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Should We Keep Unsaved Friends

Is it right for a christian person to really keep friendship with an unsaved person, especially when you invite them to church and they refused?

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Jesus was a friend of tax collectors and sinners. He said it is the sick who need a doctor. If we are to keep an unsaved spouse who is willing to remain, why will we not continue to associate with the unsaved in hope of their salvation? Only do not go the way of sin. I have had stimulating conversation with people who think differently than me. It may sharpen your faith.
---mike4879 on 1/5/17

Jesus had sinners as friends but Jesus also said to "dust off the soles of your feet and move on" if they don't want to better their ways.
Jesus didn't hang out with sinners to have a beer and go along with their filthy ways, he hung out with them to try to save them by preaching the gospel. But if they were total reprobates, he moved on.
---Juan_Cazador on 8/15/16

How would you bring them to Christ if you are not their friend first?

Who will tell them the Good News if not you and I?
---Nicole_Lacey on 1/24/16

Matthew 9,12 - But when Jesus heard that, he said to them, They that are whole need not a physician But they that are sick
---RichardC on 1/20/16

Rita is right.

Doesn't anyone read the Gospels anymore???

Jesus' buddies were the worst types of sinners on the planet.

Jesus changed their behavior just by loving them.

So, Jesus commands us to do the same.

Be examples, not follow bad examples.
---Nicole_Lacey on 1/17/16

Virtually all Christians will have unsaved, friends, relatives and neighbours. If we ceased being friends to these people what kind of witness do we have. We should behave correctly with them, pray for them, witness to them as the Lord gives opportunity, help them when help is needed.

What we must not do is join them in unChristianlike behaviour and we must not be unequally yoked with them (which could mean in marriage or a business partnership).
---Rita_H on 1/13/16

no it is not save because they might convince you out of faith especially when you are new to the faith and even when you are grounded they might be a distraction ll you need to do for them is pray
---morgan_kate on 1/7/16

This will be quick and short.

Jesus had sinners as friends.

Do what Jesus did.

---Nicole_Lacey on 12/13/15

Paul you are correct in your understanding about hanging with wordly people,Jesus said in 2 Corinthians, chapter 6 starting with verse 14,be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness?and what communion hath light with darkness. verse 17 says: wherefore come from among them, and be ye separate,saith the lord,and touch not the unclean thing, and i will recieve you. amen
---barbara on 12/12/15

I feel better in good company of Christian fellowship. Temptations are too great in the secular world with secular friends.
The truth is
1 Corinthians 15
33(AY)Do not be deceived: "Bad company corrupts good morals."
---Paul on 6/20/08

With an attitude like that, you won't have any friends left.
If someone refuses to come to your church, they may have some valid reasons. If your church is not what they want, why would you stop being friends with them?
They have a God given right to choose which church they want to attend in the US of A.
They'll be watching your example if they are not saved, if you give them a good swift kick, they really won't see the benefits of what you have.
---lisa on 6/15/08

Yes, keep all friends. Live your life be example. Show them your love of God. Just because they do not want to go to your Church does not mean they are not worth your time. Live like Jesus. Show love to all.
---Donna on 6/15/08

Mar 8:21 And he said unto them, How is it that ye do not understand?

Mat 8:26 And he saith unto them, Why are ye fearful, O ye of little faith? Then he arose, and rebuked the winds and the sea, and there was a great calm.
---Frank on 6/15/08

Act 4:10 Be it known unto you all, and to all the people of Israel, that by the name of Jesus Christ of Nazareth, whom ye crucified, whom God raised from the dead, even by him doth this man stand here before you whole.

Rom 14:4 Who art thou that judgest another man's servant? to his own master he standeth or falleth. Yea, he shall be holden up: for God is able to make him stand.
---Frank on 6/15/08

1Co 12:16 And if the ear shall say, Because I am not the eye, I am not of the body, is it therefore not of the body?

2Th 1:12 That the name of our Lord Jesus Christ may be glorified in you, and ye in him, according to the grace of our God and the Lord Jesus Christ.

Look to your own heart to save him.
Maybe I speak babble!
---frank on 6/15/08

"Should We Keep Unsaved Friends?" If you are still weak in your walk of faith, separate yourself. If your are mature and certain of your relationship with Christ consider this. "Why does your master eat with publicans and sinners? Answer "They that be whole need not a physician, but they that are sick. I will have mercy, and not sacrifice: For I am not come to call the righteous, but sinners to repentance." Ref. Mt.9:10-13 Your light is a guide for those still trapped in darkness.
---josef on 6/15/08

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Frank, if they dont believe in Jesus Christ the Son of God, wouldn't that be a hint that they are not saved? Obviously I'm not talking about some tribe in a remote corner of the earth that has never heard the Gospel.
In response to the original question, I think it's not only "right" for us to keep friendships with unsaved people...but it's our mission as Christians. Let God's love shine on everyone, not just other Christians, or those showing interest. :-)
---Todd1 on 6/15/08

