with the word of God no matter how many YEARS you have been told to.
---g on 10/24/14|
If wife is not submissive and husband not loving, then it is not a marriage ordained by God! In that case divorce is the best option and remarriage is OK if one continued to be weak.
---Devaprakash on 10/23/14|
According to the accursed gospel of ---g after committing adultery, salvation means for women when Christ said" ...woman go sin no more" you may now return to an adulterous relationship even when you have been instructed by christ to turn from a sin that was worthy of dearh as righteousness does not mean you are committing sin by getting another husband regardless of the husband being alive, Mmmmmm ...really God forbid. THIS IS Like instructing a dog to return to its vomit to pick up the bits that still taste good.regardless of the contents being perged from the body !
YOU DO NOT ANSWER because your argument is not truth... it is an assumption, heresey !
---Carla on 10/15/14|
My wife also married me just to get to the U.S., I got her sister to the U.S. also. They were prompt to pay me back with evil. Of the matter you ask, BIBLICALLY it is ALWAYS WRONG for a man to marry a woman who is divorced and it is ALWAYS WRONG for a divorced woman to marry another man. Matthew 5:32 "anyone who marries a divorced woman commits adultery." Luke 16:18 "the man who marries a divorced woman commits adultery." A widow is happier to remain as she is, 1 Cor 7:40
---sin on 10/11/14|
my concern is that you use scriture to try to undo scripture please provide biblical scripture to validate remarrige for divorce women and denonstrate you can indeed " ...rightly (divide )the word of truth..." but you fail to do so.
I will use the truth and you can name call like a child in a playground!
---Carla on 10/10/14|
Yes, she can remarry. That's just reality. But any man who marries a divorced woman commits adultery. But most marriages are unholy matrimony. Often none are virgins before they marry. Frequently, people cheapen the union by not being open to the goods of marriage. A wife not sleep with her husband and not want kids. Better to remain unmarried and celibate. Marriage really disappoints. A psychologist once told me that most people regret marriage. Sure is true for me. Anyway, biblically, a divorced one should return to her husband or remain unmarried. It is adultery for her to marry someone else REGARDLESS of unbiblical opinions.
---Sin on 10/8/14|
You have been given many, many scripture over many, many years and you still refuse to see. What is going to change now? Absolutely nothing.
Again, You ignore the woman at the well, Paul's instructions ( you receive only the parts that agree with what you believe), Christ rebuking the Pharisees, etc. If you cannot see where you err then I can not show you. You, missy, are unteachable.
You like to judge and keep people in bondage. That is NOT showing the love of Christ.
Divorce is permitted, remarriage is permitted and is certainly forgivable even though you refuse to answer those to specific questions.
Go and see what God considers adultery and what God considers as dead and you will certainly have your answers.
---g on 10/7/14|
Provide the exact scripture which you have used to validate everyword you have just posted concerning Law and from the kjv and l will stand corrected retorical .... you cannot this blog is about marriage not providing opinions on the accursed gospel according to ---g
2 Timothy 2:15
Study shew thyself approved unto god a workman that needeth not be ashamed rightly dividing the word of truth.
---Carla on 10/7/14|
Adetunji on 10/7/14
My concern and issue with Carla is that her stance shows NO love at all to women.
Love is to be the measure not the letter of the Law which she holds to. In fact puts women into bondage which Christ clearly tells us not to do and calls those who do such things Pharisee who honor God with their lips but their heart is far from him.
As for gender equality, I believe in it but I also believe there are some things that women are just not made to do. BUT If a woman is doing the same job as a man with same experience, she should be paid equal to what he is being paid.
---g on 10/7/14|
There is some truth in what "g" wrote about you because in your stand on the letters of the Bible (2 Cor. 3:6), you think God is more favourable to men than women, which is not the case.
Men & women both come from God, designed by God, and are given different roles by Him.
Note: I do not agree with government(s) gender-equality, it tends towards feminine-supremacy.
---Adetunji on 10/7/14|
What part of the martial law being taken away do you not get? The SPIRIT of the law is what is upheld NOT the letter (which is what you are doing) That means, if the woman is in a dangerous position in a marriage it is showing LOVE to let her be released to be another mans wife than to hold to the letter which puts her life in danger just so you can hold her to the law.
And NO you did not answer the questions.
WHAT sins did Christ NOT take away and WHAT sins can a person NOT be forgiven of?
