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Suppose To Pay Parent Tuition

Are we supposed to pay our parents' room and board and tuition? My dad is 70 years old and pursues a Master Degree in a seminary for self improvement.

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 ---Lisa on 8/13/05
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One one hand, good for your dad for keeping sharp. One the other hand, I think his idea of "if you do this, God will reward you" stinks. If you want to do something for somebody, do it without expecting God to reward you.
---sue on 1/18/08

what do you mean "supposed to"? There is no set rules about helping family out. The way I view things in my family is that they raised me, supported me and loved me all my life and now it may be mine turn to return some of this by helping them out. 70 yrs and pursuing a Masters? Good on him for staying active and not wasting his life.
---Marla on 1/18/08

IF this is truly God calling him then God WILL provide I am sure BUT it seems to me that your dad is trying to jump one step ahead of God and say himself in what way God will provide instead of waiting to see HOW God will provide. If God decides YOU are the way your dad will be helped financially you would not be having these doubts. God would have kept you informed as well so you would know exactly what to do. Sorry but this sounds a bit like manipulation to me.
---Xanthi on 8/17/05

Lisa: If you are financially able to support this endeavor, then do so. It if would be a hardship on you, or your children, then he should be left to his student loans. God will bless you for taking care of your children first.
---Madison on 8/16/05

He is studying in a seminary and believes that God called him to do so. He believes that God provides. No one has paid for his tuition and he did not have any savings so he got a loan. He thinks if I honor the parents I should do so without his request. By doing this, I will be blessed by God according to his belief.
---Lisa on 8/16/05

If a man of 70 has decided to improve his educational qualifications I would have throught that he would have also planned how to finance this. This seems a really strange matter and I really cannot understand why anyone would expect a child to support a parent in this way. He might enjoy the course and good for him to try, but it is hardly necessary so, if he can't afford it himself, I don't think he should be doing it. I.M.O.
---Xanthi on 8/16/05

It is clear from scriptures that parents are to raise children to be able to support their own children. So, my first obligation is to my children. If the Lord were to bless me with more than is needed for my children and I, then I could help my parent if there is a need. But, I am of the belief that if dad is working on a masters, then he must have had a good career and pension to support himself.
---Madison on 8/14/05

I assume since Dad can go for a Masters Degree for "self improvement" he is fit in body and mind.In which case he is taking unfair advantage of you.2Corinthians12:14--;and I will not be burdensome to you;for I seek not yours,but you;for the children ought not to lay up for the parents but the parents for the children.Not Dad's needs,this is his pleasure.Don't support recreation "self improvement".Shame on him!Not right to burden you with his funtime.
---Darlene_1 on 8/14/05

Lisa, parents are God's gift to us no matter our age. However obligation for financial responsibility is usually from parent to child until adulthood. After that circumstances causing financial need in parents or adult children can be assisted by either, it's a gift of love. Different cultures provide for each other in a family differently, perhaps your culture expects you to take care of dad. Only you can decide whether or not to assist him now.
---Chris on 8/14/05

Sorry if I seem to have lost it a bit, it's not so, I truly just want to get the point across that there are never obligations, just good and bad choices.

Choices made according to the Spirit, and then according to the flesh. Flesh seeks to preserve and protect self, Spirit has reckless abandon for the edification of others.

Matthew 5:7 Blessed are the merciful: for they shall obtain mercy.
---Pharisee on 8/14/05

NO, someone is saying stop the score keeping and comparrison.

Someone is saying make sure you don't love your money more than your family, someone is saying make sure your motives are pure or any decision made will be regretted.

Most of all someone is saying treat others as you'd prefer to be treated...even when it costs you, even when it hurts; that's what Jesus did for us, that's grace and love, not a box of supposed to be's written by our godless society.
---Pharisee on 8/14/05

Is someone actually telling you that you must pay this or is it that you feel an obligation to do so because of all your father has done for you? It would be unusual for such a thing to be considered 'a must' because parents usually look after their children so that when their children are grown they can look after theirs and so it goes on. Only in really hard times should adult children feel obligated to give large amounts to parents. I don't think I've fully grasped the question.
---F.F. on 8/14/05

Can you pay it, is he just cramping your style?

A selfish motive is a lost opportunity to bless another. Be careful that's not you in this.

If your supporting him and you truly can't afford it say so, if you gave your word pay it joyously.

Proverbs 19:17 He that hath pity upon the poor lendeth unto the LORD; and that which he hath given will he pay him again.
---Pharisee on 8/14/05

If your dad is not supported by any church organization, and if he could not support himself, then it is the duty of his children to support him, assuming thathe got no wife to support him. If you are his only child, then it is your duty to look after his welfare.
---Bebet3754 on 8/13/05

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