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What Can I Do To My Husband

I am troubled in that I married a man in church who gave me two lovely daughters and we had problems until we eventually separated. I still love the man and I pray God one day he will touch his heart. What do I do to have him change his ways so he can come back and turn his life to Christ?

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To Whosoever has an ear to hear?

Be a good witness!!!!

Any change in this world first comes from our own changed heart, a heart to do the Will of the Father. Pray to God to give you such a heart and you will realize & find peace with the truth that you're ex will need to do the same.

We can not walk-out each others salvation but we can HELP, do to gaining a heart to do the Will of the Father, we become the Lords shining beacons of light for the entire world to witness.
---Shawn.M.T on 10/11/08

you should have never separated. You can do nothing to change him but to pray for him. People think that they can change people you can't.
Romans 12:2 Do not conform any longer to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Than you will be able to test and prove what God's will is his good, pleasing and perfect will.
So only by hearing the word of God comes faith and faith brings out the renewing of your mind through the teachings of Jesus Christ.
---dayce on 8/30/08

You can do nothing, my friend, you can do nothing.
---catherine on 8/29/08

Hmmm, did he commit adultery? If he did not then you are the one that needs to repent. The only allowable way for you to divorce him is in the case of adultery and that is not mandatory. Are you able to witness to him being separated? Is he the thorn in your side that came from God as Paul had? We must be very careful in using our hurt to direct our actions in divorce.
---Brooks on 8/29/08

Robyn, your answer is so true. I mentioned that to someone else. We cannot change another person. We cannot make them love us, think like us, feel what we feel. They have their own body, and feel different because of who they are.
Here is what I did. I prayed and ask God to take away any hate I had for her. I thank Him for bringing her to my life for 35 years. I asked Him to protect her, and guide her in the right direction, whatever that might be. I asked Him to help me because I was counting on Him on His promise that He would take care of me. That I needed a lot of help myself.
I never closed the door on her. After a year past she showed up at our house, and ask if she could go to my church on Sunday. And she did that for a month.
---Mark_V. on 8/29/08

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After that month I didn't hear from her for three months. One day I was going to be gone for three weeks, and found the courage to call her if she wanted to stay at the house while I was gone, and she was happy she could stay. I knew she missed the house and our kids. When I came back, she was getting ready to leave when she ask me if she could spend the night. I told her she could stay as long as she wanted. That she didn't have to answer to me or explain anything. She spend not only the night but she stayed home and we never talked about the time she was gone. God had answered my prayers. I do not promise this will happen to everyone. God changed her and me, and kept us together. Sometimes God has a different path for others.
---Mark_V. on 8/29/08

You can't change a person without them resenting you. And what good is that when you want what's best for them.

Praying for him is a good thing. Dont talk crap on him within an earshot of the children. Talk to someone trusted about what you're feeling and how to move on with the new life. Work on making some small positive changes in your life so that you can be a good caregiver to your daughters.

Over the course of a half of decade, God has been working with my dad and my brother's mom who've been going on and off for quite some time, this last one being the worst for all of us. It does work.
---Nicola on 8/28/08

I am sorry to have to tell you this my friend, but you cannot change someone else. The changing will have to take place within yourself--first of all. Change always does. We would like to see other people change and we, sometimes, demands it, but that is not how it works.
You will have to pray and seek God's face on this matter.
Your emotions are still tied up with him. That is going to cause you problems also.
Since you are already separated from him,perhaps you can begin to build a life without him, be the best mom to your kids,and move on.
Ask God for direction.
God bless you my friend.
---robyn on 8/28/08

You can not change him. Only God can change people. Pray, Pray and then Pray somemore.
God sees his heart and hears your prayers.
---Marla on 8/27/08

You just wrote my Blog, except we divorced.
nothing changed my husband, God gave him free will, I love my exhusband. But he has chosen to abandon us. I hope that God hears your prayer. But if your spouse is like mine is, He has moved on and left me, I must learn to move on, as when we talk it is him making promices he doesn't keep and rehurts me and our daughters. some times you just pray and step back. don't let him hurt you or our daughters, like mine has been doing.
---laure5469 on 6/26/05

I know exactly how you feel. My husband and I ae currently seperated and i am sooooooo lonely and miss him so much. I love him and wnat him to go back to the lord and to our family. I can not change him, I can only pray that god will touch him and "Make him whole" I will pray for you -- do the same for me and if you need to talk, my name on here is Patty5555.
---Patty on 6/26/05

Patti MacLeod prayed for her husband, Gavin MacLeod, to come home after he left her ... and he did. (Remember the TV program, "The Love Boat" from the 70's? He played the captain.) Gavin and Patti now have a program on TBN called "Back on Course" to encourage and help people in your type of circumstance. I'd check it out if I were you. Write me if you want more information. dory7973
---DoryLory on 6/24/05

You cannot do anything. You cannot change your husband. The only one who can do is Jesus and the only thing you can do isn't only pray, but let yourself fill by Jesus with "living water" (Jn. 4: 8 - 14). When you are full of Jesus, he possibly gets jealous. That's the only thing you can do. Any change of man is a gift from God.
---Ernst9433 on 6/24/05

Don't pray for the Lord to change him, pray for the Lord to help YOU to be the woman, the wife and the mother that he (the Lord) would have you to be and watch the Lord work. Just know that somtimes the Lord removes things out of our lives for a reason. Get closer to the Lord during this time of seperation, don't let satan keep your mind focused on the situation, focus on the Lord he wants us to lean and depend on him and him alone especially when we are going through a trail.
many blessings to you
---Deborah on 6/24/05

True, unconditional Love doesn't require a change. He loves in spite of it.
---Linda_Smith on 6/24/05

It's not for you to do. The Bible tells us a saved wife can save her husband and the prayers of the righteous availeth much. Just keep praying and believing. God will deliver in His on time. Please submit your wiil to God's will and let His will be.
---rosem8934 on 6/24/05

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You show Jesus to him by continuing to go to Church, be a good mom. Respond not as flesh but as a Christian, Give this to God and pray for Gods will. As frustrating as it is only God can call him back. He has to be willing to hear the whisper of the Holy Spirit.
---Deabra on 6/24/05

You can on encourage him but when a person is going to change they are going to do it when THEY want to and not when we want them to.
---GGraham on 6/24/05

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