You, missy, are a Pharisee. You hold to the letter of the law and not the spirit of it.
As I told you before, you hold people in bondage. That is not what Christ came to do.
---g on 10/6/14|
The bible is once again (clear) on Marital Law.
I have answered the question already the answers in the KJV, what part of the wife is bound by the husband are you not understanding????
---Carla on 10/4/14|
Nana: // What is the significance of the unbeliever being pleased to dwell with the believer as a reason for the believer not leaving? //
It is highly possible that the unbelieving spouse will be attracted to the Lord through the good & godly conduct of the believing spouse & be saved 1 COR. 7:16.
---Adetunji on 10/4/14|
1 Corinthians 7:4 "The wife hath not power of her own body, but the husband: and likewise also the husband hath not power of his own body, but the wife."
Leveled playing field.
1 Corinthians 7:13 "And the woman which hath an husband that believeth not, and if he be pleased to dwell with her, let her not leave him."
What is the significance of the unbeliever being pleased to dwell with the believer as a reason for the believer not leaving?
---Nana on 10/3/14|
It also states that if the unbelieving husband wants to leave, she is not bound to him and is free. My understanding is that bound is to be married and free is to be divorced. She is told to let him go if he chooses to go. That means she can divorce him.
If either a man or woman puts anything before their spouse except God, they are sinning.
---g on 10/2/14|
m on 9/25/14: If a man has done or is doing these things and does not stop and repent of them, the wife has the right to divorce.
I disagree (if the wife is Christian. For in Corinthians we are told that the Christian wife should stay with the 'unbelieving' husband, and since the adultery here is mental and does not bring physical break between the two, the wife should remain with the husband, as she is in the position of being used there (unless there is actual danger to her). But if she just knows that the husband has something else he holds to a greater value, especially if you place material wealth, you basically give more or less every wife the right to divorce her husband
---Peter on 9/29/14|
So you can also preach your own accursed gospel the word speaks for itself.
---Carla on 9/29/14
You have avoided THE question.
What sins did Jesus NOT take away?
And yes under the NEW covenant (the old was nailed to the cross), she can most certainly do just that. A person in sin is DEAD. According to what Christ stated.
So, not an accursed gospel. THE GOSPEL. LOVE according to what Christ has told us. Sad that you deny his power. I believe there are verses that talk about people like you. Praying for you and for your eyes to be open and hard heart to be softened.
---g on 9/29/14|
Quote "If a man has done or is doing these things and does not stop and repent of them, the wife has the right to divorce. They are not to be held in bondage to the sinner. According to God, she is FREE."
---m on 9/25/14
[N0 1]39The wife is bound by the law as long as her husband liveth,
[N0 2] but if her husband be dead,
[No 3]she is at liberty to be married to whom she will, only in the Lord. 40But she is happier if she so abide, after my judgment: and I think also that I have the Spirit of God.
So you can also preach your own accursed gospel the word speaks for itself.
---Carla on 9/29/14|
What sin did Christ not take away?
Corinthis 7: 39 The WIFE is bound by the law as long as her husband liveth, but if her husband be dead [No1].
she is at liberty to be married to whom she will, [No2]
only in the Lord.
40 But she is happier if she so abide, after my judgment:
N0 4] and I think also that I have the Spirit of God.
---Carla on 9/29/14|
What sin did Christ not take away?
Why do you doubt the power of Christ by stating what you state about divorce? Also why do you hold to the letter of the law instead of the Spirit of it?
If you don't understand what I am saying/asking then check 2 Corinthians chapter 3.
Do you realize your putting people into bondage and denying the power and Love of Christ when you say what you say against divorce and remarriage?
Looking forward to loving, Christ filled answers.
---g on 9/25/14|
Do you realize a person in sin, even a backslider is dead as has already been stated?
Do you realize that fornication/adultery in the old testament includes idols that come in between the marriage union?
Drugs, alcohol abuse, material wealth. The love of these things is adultery/fornication in the eyes of God.. If a man has done or is doing these things and does not stop and repent of them, the wife has the right to divorce. They are not to be held in bondage to the sinner. According to God, she is FREE. You can say what your interpretation is but it does not fly when the word of God says opposite of what you are trying to get across.
---m on 9/25/14|
Bible states the wife will not be called an adulterer IF her husband is dead, who is it that sustains life, health wealth and strength the husband or the Christ through the Almighty God ????
