Can This Christian Remarry
I am currently counselling a christian brother who has been divorced for more than 5 years. What's troubling him is that he's unsure if he's able to marry again. Legally, sure he can. In God's context, probably No. The bible does have some clear stand regarding divorce, so what must I say to him?
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---Yuri on 8/31/05
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If his ex has not married another man after, then Biblically he can receive her again. If his ex committed adultery, then he does not commit adultery to marry another virgin or widow. He is not to marry a divorce woman or he commits adultery.
---mike4879 on 7/13/16|
In a different scenerio- my wife divorced me because of my previously unChristian lifestyle. (i have since come to faith and been born again). I was her second husband. She divorced her first NOT because of adultry. On two grounds- can I remarry?- first - because I am born again and a new being in God's eyes, and/or- was our marriage not recognized by God because of her reason for her first divorce.
---Randy on 5/15/16|
Samuel, if the Church states adultery, then the marriage is invalid.
The adultery can be in her mind. Proof is needed.
Just as Jesus made the healed Leper show himself to the priest AFTER Jesus healed him.
Jesus said 'It would be enough proof..'
//But what if a Christian woman who is divorced has already remarried? What then??? Seems no matter what I do, I am in constant sin. ---Dee_P
Only by choice.
You are leaving out the hardest choice left for you.
Living single. This state of life will not cause you to be in constant sin.
This life is short.
Hell is forever.
BTW, I never been married and I am 44yrs old.
So, I understand the difficulties of being single.
---Nicole_Lacey on 2/9/16|
I would first point out 1 Corinthians 7:1 and Matthew 19:10 before other bible verses. Now if his ex has not married anyone else, he is free to marry her again. Other than that, if she has married another man, then he too is free to marry some other woman.
---mike4879 on 2/8/16|
If his ex wife has remarried then so can he. Jesus said remarriage was okay if the other committed adultery.
Also Paul writes that if a person leaves you because you became a Christian then you can divorce them.
But if the unbelieving depart, let him depart. A brother or a sister is not under bondage in such cases: but God hath called us to peace.
---Samuelbb7 on 2/8/16|
But what if a Christian woman who is divorced has already remarried? What then??? Seems no matter what I do, I am in constant sin.
---Dee_P on 2/8/16|
No. Jesus is clear in Matthew chapter 19.
St. Paul backs Jesus up (Not that Jesus needs anyone to clarify His Commands) in 1Corinthians 7:10-11
Do you know that people are killed because of selfish people wishing to remarry while their spouse is still living?
Why do you think John the Baptist was arrested?
He dared tell Herod the King that he couldn't marry his brother's wife.
A King. A King or no King!
Everyone has to follow the same rules.
John the Baptist wouldn't change his mind on the matter and lost his head over it.
So did Bishop John Fisher and Sir Thomas More.
They told a King he couldn't remarry either.
King Henry VIII
---Nicole_Lacey on 2/7/16|
\\Based on the Bible, he can't marry again,\\
That might be so, but I've noticed among Protestants that remarriage after divorce is allowable only in case of adultery, or the individual's own case.
Glory to Jesus Christ!
---Cluny on 2/1/16|
Did his ex remarry? If she remarried, THEN SHE committed adultery, and he is not to remarry her again. In her having committed adultery, there is not the issue for him. Of course, under old testament law, there are situations that you are never to divorce. In this day and age, we have forefront christians like Sandi Patty and Amy Grant who divorce their husbands and remarry. So many pastors are either divorced or remarried that it seems to becoming a prerequisite to becoming a minister to either be divorced or planning on it. Better not to marry in the first place. (Matthew 19:10 and 1 Corinthians 7:1) Of course, those are new testament teachings.
---mike on 2/1/16|
Based on the Bible, he can't marry again, unless the cause of the divorce was her adultery. But, I have witnessed a number of Christian couples who are "going around for the second time", and have a very successful marriage. The Bible deals more with a woman getting a divorce and remarriage than it does for the man. My advice he can get married again, but he must be very careful who he marry's. (He might end up going from the "frying pan into the fire".).....
Wow this is old , its 2016 but i continue to fear that my remarriage will damn me. I felt the holy spirit leave or a veil lift or something, whatever it was it was supernatural and terrifying. when it happened i was in a state of utter fear.
---matt on 2/1/16|
If I were you I would butt out. Let God be God. Hallelujah! Come on Jesus!
