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Should I Be Alone All My Life

Why is it that I can not find someone to spend the rest of my life with? Is it that I am to spend the rest of my life alone?

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 ---jim6346 on 6/24/05
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I's been 3 years since this blog opened is he still on the site? If so has your situation changed, alternately we'd be speaking to ourselves!
---Carla5754 on 4/2/08

Jim, I don't know how old you are, but if you are trying too hard, then you are displaying desperation, which does not attract anyone. This may sound familiar, but seek ye first the Kingdom of God, and all things will be added to you. Seek God with all of you heart, mind, soul, and strength. Pray for someone to share your faith with, and watch God work.
---pgfdottie on 4/2/08

#1 Jim, you are free to do exactly like what you like with your time. This is a blessing. You can join as many clubs, societies, go out whenever you like to wherever you like. You live in a relatively free society. Make the most of it.
---frances008 on 4/1/08

But if you put God as the top priority, and spent the time learning the Bible more than you would have with a family, then surely God will bless you with everything you could imagine and much more. (Not saying that persecution won't also be there, but you will be so busy you won't have time to think of feeling lonely.) Start a church.
---frances008 on 4/1/08

Robyn:: You are right.It all boils down to "love and RESPECT" you cant have one without the other.What you state is an ego mania in some of the opposite sex.Just to create an impression and make a conquest But that is False because the coin is used, and of no value.
---Emcee on 4/1/08

Another view: Being alone does not have to be so bad. It is how you look at it. I have been married most of my life. It's ok but marriage is not what is cracked up to be either. Some spouses treat their mates worse than dirt and treat others like cream right in their faces. Sometimes people have suffered tremendously,just to stay with a man or woman. Just to prove a point to others. Marriage is good and honorable but people have polluted the institution of marriage.
---Robyn on 4/1/08

Maybe I am old fashioned and Iread of the many lonely Hearts all desiring relationships. But How do we prepare for such an eventuality.1ST there must be an attraction 2nd a spark to light the fire.3rd How would you control that fire so that it does NOT burn out.The fire provides warmth and comfort.Lastly It is a God given Gift How would you Treasure it.These are some of the questions which need solving before taking the leap into what I call unchartered waters.The resolve is TO MAKE IT WORK.
---Emcee on 4/1/08

As long you are eliable, you can trust God if you are to be married, if not then you'll have to trust the (same) God for your singleness or you'll fall prey to the God you trust in. Satan roams around seeking whom he may devour. Be contented in whichsoever state you find yourself, believe you me whether married or not, It's God you need a relationship with GOOD or BAD so many marriages are failing, most of whom thought EXACTLY the Same as YOU!
---Carla5754 on 4/1/08

Perhaps Jim but I doubt it. You need to do what you can in the natural to draw a nice Christian woman for possible marriage. Then Let God do the supernatural. Know the truth and the truth will set you free. it is not wrong for Christians to date and try find a mate with God's help. People will feed you a lot of religious garbage if you don't know the truth for yourself. Seek the Lord and be open to His leading on this. Make sure you are the right type man a woman would want to marry also.
---Robyn on 3/31/08

LIZA::To be wanted held close and hear "I LOVE YOU" is the desire in the breast of everyone.It is a calling of this world but not a necessity.God gives you the opportunity of this choice .some choose wisely some do Not.But choose they must.If God sent you some one and he did not work out would you blame him?The "Bit" put in a horses mouth is hard but he suffers it.If you are willing to take this "Bit" its not to have all the knowlege at your disposal use it wisely.
---Emcee on 3/31/08

Not necessarily! Try not looking so hard. And please for goodness sakes do not grab the first one that comes along because you are lonly. Listen, a bad marrage can be absolute HELL on this earth. Noway out except God intervenes. Now, if you are an unbeliever you gotter be careful.
---catherine on 3/31/08

I've waited all my life to be chosen as a life partner but no one came. I always had hoped, prayed and stayed very active until recently. Attracted unavailable married men and emotionally damaged single men. In my late fifty's now, aging, rapidly slowing down, no hope for the dreams I had. I have given so much to others and God totally forgot about me. I really don't think it is fair for some people to be chosen several times and others not to be chosen once.
---Liza on 3/31/08

God's answer may indeed be, No, for reasons we do not know.

