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How Do I Get My Wife Back

My wife is going out with a 24 yr old who has a mental age of 14 and she is 38. She is no longer at home but I love her very much how do I get her back.

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 ---rick on 8/1/05
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Rick, I am sorry you are going through this. I went through something similar and I sure didn't know what to do. Really, you can do nothing to change your wifes mind or heart. No matter what you say or do you will not be able to change her. I found that out when it happen to me. You will be given many ways but there is only one way and one way only, and that is through Christ. You see, we all have our own minds and hearts and characters.
---lupe2618 on 12/12/07

Rick, I want to say some comforting words to you. It is difficult to find the right ones. Do you belong to a church? So you can go to your Pastor and talk? Maybe also go to a marriage councilor. You need to talk with someone who can understand what you are going through. God understands. And it is His will that we bring all our cares and grief to Him.

Praying for you tonight!
---Linda3939 on 3/19/07

You say you love her and want her back.I want you to know also that you are free to leave her and not look back...she is commiting adultery,which is the only real reason for divorce.Adultery can be forgiven..if she loves Jesus & turns back to Him.
---linda on 8/9/05

Brother Rick. I will pray for you and that God will work in your life and your wifes. That He will give you a patient heart because it is hard to wait on the Lord. But remember too that God's work is always perfect. If you try on your own efforts, it will not last. Let God take over and just continue your life for now and let God do His work in you and her. Blessings to you and family.
---lupe2618 on 8/2/05

8. one more thing, you will have to leave the door open for her without conditions. I know its hard to do what I tell you but nothing will work if you don't forgive, if you don't leave her along, if you keep bothering her. You have to be strong, but be strong in the Lord. That is your strength. He is holding on to your life and He will come through for you. The outcome will be what is the best for you. Please, believe me brother. If I could just be there to help you. Please feel free to write me any time.
---Lupe2618 on 8/2/05

Do this brother. First, Put God first in your life no matter what. Second, leave your wife along. what I mean is don't keep bothering her. God cannot work his work when we keep getting involve. The more you talk to her the more things get worse. You have to stop harrassing her. You cannot change her. Also, if you love her, you will have to learn to forgive her. What I mean is, you are not to ever mention anything about this time that you are having. You will have to leave it behind.
---lupe2618 on 8/2/05

6. God somehow changed everything. Made a new person of me, and change my attitude towards Him. In time He made a great change in my wife, and we lived so happy until her death in 98. God knows what is happening in our lives. He knows why He allows us to get into trouble. He is Lord and can do anything brother. Just have faith in Him. Many don't realize how powerful faith is. They haven't been put at a point to extercise their faith like some of us have.
---lupe2618 on 8/2/05

5. Start by setting your life in order. Let no one take the place of God. Put everyone where they belong. You see after I did that, I began to feel that even if we got back together and she left again, it would never again devastated me. That God would take care of me and He would have someone in my life later. That by depending on Him He would always take care of me. All I had to do was be faithful to Him.
---lupe2618 on 8/2/05

4. He taught me that He belonged on the throne not her. I was asked once who I loved more, God or my wife, and it took me a while to answer. At the time I was so much in love with her. But God showed me that He is Lord and when I put God number one, all things began to change. God loves you brother and He also loves your wife. He wants the best for all of us but we just don't listen to Him.
---lupe2618 on 8/2/05

3. Only a person that has gone through this can feel what you are feeling right now. I never in my wildest dreams ever thought it would happen to me. But it did. This was the time when I really learned how God can do anything. He can change the heart of anyone. Not only hers but mine too. He taught me how to be a great husband and a good person. He taught me how to understand my wife's feelings and to love her but not more then Him.
---lupe2618 on 8/2/05

2. Your wife thinks different then you and cannot not see what you see. She feels something so different and when she makes decisions she thinks they are right even when you see it as wrong. I had a hard time with this problem because I could see everything she was doing wrong and she just didn't see it my way. She felt things inside I never knew she felt. It took me a while to learn to depend on God. I too loved my wife so much. She was my whole life and when she left me in 1990 I was devastated.
---lupe2618 on 8/2/05

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