---catherine on 10/27/13|
this site did NOT really answer my concern..I am divorced, am reading & learning and making changes..but I feel now after listening to other'christians' that I will be banned from ever gaining eternity if I become involved in an intimate relationship..Once divorced and being alone for over 20 yrs. marriage is a bit scary, but would like to feel the love of a man someday before I die, and I have been told you can't even kiss....w/o being married.I have had a few relationships w/o intimacy and these guys think I'm 'off the wall'-and they are GONE..(they were NOT bad guys)
---Dorothy_Nelson on 10/27/13|
God's word is crystal clear on divorce and re-marriage. God hates divorce. Those who initiate it are going agaisnt God. A marriage doesn't get dissolved with divorce in God's sight. It is a useless and meaningless document. Adultery is a sin. Divorce and then remarriage is adultery as the marriage still stands. Remarriage is thus a sin. The bible is against people forbidding to marry, not those forbidding to 're-marry'(commit legal adultery). The only ground for divorce and/or re-marriage is infidelity or death of one's spouse.
---Praveen on 4/16/10|
He should apply for annulment of his marriage to the Bishop's House (wherever he resides). When the annulment is granted, he can get married in the Church. He should show the divorce and the annulment of his marriage to the Parish Priest. These two documents are a must.
---Anette on 4/14/10|
Maybe you need to go back a read what is forgiveness and repetitive sin!
---Carla3939 on 9/5/09|
"Christians that live by Judaism are blind to Grace and forgiveness, they live under a curse."
exzucuh on 9/4/09
You miss the boat on that one.
---Nana on 9/5/09|
Christians that live by Judaism are blind to Grace and forgiveness, they live under a curse.
2 Corinthians 3:13-17 And not as Moses, which put a vail over his face, that the children of Israel could not stedfastly look to the end of that which is abolished: But their minds were blinded: for until this day remaineth the same vail untaken away in the reading of the old testament, which vail is done away in Christ. But even unto this day, when Moses is read, the vail is upon their heart. Nevertheless when it shall turn to the Lord, the vail shall be taken away. Now the Lord is that Spirit: and where the Spirit of the Lord is, there is liberty.
---exzucuh on 9/4/09|
If his first wife did not commit fornication or Adultery he cannot marry again.
---Carla3939 on 9/4/09|
I have explained this many times. Divorce is a sin but it is not a sin that sticks after you are forgiven. If you commit fornication and get forgiveness are you still a fornicator. If you are you are not forgiven. A person forgiven of divorce is not labeled forever to God as a devorcer. He/she is made clean washed in the blood Holy and acceptable to God. Marriage is not a sin, divorce is. I am sure if people were to abuse this freedom we have by grace God would deal harshly with such sin. But to teach forgiven divorced people cannot remarry is a sin.1 Timothy 4:1 Now the Spirit speaketh expressly, that in the latter times some shall depart from the faith, 1 Timothy 4:3 Forbidding to marry,
---exzucuh on 9/4/09|
No I know he can't. When Jesus was questioned he said it was not that way from the beginning. Enoug said. Mark and luke no one mentions. It says no to remarriage. Matthew uses 2 greek words. In the same sentence. One referring to adultery. One sexual immpurity. Death ends a marriage by God. Satan uses a civil court.
---Pat_miaoulis on 9/3/09|
Jesus prohibited divorce except for adultery, that included lying about ones virginity. The non adulterer could remarry. The adulterer was not free to marry, and anyone marrying one is entering a prohibited marriage. A divorce without cause, was no divorce, and so, another marriage was a type of bigamy. The exception is in 1Corinthians 7:15. If the unbeliever departs, the Christian can remarry because the marriage was not 'in the Lord'. Both Matthew 19:9 and 1Corinthians 7:27-28 allow remarriage.
Deuteronomy 22:17-19, 28-29, 24:1-4, Proverbs 2:17 (forsaketh husband), Isaiah 54:4-8, Jeremiah 3:1, Malachi 2:14-16, Matthew 5:31-32, 19:3-12, Mark 10:2-12, Luke 16:18, 1Corinthians 6:15-16, 7:10-17, 27.
---Glenn on 8/17/09|
If anyone says he is without sin he deceives himself, repent and ask the Lord for guidance, I am remarried and love the lord and also know I have the gift of the holy spirit, divorce is not god plan he hates it all the Scriptures tells us so, he also came for mercy and not sacrifice. He who is without sin cast the first stone. Christ paid for all sin past,present and future, salvation is eternal you don't lose it it is a gift, We will suffer lost but we will be saved. Our adversary uses are own christians to condemn us, can't you see, anything to keep you from serving the lord. The invitation to christ says come not if you have remarried to divorce your wife then come, come and he will give you rest. Go tell the good news he paid it all.
---reggie on 5/12/09|
---Yuri did you ever look at a woman with lust in your eyes? "But I say unto you, That whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart."(Matthew 5:28) If so, you can easily see your(and all heterosexual men's) condition before the Lord.
---Mima on 5/3/07|
Based on the Bible, he can't marry again, unless the cause of the divorce was her adultery. But, I have witnessed a number of Christian couples who are "going around for the second time", and have a very successful marriage. The Bible deals more with a woman getting a divorce and remarriage than it does for the man. My advice he can get married again, but he must be very careful who he marry's. (He might end up going from the "frying pan into the fire".)