God does not always say, Yes, we are to marry and end up for many, unhappily ever after. He may be protecting you from the misery we see here every day.
It could be a blessing and we must accept God's providence and will, He knows our beginning from the end.
---Cindy on 3/21/08

I feel your pain, I often ponder why I am alone. Are we to live alone? I have been alone for about 2 years now, after a divorce. I have been on a few dates but they went nowhere. If all I had to pick from were the typical women of today then I'd rather be alone. Just know that theres others who are sharing the same burden.
---Tony on 5/6/07

I feel the same about myself. Have you noticed how every-one else is seemingly successful in relationships? Gits.
I scored 96% on Bible it's not all bad ;)
---jonno on 12/8/05

It just depends on what sort of tragedy you are speaking of well if it is death then you obviously need counselling, but the saying is every dissapointment is for a good. Maybe because Paul explains that everything works for Good, for those that love God and are called according to his purpose, Not ours so learn to accept what is Gods perfect will for your life, and that comes by seeking God in Fasting and prayer, if not alone ask someone for guidance, and help, in understanding the written word,
---Carla on 7/25/05

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, perhaps the one God wants you to marry is still in college and will meet you soon.
---steve on 7/25/05

Perhaps. Pray to the Lord, and let the Lord has his will with your life. Not every one should marry, and not every one takes being single. "For there solitaries, which thus born from the mother's womb; and there singles, that made by mankind; and there singles, that have abstained themself for the realm of heaven: he that may take, take he." Matthew 19:12
---Eloy on 7/4/05

I have struggled with this same question. I prayed and asked God why am I having to wait so long? God said that I need to mature in knowing who I am in Him and in my understanding of life and people some more. It was hard to accept this answer but, since I have accepted God's answer to my prayer, I have been able to find peace and contentment in being alone. Some days are harder than others, but God is faithful and I am learning to entertain myself and make new friends. Joy9988
---joy9988 on 7/4/05

Nooo my dear, its not that you are to spend the rest of the time alone. Just hold onto GOD He has got greater plans for you that will never make you feel lonely.stela8649
---Stella on 6/30/05

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I feel the way you do a lot and it is not just in the dating world. I make single friends easy but they end up getting married or our paths go in different direction. I tell you this because I want you to know when I say I will be praying for God's will in your life (in this) I pray form a knowing heart.
---kathy on 6/30/05

It just seems like anytime I get close to anyone it seems like something happens in the relationship. It has been 4 years since my last relationship that ended in a Tragedy. Is this a sign that I need to be alone?
---jim6346 on 6/27/05

Without knowing you, Jim, and how you act when you meet a woman, no one could tell you why you can't find someone. But is it possible that you're trying too hard? Women don't usually go for guys who act needy and try too hard, do they, ladies?

I'd love to say more, but it should be in private. - jeffr5976
---Jeffrey on 6/26/05

there sure are alot of us who can relate. . But this website is so full of lovely people. It has certainly helped me to not feel so alone. Get some penpals. Lots of them. Reach out. Practice your interpersonal skills in this safe enviroment. They may not all write you back but some will and someone nice will really click with you, and you will be having fun in no time. Find some one who needs cheering up. most of all Seek Jesus. He may be working on preparing You for your future wife. So pay attention!
---kathy2 on 6/24/05

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At this very moment in time, I believe God is preparing you for your mate and her for you. Don't despair. I know it's hard being alone, I have been for 11 years. But I know that God is in control and that I am to be a wife someday. Marriage ia a desire sent from God, satan hates marriage and seeks to destroy them. So know that God is preparing you and one day when you least expect it you will find her.
---Sherr on 6/24/05