Hi God keep you.
First of all how do you know there unsaved?
Rom 9:19
Rom 9:20
Rom 9:21
Rom 9:22
Rom 9:23 And that he might make known the riches of his glory on the vessels of mercy, which he had afore prepared unto glory,
How do you know?
---Frank on 6/15/08

Yes, you should still be friends with them. If they are doing something that you are struggling to stay away from, then distance yourself for a season. God wants us to spread His love and to share with others what He has done for us, and how much He loves us. Make sure that you pray about it, and be patient. Shine your light into the darkness. And congratulations!
---Kristin on 6/14/08

Yes, you should still be friends with them. If they are doing something that you are struggling to stay away from, then distance yourself for a season. God wants us to spread His love and to share with others what He has done for us, and how much He loves us. Make sure that you pray about it, and be patient. Shine your light into the darkness. And congratulations!
---Kristin on 6/14/08

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J. Nonymous, also, I read all your blog replies, which are on the whole intelligent and thoughtful. So I gave you a vote!
---InimicusStultitiae on 12/16/07

J. Nonymous, there is no one living to arbitrate theological disputes. Nevertheless, here are the passages you asked me for: John.3.17, John.4.42, John.12.32, Rom.5.18-20, Rom.11.32, 1.Cor.15.22, 1.Cor.15.27-28, 2.Cor.5.18-19, Eph.1.9-10, Phil.2.9-11, Col.1.19-20, 1.Tim.2.3-6, 1.Tim.4.9-10, Heb.2.9, and 1.John.2.2. Hope that helps. Merry Christmas!
---InimicusStultitiae on 12/14/07

InimicusStultitiae: Don't talk. Just show me. Where are you finding this? We all have a choice don't we? Otherwise we can go about our merry way and not believe Christ. Sound silly?

I'm not judging your salvation, but I am judging your theology. If I'm wrong, point me to the scripture that tells me so.
---j._nonymous on 12/14/07

Umm, catherine, you seldom refer to Scripture but do give us your own interpretation of it.
God Bless you in all of your studies, sister catherine.
---lovable_linda on 12/14/07

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Catherine, blessings. Anyone who says they speak for God is proud and arrogant. And silly. Merry Christmas to you and yours.
---InimicusStultitiae on 12/14/07

J. Nonymous, also, anyone who does not believe that God will save everyone must ignore scriptures pointing in that direction. We all pick and choose, don't we. It is the nature of the theological beast.
---InimicusStultitiae on 12/14/07

Betty: going to a bar or drinking is not a sin. Being a drunkard IS.

Lets not forget that Jesus 1st miricle was making about 100 gallons of top notch wine for people at a wedding party who had already been drinking.

If we hold Christ to the same standards of some who blog here, HE would be considered a sinner.
---j._nonymous on 12/14/07

I never give opinions, my friend, I speak the word of God.
---catherine on 12/14/07

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well how in the word do you witness to people
that are not saved if you have nothing to do with then Jesus said go into all the world and teach them now if they would now have witnese to unsaved people they people would not ever be saved it doesn't mean go to the bars and do the sins they do
---Betty on 12/14/07

InimicusStultitiae: you'd have to overlook a whole lot of scripture to come to this conclusion.

What is the basis of your thought on this? What scripture?
---j._nonymous on 12/13/07

Yes and no. This is one situation that needs to be looked at in terms of spiritual warfare. We are called to be salt and light to the world. Obviously, this means the unsaved. However, I know someone who goes into bars to talk to people about Jesus. This is akin to being in a military war and walking into the enemy army's camp. I understand the motive, but it's not wise. Get them alone, away from the negative influence that has kept them from Jesus.
---Greyrider on 12/13/07

Catherine, bless you. We are all welcome to our opinions.
---InimicusStultitiae on 12/13/07

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Jesus did not die for all people. Jesus died for His people. The ones that He had chosen before the foundation of this world. Did I blow your mind? I certainly hope so.
---catherine on 12/13/07

Since Jesus died for all, and God wishes everyone to be saved, and God gets everything He wishes for, there are ultimately no unsaved people. So you don't have to shun any of your friends.
---InimicusStultitiae on 12/12/07

No if ands or butts. Saved people are not to associate with unsaved people. What in this world do you have in common with the unredeemned if you have been redeemned? I refuse to argue. And Jesus never made friends with unbelievers. Sure He ate with them He never made friends with them. Well, so do I . You would to leave this old world to get maway from them.
---catherine on 12/12/07

I must agree...close friends should be of like thinking. otherwise you could get drawn into something you dont agree with. But friends come in all shapes and sizes, just not the CLOSEST friends. They need to be committed Christians if you are.
---Tony on 12/12/07

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I Corinthians 5:9-11 sheds light on the subject. While it is not wise to keep close company with a lost person, Paul makes it clear that he did not intend to say that we should not have anything to do with them. We would be unable to do what God has called us to do if we do not make friends with lost people. On the other hand, when a person claims to be saved and still practices the sins mentioned in verse 11, we aren't to even eat with this person.
---Timothy_Fish on 12/10/07

Absolutely, I think it good that we show them Jesus as often as possible.