---WIVV on 5/3/07|
steve and tonya are right on. and to michele---Isa 5:21 'Woe unto them that are wise in their own eyes, and prudent in their own sight!' you may have committed adultery by remarrying. I'm not saying divorce this one too, but i suggest you repent if the Lord is upset w/ your adultery
---r.w. on 11/27/06|
The reason that he is divorced depends a great deal on whether on not he should remarry. Also, if he has unresolved trauma from his past divorce then he would be better not to carry this wounded condition with him into another marriage. Who knows, I myself am made single for over 20 years.
---Eloy on 3/9/06|
I am remarried. My first husband was not faithful to me. My second marriage is wonderful. I didn't break any of the wedding vows in my first marriage, he did. I don't know what the bible says about it. I know in my heart, I did the right thing.
---michele on 3/8/06|
, M, forgiveness has nothing to do with acceptance of adultery. to marry again while your spouse still lives is adultery. when someone asks for forgiveness, it is for past sins, not so one can justify future sin.
---steve on 10/13/05|
Matt 5:31, Matt 19:3 and Mark 10:2 are very clear on "God's" view of divorce. Man instituted divorce. We have to be careful the decisions we make because the consequences can sometimes be lifelong. It may be hard, but it is better to obey God.
---Tonya on 10/13/05|
1cor.7:28 God would rather we marry then not live in comitted relationships. deut 24:2 can become another mans wife.
---Laure5469 on 10/6/05|
In Acts 9, you see that Christ started something new with the Apostle Paul. Christ through Paul says we are died to sin, and died to the law. His death on the cross freed us from a life time of sin. Being that we are free, we may marry another. God looks at what his Son did, not what we have done. All we had to do is except what Christ did for us.
---geraa7578 on 10/5/05|
We have 2 Pauls on here now I see. Never mind, I'm going away for a few days so I'll use a different log-in name when I return to avoid confusion.
---Paul on 10/5/05|
The bible teaches that a man cannot remarry unless the wife is dead or is caught in adultery.If however,they divorced on other grounds,then I do not think the bible has prvision for this.Let us follow the truth,even it is hard and hurts,so we do not have tears at the end.If he can find her and she accepts him,better.
---Iheanchor on 10/5/05|
during bible times there was no surgery. so in those cases the people would die. in bible times there was no jails so "sinners" who did some thing wrong, they were put to death. many of the reasons people got divorced also = death. leaving remaining spouse, free to marry. God says it is not good to be alone. but to choose a spouse God wants for us.
---Laureen on 9/3/05|
5 years would feel pretty awkward to reunite. HOWEVER if she has been with no other man,is a Christian, and does not refuse to reunite I feel he must remain single or reunite. A tough one.
---Paul on 9/2/05|
I have a question: if babys are born joined does that mean we shouldn't seperate them? if a person needs a organ transplant should they not get it? I think that babys have better life seperate and God alows new hearts and organs, why would he not have mercy else where? I know that some people take better care of a new heart. they know it's price wasn't free.
---L on 9/2/05|
Truly, God can forgive the sin of divorce. However, that does not change the status of the individual as having a mate. That is why Jesus said to remarry is adultery EVEN after a divorce. BECAUSE even though there has been a civil proceding (divorce) the marriage remains undisolved in the eyes of God. Matthew 19:5-6, "...and they twain shall be one flesh? Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder."
---Bruce5656 on 9/1/05|
Recommend that he reads "Divorce and Remarriage In The Church" by David Instone-Brewer. It offers a very balanced BIBLICAL and SCRIPTURAL perspective on divorce and remarriage. It will help a lot.
---Maxine on 9/1/05|
I myself don't mean to sound very strict about the way a christian should live unto God.But read Matthew 19:8.That will answer your question about the yes or no problem and combine your counseling skills in the process.
---Sun on 9/1/05|
God is a forgiving God. I believe God forgives our pasts if we ask and truly trust and believe in him. And if we have turned from our wicked ways. If a murderer can be forgiven then why not a divorced man?
---M. on 9/1/05|
Friend, this is a difficult situation. I have been divorced for almost two years. My situation may be different because I am able to marry again both legally and biblically. It is easy to say to this person to seek God's will and study his word. To alot of people this is an easy out to a troubling question. However, this is what God commands us to do in our lives. I say to you, brother, do not compromise your faith and God's word to tell someone what they want to hear rather than God's truths.
---Robert on 8/31/05|
I am in the same situation as this man is in, and I believe that God knows the reason that the divorce happened in the first place, He knows my heart, and He alone knows if there will ever be someone out there for me. I loved being married and hope that God may send someone into my life, but if not, my life is complete and with God's help, I'll have a happy life. barba9665
---Barbara on 8/31/05|