So how come you need a husband to live, breathe have life and to be happy and go to heaven after death... will the husband be husband in death?
Can the husband sustain life, so why fight for a man when God is they healer, guide, light and shelter ????
You may just get husband you are looking for and regret despising your freedom in Christ, I know a shed load of women who did and still do, regret not staying single !
---Carla on 9/23/14|
Nana (15.8.14, thanks. I have been making a note of all opinions/beliefs shown on here and, when the blog reaches its 75 answers (or maybe sooner), I will pass the opinions/beliefs to the person for whom I asked. She has no internet connection and uses a library computer just occasionally.
---Rita_H on 8/17/14|
The bible does not stand alone you need other text's to explain how to understand some of the most difficult scriptures and Marriage is not one of them those who want to push the equality agenda to commit adultery do it everyday. There is no clause for the woman to remarry and if there was there would not be this age old debate.
furthermore do your research how many remarriages work or better still stay at two spouses???
I suggest when God says NOT....NOT
---Carla on 8/16/14|
The Bible says if the unbeliever leave let him go that a spouse is not under bondage. Maybe you weren't a Christian then and this may not apply but it shows how Gods will is. You were under the Law of Sin and Death but free of it and now under God's Law so I think you are a new creature in Christ and have come to a new life. The husband divorced you so you aren't tied to him and had no control in the situation. If you pray God will lead your choices. God Bless
---Darlene_1 on 8/16/14|
I quoted you and with the two verses I posted, my intention was to contrast them with my last statement to Carla which seems to hold to the view you stated of men having special privileges.
In Paul's day just about all women were homemakers. Today many women are the bread winners.
My view and understanding is that men and women are the same until proven otherwise. For example, I am physically stronger than my wife. We should consider and compliment each other in marriage as in frienship or plain old fellowship. (Hebrews 10:24)
---Nana on 8/15/14|
Nana your quote 'obedient to their own husbands,' seems to indicate that this must also apply when the husband is the adulterer so are you saying that we should read this as saying 'women be obedient to your husband and remain with him, even if he commits adultery, BUT if you commit adultery your husband is allowed to divorce you AND REMARRY'?
---Rita_H on 8/15/14|
1COR.7:11 is applicable to both man or woman (not to women alone) .
Any married person that chooses to walk away from his/her marriage (except for the reason of sexual immortality of the spouse Matt.19:9) has to remain unmarried or be reconciled back with his/her spouse.
---Adetunji on 8/14/14|
1 Cor 7:11 is clear that the woman may not remarry. 1 Cor 7:27 & 28 and Mark 10 implies that a man who has been abandoned may remarry. I think if the separation took place before salvation, then the woman may remarry.
---Abraham on 8/12/14|
trinh4863's comment has, I PERSONALLY think, a slight error (if I take the Sermon on the Mount correctly)
According to the sermon on the Mount, her husband seems to 'responsible' for her her later sex, which causes her to become an adulteress.
However, as I see it, her ex is responsible.
Now one could argue that now, when a divorced woman need not remarry so she can eat (as was the case in the time of Christ) one could argue that trinh4863 could just stay unmarried. Perhaps that is better, but I can never be sure
---Mark on 8/12/14|
Understanding the Bible cannot be through English law of context or whatever. Before English laws & customs came into being, the Bible is. You cannot use the not-perfect to explain or analyze the perfect.
---Adetunji on 8/12/14|
Context are you familiar with the english laws of context when understanding text.
Who gives you permission to use text to undo text it is not so for doctrine or Law which marriage is Law, Christ fulfilled the LAW not to Destroy it.
The enemy does that !
Grace is a a pardon you would otherwise for sin be stoned to death, Christ traded his earthly life for your sin and replaced it with grace repentance an [unmerited] favor, not an op ot op in clause !
"Study to shew yourself approved unto the creator a workman [a workman studies night and day to see if it be so] that [you] need not be ashamed rightly dividing the word of truth,"
[Pray and] "...ask for wisdom..." its free !!!!
---Carla on 8/10/14|
How does this Bible verse affect this discussion?
Gal.3:28 There is neither Jew nor Greek, ....there is neither male or female : for ye are all one in Christian Jesus.
---Adetunji on 8/8/14|
"Adetunju, I agree with what you say because nothing else makes sense or seems fair BUT a large number of Christians really do believe that the freedom to remarry (after divorcing an adulterous spouse) applies ONLY to men and that women have no choice but to remain alone when their husband cheats."
