My Pastor Lifts Up His Wife
I would like to know why some Pastors brag about materialstic things that they have because I had one pastor who would always brag and lift up his wife, every sunday. Always saying how beautiful she is and how she looks. Ok, what about the singles who don't have anybody?
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---diana8758 on 8/27/05
Helpful Blog Vote (11)
Thanks'Shira4368, I hope one day be able get to a church that don't ignore
singles, I hope just be well enough be around people who.love the Lord, it will be a blessing!
Love of Jesus!
---Lidia4796 on 1/8/14|
lidia, don't sound like a Godly church to me. I wouldn't give them a minute of my time. Im glad you left. many churches have special things for singles.
---shira4368 on 1/7/14|
I'm single, bad how they treat & made fun of the singles.it seems like a sport some church's.I ask for prayer for singles, he said " It' not our fault you people can't find nobody!" this is a serious . Pastor told me his wife jealous do not trust him because of his pastShe ask " why,don't you leave?" I told her,ok I'll sit by you,so,you can watch me.
I liked that church. No go!
she said "I want you to leave!"
I left. I did not come to get confrontation.
I am praying,my health get better, I will be prayerfull.. Let God tell me where to go.
I ask other women who are single,here told me, they went thru the same thing!
---Lidia4796 on 1/7/14|
There is a time and place I guess. You don't talk about your nice job and benefits in front of someone that is deeply in need of work and has been rejected by employers time after time do you? Nor would you eat a grand meal in front of a starving person. And that hurt can be even bigger among singles longing for a mate. Instead, maybe set up some social gatherings that will better allow for singles in the church to mingle. I remember the feeling when I was in that spot, and it was not easy!
---MZ13 on 1/7/14|
diana8758 All I can say about this pastor's wife is that she is indeed a very fortunate being, to be thought of so highly by her husband. Why should he not praise her in public? Men take note!!! However, if he is bragging about their material possessions, that is another matter. Perhaps someone should ask him why he feels the need to do this as it seems that he is showing off. Only those who have heard him, and are aware of the context of what he says, can do anything about it though.
---RitaH on 1/3/08|
It is a sin to glorify yourself.Others can
honor you.But there is an excess of which
can cause ones head to swell beyond the
limit.Too much of anything is not good
---Jack_8773 on 1/2/08|
It sounds like this pastor is setting an excellent example for you when you do get married. It's good to compliment your wife publicly for a number of reasons: 1 It builds her up. 2 It sends a message to women who would otherwise prey on a seemingly dissatisfied man. 3 How he treats her in public may play into how she treats him in private (and I don't just mean the bedroom). I use to tell my wife how much I admire her right in front of others. What an excellent reminder!
---j._nonymous on 1/2/08|
You dont have to be jealous that he's complimenting his wife just because you don't have a mate yet. Let the guy alone! It sounds like maybe you are breaking one of the commandments. "Thou shalt not covet..."
---sue on 1/2/08|
Sounds like the same old self adjulation and promotion of self, AlwaysOn.
Pride always commends itself. Pride can't help itself and that is not a virtue.
---Mike on 1/1/08|
Sounds like Proverbs 31:28 in action: Her children arise up, and call her blessed, her husband also, and he praiseth her.
Singles shouldn't feel bad, but use their pastor's marriage as an example of what they should aim for (assuming, of course, it is in fact a good marriage).
---AlwaysOn on 12/11/07|
Well I guess anything going on to much could be hard to take however in doing this he shows the other men how they should treat their wives, and then sets up walls around him for any who would think they have a chance at him knowing how much in Love he is with his wife..I can see your point but also the positives about this action as well.
---kirk3998 on 12/11/07|
Pastor's wives have a hard time, standing up to the constant scrutiny of the congregation.
Pastor's wives sometimes run away and the kids have a tough time at school. Maybe the woman was depressed and he was trying to give her public encouragement. Maybe he was fending off the single women who are on the make and after the pastor; he wanted them to know publicly how much he loves his wife. There are single women that only go to church to find a man and they don't care if he's already married.
---PK on 4/23/07|
If what you have experienced was true, I'd suggest that you call your pastor's attention and let him know he's going out of the way. He's suppose to exalt Christ in the church, and his wife when he gets home.
---Peter3685 on 4/23/07|
Let us celebrate this pastor. I know of several first ladies who feel and are neglected. You can't be all about ministry and never minister to your own. If more Pastors/Ministers would celebrate their families for the background work that the congregation never sees then there would be less divorce among christians
---nia on 9/29/05|
Our church had a pastor who was constantly praising his wife & children and used them to do things in the service. None of the other children got a look in.
It made them think they were no good ... and his own children were made unpopular by it.
And it can be upsetting for those (single) who have no-one, even at home, to tell them how beautiful they are.
He is I think being a bit unfeeling.
---alan8869_of_UK on 9/26/05|
That's wonderful that your pastor publicly praises his wife. It shows he appreciates her and is very happy with her. This will also keep off some females who might be after the pastor and it also sets an example to all the married and unmarried. The singles may choose to follow the pastor's example when they get married. I know I'll want to have someone that praises me like that! (I think you are JEALOUSY!)
---Lily9364 on 9/26/05|
Well, if the reason and motive of your pastor exalting his wife was to encourage other men in your church to appreciate their wives, then nothing wrong, but it should be done without being notorious to others. The emphasy of praise should always be focus on Jesus though, Who loves the church and gave His life for it. And the Bible says so men should love their wives, but always with focus on Christ.
---peter3685 on 8/31/05|
I'd rather see a pastor lifting his wife up than tearing her down all the time. What a wonderful example for other husbands to follow. Did you ever think that he might just love that woman a whole lot?
---Sally on 8/30/05|
Setting this as an example for other men to appreciate their wives is admirable. Maybe every week would get a little old! If I was his wife, I would feel put on the spot a bit.
Some might expect perfection, and we're all only human!
---NVBarbara on 8/28/05|
I think it's beautiful that your pastor does that. In a way he is showing others how they could be treating their own spouse,instead of tearing them down. Wouldn't you want to find someone that did the same for you? That is what God did for us He gave us His very best, and He lifted Him High!!!
---missy on 8/28/05|
He may be trying to set an example for other married men in the church. (Some men never brag on thier spouce. And some even make them the laughing stock with their cude jokes.) It could be he enjoys bragging about his wife. (Most pastor's wives do alot of "behind-scenes work" that most people don't even know about.)
---WIVV on 8/28/05|
Maybe he is proud of her, for standing by his side. There are some pastors who won't mention their wife. Jealous maybe?
---Rebecca_D on 8/28/05|
Are you sure that he was bragging? Perhaps he is just very happy in his marriage and wants everyone to know it. Some men never give their wives any credit for anything so this wife must be very pleased that her husband does so. As for singles, we were once all single. Be happy and content in the life you lead now and do your best with what God has given you. If he's bragging that he has a bigger house and car than anyone else, or similar things, then I would be rather worried about his spiritual growth.
---Paulette on 8/28/05|
I think that is beautiful if the Pastor speaks well of his wife with a genuine heart, I wish more Christian men built up their wives in the same way. Don't be bitter or jealous about it because you are single, there is a season for everything. As a married woman I would value being lifted up by my husband very much.
---Maxine on 8/28/05|