My heart breaks for you as I read your post. I have been subject to some of this behavior in the pat. I know it is very difficult for you. He needs treatment for his problems. He could be angry and suffering from(shell shock). If so--he will never be able to resolve this problem without professional help. He is taking his anger out on you and making your life miserable. Make an appointment for him to see a doctor,right away. Discuss it with him and let him know,in no uncertain terms, you cannot and will not, be able to put up with this behaviour any longer. If he balks or refuses, start packing. Pray for him and wish him well. Life is too short to waste on these type things. Your life is important,too.
---Robyn on 5/20/11|
My first suggestion is to pray for him. However, there are other things that can be done as well. If you belong to a church seek christian counseling and ask your husband to go with you. If he won't go, I suggest you go without him. If you don't belong to a church, it would be beneficial in many ways for you and your family to go (even if he won't go).
---Judy on 2/3/08|
Sounds like he needs lots of prayer and possibly some councelling for his anger.
This is not good for your children to see.
Your husband needs to be a leader and role model to your children as do you.
Do you have a pastor you can talk to?
Pray that God gives him peace from his anger and seek councelling if possible.
---Marla on 5/31/07|
When he was in the middle east was he in the war? If so, he may be suffering from PTSD, and may need therapy. Get him help.
You should pray for him to heal, and work through his anger, and steer clear of him when he is angry.
---Madison on 9/18/05|
Julie, with all due respect your response tells me you have never been in a verbally or physically abusive relationship. Rage addicts can't be helped with extra love and understanding, this just drains you as it actually doesn't heal the anger wound (usually deeper issues)It is not for her to do more but for him to get it sorted out, she should not be subjected to this abuse.
---Maxine on 9/13/05|
That anger has nothing to do with how much love you give a person,or don't,it's not what's going on at the moment of his outburst.It's what is going on in his emotions, his inability and lack of knowledge on how to deal with the stresses of life.He's using you to vent all his frustrations upon.You can't help him,other than prayer, he must help himself by getting counseling ,admitting he has and is the problem.Walk away when he does that,don't let him abuse you.Take the children leave till he cools off.
---Darlene_1 on 9/13/05|
this is the time for you to show him love more than before. Accept him admire him, praise him, appreciate him and the pent-up feelings causing him to act in that way will dissolve. above all pray to God for wisdom.
---jullie on 9/13/05|
Calling you names is verbal abuse, throwing things is passive aggressive tactics, very immature. This is not healthy and your husband has a severe anger problem, he needs anger management counselling and you need to tell him the behaviour is not acceptable. Your children should not be subjected to see that type of abuse. I have been there dear sister and pray some help comes your way. He has to want to deal with it.
---Maxine on 9/13/05|
I can tell that it's sooo hard for u.
But the lord has evey soloution... don't worry just pray every time... while u drive, walk,cooking...whatever u do.
And try to do all ur best for ur husband.
May God bless ur family...
---zufan on 9/13/05|