Rita_H on 8/4/14
1 Corinthians 14:35 "And if they will learn any thing, let them ask their husbands at home: for it is a shame for women to speak in the church."
Titus 2:5 "To be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed."
Nowadays, we even have stay at home dads, I suppose that is considered a mortal sin, Carla?
---Nana on 8/8/14|
the woman should not be punished further not to remarry if she wills.
When was marriage about male female equally, it is not right to use marriage interchangeably, when the bible states reconciliation in terms of stability for the home of the woman. God is our stability because we were made weak.
However, young men are called because they are strong, bread winners and in God/Christ is the head. You lose your husband Christ is a woman's God/head.
What are you implying? just as a Lion will kill the cubs from the last mate the Lioness mated with so too will he despise her children and even her, just look at the statistic's of re-marriage to see sense. Eternal life is better than heresy !
---Carla on 8/8/14|
The spouse that commits fornication by God's law is a dead person already Deut.22: 22-30.
There is nothing holding the spouse of a dead person from remarrying if they so desire.
That is why i believe Matt.19:9 applies equally to both male & female.
Do you disagree? If you do, what are your reasons?
---Adetunji on 8/6/14|
Gender equal is heresy and you should " Timothy 2: 15 study to shew yourself approved a workman that need no t be ashamed rightly dividing the word of truth "
Before you make such horrendous statement Where does the Equality concept come from?
In terms of the Humans Right's and feminist literature, equality can be challenged based on its ambiguity and many different, tensions, limitations and problematic discourses.
How do you mix man's understanding with the Almighty living word of the most high God?
please State in this passage of scripture where and how you come to that conclusion???
---Carla on 8/6/14|
Rita_H: I believe God loves the genders equally. From God male & female emanates. The name El-Shaddai indicates God as the breasted One who nourishes His children. If the man is guilty of breaking the marriage covenant, the woman should not be punished further not to remarry if she wills.
---Adetunji on 8/4/14|
Adetunju, I agree with what you say because nothing else makes sense or seems fair BUT a large number of Christians really do believe that the freedom to remarry (after divorcing an adulterous spouse) applies ONLY to men and that women have no choice but to remain alone when their husband cheats. My dear friend remarried some years after her husband left her for another woman and many tell her that her marriage is not accepted by God. She was not allowed a church wedding.There is no way I could agree with them. I don't recognize the God they refer to when they say these things.
She was the innocent party. Some just don't want to believe that the man can be the guilty party.
---Rita_H on 8/4/14|
Rita_H: Matthew 19:9 if a man fornicates with a woman not married to him, he breaks the marriage covenant between himself, God & his wife. The wife on that ground may(if she wills) ask for divorce, God is not partial. Sometimes in the Bible some instructions have "man" written into it but the application is for both man & woman.
---Adetunji on 8/3/14|
Matthew 19:9 certainly seems to say that the man can remarry IF the first wife commits adultery. There is no mention of what the wife may or may not do if the roles were reversed but I have never thought of God being unfair.
Leaving a woman's future life out of this narrative would have just been how it was in those days. It was never imagined that such roles might, one day, be reversed so no-one would have considered whether God would accept the remarriage of a woman whilst her husband was still alive.
All I can say is that the individual would have to take this up with God to see if He gives peace to the individual on this subject.
---Rita_H on 8/3/14|
The itchy ears crew say you can remarry for any reason Matthew 19:9 gives one exception, for the cause of Marital unfaithfulness, a man can take another wife and is not called an adulterer, because the wife took another man. Now previously I was challenged in terms of a person not been bound in marriage by the unbelieving spouse, well I put the challenge up complete the scripture with the verse that says you are then to remarry !!!
Where and when did bible state that you could? those who know their scriptures know God works on a true and clean heart not one who thinks a bed partner is better that faith in the Almighty !
---Carla on 8/2/14|
In all the bible versions, I did not see where God permitted either the husband or the wife to remarry irrespective of the cause of their separation. Ref to mathew 19.9, mark 10. 11 and 12. Luke 16 vs 18 even in 1 cor 7 . Now my question is what happens to a man whose wife has divorced him and got married to another man, should the man remain single for the rest of his life without a child? While the wife remain married to another man and she is producing children for him ?.