Although there is a "gift of singleness" (like Corrie Tenboom), God does say that "man should not be alone". In this event I quess I would encourage you with the same I encourage myself: Trust God in His timing. (be sure no strife unforgiveness etc. is hindering your prayers)God is perfectly orchestrating the lives of many people now manifest this. (When you receive it don't forget to journal your answered prayers!)
Hang in Faith...
---Vicki on 6/24/05

I wonder at times if I will spend the rest of my life alone also. I had 15 years of marriage. may be that is as many as I will get.Does God give us a desire, with out a means to get it? I had more years with my spouse then the anna in the bible who waited to see Jesus. I try to remember that.I still get mighty lonely now though!
---Laureen on 6/24/05

Have you given a good long look at the profiles here on ChN? I think I spotted some real nice ladies whom you should check out, contact, evaluate and ask out for date! Until you have done that, don't complain!
---Pierr7958 on 6/24/05

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Here's the real answer: God never intended us to do life alone. What you need to do is do your part by getting involved in a singles ministry group by meeting people, developing friendships, & having fellowship with the group. That's how the Lord will lead you to that special someone. Also focus on serving in some type of ministry in the church, I'm sure the Lord has something special in mind for you.
---Nelson on 6/24/05

Wait patiently for the Lord. It is easier said than done at times. I know because I am where you are, waiting for God to bring that special someone across my path.
---Marie4855 on 6/24/05

I know exactly what you are going through. Look at it like this: God has not found anyone good enough for you yet. He is still working on her.
---Bubbles on 6/24/05

You are still very young! Don't fret! Good things are worth waiting for and perhaps when God does send you the right woman you will appreciate her more. Sometimes we have to wait on things so we will appreciate them more and not take them for granted! So many people take their spouses for granted, consider it a gift that God is making you wait. Seek God FIRST and dont worry about it, and she will come!
---Pat on 6/24/05

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Focus on what you are passionate about....whether it be a job, a cause, Jesus, etc. and fill your day with that passion. Be active in pursuing that passion. Make your life fulfilling for you. I guarantee someone will fall in love with you along the way.
---Eg on 6/24/05

Wait on the Lord. He knows what is best for us and, in His time, He will send the one He has chosen for you. Your job at this point is to wait quietly. I know it's hard. I'm there myself, but the Lord is able to do great things if we will let Him! God's Blessings on you today!
---Tiffany on 6/24/05

Just seek Him first and His righteousness, ask for God's guidance and learn to wait patiently for God's timing is the best.
If you remain single after years of waiting then its His will BUt remember..all things work together for good....God bless!
---kharole on 6/24/05

How do you know you will be alone the rest of your life???? Your life is not over yet is it?
You sound like you are looking for love in your time not God's. Pray to God for comfort and patience. All things whidh are good take time.
I have been alone lonfer than most but I have hope in God so I do not worry or fret. He alone knows what my future holds and it is better that he knows than I know.
---Shaz on 6/24/05

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jim you are still young and can afford to wait. if you're so anxious to settle down with a suitable partner then i suppose you take up this intention of yours to the lord. surrender it whole heartedly at his feet. stop worrying about the same coz now its not your problem but the lord's and he will certainly give you the best. but have faith and believe that in his time only he will give you what you deserve. pray alot and seek the lords blessings in this regard.
---olive on 6/24/05

well times seem like taht atime,we may feel like we cant find that one specail person .;but what i want to tell u is that someday u will smile when the time is ripe. just open ur heart for soon u will smile!!!!!!!!!
---console on 6/24/05

Not necessarily. It may simply mean that God has not decided it's the right time for you yet. It may mean God's plan is for you to remain single. God chooses some people to remain single their entire lives in order to successfully complete His plan for them. All you can do is wait, pray, and trust God will lead you in the direction you need to go.
---Heather on 6/24/05

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