While we are not of this world we sure are in it. That doesn't mean we overlook all their sin but at the same time speak freely about it if you need to.

Have you ever caught someone's gaze upon you and you knew them but when you look back they pretend they didn't see you?

That doesn't feel good, people like to be aknowledged; keep the friend, inspire them teach them. Jesus ate with sinners.
---Pharisee on 5/14/07

To Tonya-please give us a definition of what you think leading one to Christ is.
---mima on 8/2/06

I kept my friends we just had to make adjustments, Pray for guidance.
---tonya on 8/2/06

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When I accepted Christ, I kept two unsaved friends. One eventually separated herself from me because my lifestyle brought too much conviction for her. The other friend accepted Christ. I maintained those friendships for the purpose of leading them to Christ. Praise God one was reached.
---Tonya on 10/13/05

So Ann I am supposed to disown my father-n-law? As far as I know (I don't know his heart) he is a sinner. but yet, I set a good example of how a christian is supposed to be. I have love ones that doesn't have God in their heart, I can't not be around them. I love them but I hate their sin. I am a strong child of God to fight off the sin that is in others lives. Maybe people don't show love continue to be friends is because they are weak.
---Rebecca_D on 9/19/05

When we remain close friends with the unsaved we embrace their sin and will be held accountable for that sin also. most people do not understand this. Besides what could you still have in common? Scripture asks what fellowship hath light with dark?
---ann_G on 9/19/05

What the lost?
You mean the "WORDLY PEOPLE. Dont paint them as the "lost" people. Everyone has heard of GOD one way or the other. If someone has not heard of him, then God will be the judge of their lives as to how they will get to know him.

It is absolutely not right for Christian people to keep friendship with the worldly people. Do you ever see the good person make friends with the bad person? Good and bad don't mix folks.
---sun on 9/18/05

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We are to show the Love of God to everyone and for some yes we have to love them to Christ. I think many can say that they wouold not be Christians today had not a FRIEND showed them the way. If we ignore the lost how will they ever find Jesus? You do not have to copy thier actions but show them love and unserstanding in Christ and let God work through the friendship.
---Marla on 9/17/05

Where jesus and his apostles friends?
---sun on 9/16/05

I minister to the street folk and the homeless and many have become my friends, some have even become Christians because of what I do, more may become Christians. We are called to sow the seed, and we can only do that through exhibiting how God loves each person, regardless. Only God knows when or if the seed will be harvested
---Margaret on 9/15/05

Sun, I know you are being sincere in what you are trying to say. Your thinking is to be friendly but not a friend. I disagree. "What a friend we have in Jesus". He ate with "sinners", stayed at their homes and even trusted them to be his disciples. Not a bad example to follow.
---ralph7477 on 9/14/05

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Of course we should keep friendships with our unsaved friends, to cut them off would be sin. I have friends and coworkers that are unsaved, and in my friendships with them, I am able to show them salt and light in my life as a believer. To do otherwise would be to turn Christianity into a holy huddle of useless people who only send missionaries and evangelists out into the world to lead the lost to Christ.
---Madison on 9/14/05

It is wrong to fellowship with non-christians even thought you have to shop,work and live in this world with them. It's Ok to talk to them and consider them collegues and have simple conversions with them but never think of them as "Real" friends.
Ralph,no "Christain" is implying anything and we actual think before we are tempted to sin.That's the difference if you ask us.
---sun on 9/14/05

Sometime we are so DEEP! You have to have some fellowship with the unsaved or I would have cut my father off, My sister, brother and spouse. Catch the fish first, then clean it.
---maine on 9/14/05

We should keep the friendship of those we are attracted. If we only deal with those who go to our church, we are shortchanging our mission for we miss the fellowship of many. We can not close doors on all.