---Tnia on 12/30/13|
i would say hun that you totally can remarry now. Divorce is horrible in Gods eyes, but your then husband was the one who sinned, not you, and divorced you for no reason, you can totally get remarried in my opinion, you have done nothing wrong. He does not have to admit to committing adultery, for he unfortunately divorced you already, if he had committed adultery WHILE you were married, then it would be ok in gods eyes for you to divorce HIM, but he already divorced you and it was wrong, so feel free from guilt to get remarried.
---nicole on 8/5/09|
Question, how many people do you have to kill to be guilty of murder? (one)
Question, how many times does a person have to be guilty of breaking this verse before being guilty of adultery," Matthew 5:28," But I say unto you, That whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart."(one) Therefore I believe all adult people to be guilty of adultery!!!!
Now for the good news. How many sins did Jesus die for ??????
---mima on 8/5/09|
Mr 10:9 What therefore God has joined together, let not man separate.
But the question we have is whether God has joined together all those who consider themselves married?
---lee1538 on 8/4/09|
Paul says (Romans 7:1-3)that the women is bound to the husband as long as he lives! What God has joined together is a spiritual covenant, which cannot be ended by a civil decree. Separation is surely sometimes needed for mental & physical protection, but where is the possibility of God's foregiveness & reconcilliation in a civil divorce? This action denies God the opportunity to change BOTH people for the better. Check out God's take on this in Jerimiah 3:8,12 & 14 where God writes Israel a 'bill of divoce' (separation), then says "return"(stop backsliding) followed by the statement "we are STILL married"!Thus saith the LORD!
---John on 8/3/09|
Tough one - Do not ask. You might not like the answer. You must get on with your life. Just do not hate. Do not hate yourself nor anyone. Unfortunately, we live in a real world. Please Love fully and honestly. Many things of Law are meant for the safety of society so that society does not induce sin. However, specific situations are best left up to the individual. If you find happiness, please go for it. We must live.
---carpenter on 6/7/09|
Jesus prohibited divorce except for Adultery, that included lying about ones virginity. The non adulterer could remarry. The adulterer was not free to marry, and anyone marrying one is entering a prohibited marriage. A divorce without cause, was no divorce, and so, another marriage was a type of bigamy. The exception is in 1Corinthians 7:15. If the unbeliever departs, the Christian can remarry because the marriage was not 'in the Lord'.
Deuteronomy 22:17-19, 28-29, 24:1-4, Proverbs 2:17 (forsaketh husband), Isaiah 54:4-8, Jeremiah 3:1, Malachi 2:14-16.
Matthew 5:31-32, 19:3-12, Mark 10:2-12, Luke 16:18, 1Corinthians 6:15-16, 7:10-17, 27.
1Timothy 3:1-15, Titus 1:6-9, 1Peter 5:2-3.
---Glenn on 6/6/09|
Hi, you know I've always wondered that also I read that in Matt. just today. My husband just left me and I'm a Christian and I wonder if I should remarry also.He is a believer but he drinks and likes to watch pron and I wouldn't. Can we get married again? I don't know but I will check back to see if someone knows the answer to your question. Good Luck. barba7885
---Barbara on 5/25/08|
1 Corinthians 7: 12 But to the rest I, not the Lord, say: If any brother has a wife who does not believe, and she is willing to live with him, let him not divorce her. 13And a woman who has a husband who does not believe, if he is willing to live with her, let her not divorce him. 14 sorry not enough space for it. 15 But if the unbeliever departs, let him depart; a brother or a sister is not under bondage in such cases. But God has called us to peace.
---Auror3743 on 7/2/07|
You can get remarried. Scripture says that if you are deserted by an unbeliever that you are not held accountable to the actions. Read Pauls writtings.
---Jared on 11/26/06|
He left you, used you to become a citizen so neither of you married for love, or commitment or even companionship and you were not SAVED. You are free not bound to sins in your past now as a new creature. Plus he probably did go to his "lover" and marry her with his new green card no proof but a good chance and that would be him with another woman. But U were not even saved, now U are, so walk in faith and light and enjoy-- Gods life is an adventure with Him.
---Jeanne on 11/26/06|
r.w. how could you possibly come up with the statement that you did on 11/24?
You would have to grasp at straws a long time to do that. God told the husbands in Ezra ch 10 to separate from their strange wives.
God called us away from sin and abuse. It is you who needs to use the Scripture wisely and not speculate on unfounded things with no Scripture support.
---Elder on 11/25/06|
elder, the 'not under bondage' you wrote of may mean that the one person is not 'bound' to chase the offending spouse all over the country to save the marriage. this may not mean God says it's ok to remarry. be careful here.
---r.w. on 11/24/06|
It really depends on the circumstances. My husband divorced me about 5 years ago. He became abusive in every sense of the word. I don't agree with divorce, but I couldn't tolerate the abuse much longer and God knew it. After praying and praying for God to change things and deliver me from the abuse,my husband left me. I felt as though this was my deliverance. In my situation I feel as though I'm free to remarry.
---Kay on 10/27/06|
I Cor 7:15- But if the unbelieving depart, let him depart. A brother or sister is not under bondage in such cases: but God hath called us to peace.
Read I Cor 7:7-15.
It is Satan who will cause continued pain and suffering not the Lord. You are free to divorce and remarry. Take time and seek out God's choice.
---Elder on 10/27/06|
If you married in good conscience and your ex "used" you only for citizenship, but you were unaware of his ulterior motive, then you're are free to remarry; but I would ask why would you want to? There's an old saying, "Once burned, twice shy." If you truly loved him, and later you find out his unlove for you, surely this betrayal must have hurt, or did you not love him either even as he did not care about you? Are you so willing to possibly be "used" again by another?
---Eloy on 10/27/06|
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God is not a God of pain and lonliness. He created us to love and be loved.
Why must there be marriage in order to love and be loved? Is there not a possibility that we love another without it leading to romance and marriage? Being single does not equate to being lonely and in pain. Why, then, must we assume God desires all to be married a second time?
---Julie on 10/27/06|
divorce is wrong , Jesus never endorsed it. it may be God's will for a person to remain single (Paul said it is better to be unmarried like he was unmarried) But WHATEVER you do, stay away from the teaching of Ken hagin. he's a false teacher
---r.w. on 10/26/06|
Marla you wrote;
If it is God's will that you remarry......
God is not a God of pain and lonliness. He created us to love and be loved.
my question in the light of what you have said is what does the 'IF' it is Gods will meen?
some christians believe that it is not Gods will for everyone to be married, this doctrine i do not ahere to, since you say that God is not a God of pain and lonelyness, he would be contradicting himself if he dissalowed some never to marry
---susanna on 7/26/05|
I have battled with this same issue. My husband, whom I met at Bible School, left me when I was pregnant with my third daughter. She just turned 18. Although I did not want to be divorced, I was not unhappy to see him leave. Even though we were in Bible School and supposedly seeking God's will, I do not believe God put us together. I do feel it is okay for me to remarry but as you can see, I don't rush things!
---Donna on 6/29/05|
For my understanding of marriage and divorce, I thought it pertained to those married with God' blessing, two believers....I know that if one is a believer and one not, you are to try at all costs to save the marriage, for the sake of the non-believer might come to Him thru you....hope this helps
---Lydia on 6/24/05|
God is not an angry God who punishes us for what others do to us. He is a fogiving God who gives us second chances.
If it is God's will that you remarry than if you wait and trust him he will make a way and bring the right person into your life.
God is not a God of pain and lonliness. He created us to love and be loved. Pray and seek his leading and wait on his answer for your life
---Marla on 6/24/05|
Get a copy of the book "MARRIAGE, DIVORCE, AND REMARRIAGE" by Rev Kenneth E. Hagin (of Kenneth Hagin Ministries/Rhema Bible School), to find Scriptural answers to your questions. It will help you immensely. God isn't nearly as hard on us as we, as Christian people, are on each other.
---DoryLory on 6/22/05|
"Why call me Lord, Lord, and not do the things I say..", and other scriptures. Your husbands Christian reality is questionable to put it mildly. You'll be unequally yoked if you remarried him, according to the scriptures. God will give you the self control needed until your ex brings forth fruit 'mete' for repentence, or someone really committed to Christ scripturely, appears! James 5:16-18. Focus on your spiritual(wo)man, God will give you rest [carefull who you 'confide' in]! Maranatha!
---Elishama on 6/22/05|
Auror hit the nail right on the head! You can (re)marry, scripturely ["only in The Lord"]. You were also defrauded! In today's America/world, one has to be really careful, especially if someone is not a US citizen. The (d)evil one beguiled Eve in her sinless state, how much more can he do the same to anyone today? Eph.6:10-12, James 1:5.
---Elishama on 6/22/05|