The test is---IS your strength and your faith so strong that you can be a leader in faith rather than a follower of your friends beliefs and morals. I hope so---so that you can become stronger in your walk with Jesus.
---chuck on 9/14/05

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Friendship, amity, comity characterize the relationship between persons, nations, etc. There is an affectionate desire 2 give sympathy & aid. Mutual liking & esteem
Amity refers 2 the absence of discord rather than 2 positive affection or regard.
Comity is applied 2 nations or parties more often than 2 individuals & denotes courteous respect 4 the wishes & rights of others.
Fellowship - joined together by common interests,ideals, beliefs or experiences often of the same class, kind or group.
---barbara67 on 9/14/05

Adulterers and adulteresses! Friendship with the world is enmity with God. Whoever therefore wants to be a friend of the world makes himself an enemy of God. James 4:4

Tough verse. Not to worry. Once we are a Christian our interests take us into a different world quite naturally. Stats say within 3 years of conversion, we will have only Christian friends. All the non Christians will have disappeared from our life. Incredible.
---barbara67 on 9/14/05

We are in a spiritual warfare and there are two generals. God and Satan. To be friends of the unsaved -for the sake of fellowship- is forbidden "Be not unequally yoked...what fellowship hath light with darkness...". Our orders are to go to them and make disciples "Go ye into all the world..."
The single most powerful and tool at our disposal is one-on-one, personal evanglism.
---Bruce5656 on 9/13/05

In order to accomplish this, we need to build bridges of friendship into peoples lives. Not for fellowship, but to rescue them and bring them back if you will, to God's side. (one-on-one, personal evangelism). In mililtary terms, we are secret agents recruting among the enemy. Jesus was a friend of sinners. NOT for fellowship but evangelism.
---Bruce5656 on 9/13/05

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It is not wrong to fellowship with non-christians after all you have shop,work and live in this world. However, when you become more comfortable hanging out with them than christians you need to do a spiritual check because you've lost something along the way
---Maine_Joseph on 9/13/05

It is not wrong to fellowship with non-christians after all you have shop,work and live in this world. However, when you become more comfortable hanging out with them than christians you need to do a spiritual check because you've lost something along the way
---Maine_Joseph on 9/13/05

To those of you who talk about befriending sinners, you imply that you no longer sin. I interact with non-christians as well as christians. Some of the "sinners" I know are more genuine friends and I enjoy their company much more than some of the self-righteous, phony christians I have to deal with.
---ralph7477 on 9/13/05

Rev. Herb

I belive you are wrong in saying this:

Therefore if any man be in Christ, he is a new creature, OLD things pass away, behold all thing become new.(((You are made new, not everyone else,,,Our job in this world is to lead sinners to christ by way of our new light and our testomony not to just drop them))))

An un-Christian friend will bring you down to there level rather than you bringing them to your level (((Go ye into all the world and preach the gosple to every creature.
---Eric on 9/13/05

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go sofly with your friends, we go by example all others who are non beleivers will get it soon enough
---laurie on 9/13/05

i think it is okay to be friends with sinners and all but you need to be careful not to let them influence you i wouldnt be best friends with a sinner but i will be a true friend to one let your light shine on them and eventually it will pierce their darkness
---andre9789 on 9/13/05

I don't think that it is our role to tag others as "saved" or "unsaved" BUT it is our role to love our neihbor as we love ourselves.
---Pierr7958 on 9/13/05

there are different stages of friendship. God expects us to mix feely with everyone even as Jesus did but you cannot be intimately close to an unbeliever, you can be friendly but not close friends.
---julie on 9/13/05

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an unsaved person probably wouldn't want to be friends with a christian person. They would feel uncomfortable. Be friends with her, but don't go to worldly places with her.
---shira_5965 on 9/13/05

Therefore if any man be in Christ, he is a new creature, OLD things pass away, behold all thing become new.

An un-Christian friend will bring you down to there level rather than you bringing them to your level
---Rev_Herb on 9/13/05

...I once befriended a girl tangled up in new age things. I invited her to church no less than 10 times, she went and was judged by a church member (satan at work) I persisted with the friendship and one evening I asked her to accept Jesus and she said the sinners prayer right there right then, after saved she then went to church....God was not letting go of that one! Just don't be influenced and be pulled into the world but shine your light and pray for salvation and revelation. Be bold.
---Maxine on 9/13/05

My philosophy is that unless we befriend sinners then they will never have the opportunity to see us witness Jesus love. Jesus spent time amongst sinners, not the religios of the day. The key is to not let worldly stuff influence us, but be strong in the Lord. Never give up on praying for your friend...
---Maxine on 9/13/05

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Christians' responsibility is not to convert people but to witness Christ and model Christ likeness. We are told to live in the world by being salt and light. Hence, though the depth of our friendship differs, I don't believe that we need to cut off all our relationships unless we are unequally yoked.
---seble on 9/13/05

my daughter had an unsaved friend kept inviting her to church but she didn't want to go then one day she asked my daughter if we could take her to church. Every since that day she has been going and she was just baptisted afew weeks ago. We never gave up on her. She had excepted the lord but wasn't walking the path of jesus then all sudden we started seeing big changes in her. Don't give up on the person. We never did.
---debbie23453 on 9/13/05

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