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Am I Too Old For Marriage

My girlfriend broke up with me and I'm so sad! I'm 33 years old and right now I'm going through a very hard time. I have never been married and it seems that I will never find the right girl... am I getting too old to find the right person?

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 ---Mark on 9/29/05
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To Bill_willa6989:I just want to share a tidbit with you. It may help you. It did for me. You may have to lighten up some on the bible when you are out on a date with a lady.Live your best life for Christ. You don't have to talk about Christ 24 hours per day. We are to share the Gospel with others but take a break every so often.Sometimes we need to just relax and enjoy life.When you are with a woman, just concentrate on her and having a good time. Don't talk about Jesus Christ or anything concerning the church etc..get my point? Just let your light shine. Others will see it. And Jesus Christ will certainly know it.
---Robyn on 1/19/11

There are women who would break up with me because I do not give them what they selfishly want. Really Christian women can see how I really am so they don't get started with me! So, I need to get more real in God's love so I am doing everything "without complaining and disputing" (in Philippians 2:14), and "submitting to one another in the fear of God." (Ephesians 5:21) And be humble and gentle in His love's "gentle and quiet spirit, which is very precious in the sight of God." (in 1 Peter 3:4) Then God can make me attractive to a woman who is honest and real, if He wants. It's God's choice.
---Bill_willa6989 on 1/18/11

Yes you are getting too old to find the perfect girl

By Age 33 many are devorced, and still have some contact with their EX, be it because of a child or alimony, but it will be 3 of you in that marriage plus any children of hers.

OR she has children and never been married. She will have a relationship with the EX for child support. In this case again 3 of you in a relationship.

the older you are, the more your chances of finding the perfect mate goes down.

---francis on 1/18/11

No. Perhaps marriage is too big of a concern... U may have bigger spiritual fish to fry.. B anxious about nothing...
---Withheld on 1/18/11

No one is ever too old to marry. If you are in your right mind and has a willing partner. Go for it! Marriage is good and right and honorable. Ordained by God. But the flip side is: it can be the most horrifying experience of your life if you marry someone you are not compatible with and does not love. Always take your time before taking the plunge.
---Robyn on 11/9/07

I'm 52, never married and still hopeful that God will bring His choice to me- NO, you are never too old. A couple in our church recently got married....she's 79, he's 69- God bless'em.
---Ann5758 on 11/7/07

A dear friend of mine was broken hearted because her boyfriend left her for another. Who could ever thought that she will ever decide to get married at the age of 60. She had just celebrated her 9th wedding anniversary. The moral lesson of the story, GOD MADE ALL THINGS BEAUTIFUL IN HIS TIME.
---dela3435 on 2/6/07

Does anyone know what happened to Mark???
---Pat on 2/1/07

Mark:: Dont throw in the towel before you have even used it;I think you are straining at the leash & have cold feet.Lighten up get closer to Almighty God Sincerely, & He will tell you Who why & if its time to step on the gas. Just be cool & keep to the rules & do not have Road rage.develop good driving (maratial habits) sense remember treat her with kid gloves now & forever.
---Emcee on 1/27/07

Grief after the "death" of a relationship is normal. Give it some time and join in Christian fellowship! Meet new people! Time heals all things. God Bless!
---Just_Me on 1/26/07

As long as you are alive you are never too old. God has heard your heart's cry and he knows what's best for you. The waiting is always the hardest part. I prayed 20 years for a wife and finally God answered when I stopped trying to look so hard and just let go and let God take over.
---craig on 11/3/05

You realy do not have to look for a mate. God will bring the right women at the right time. You are a very young man. Spend time with the Lord, wait on God. It was better to not have someone whom you may have spent the rest of your life with and in misery. Be blessed. The pain will eventually leave and their will be a place for who you are suppose to be with. It was not her. God is faithful. It"s hard to see beyond pain. Your time will come. He gives us the desires of our heart. Be patient.
---Rosa_Copeland on 10/10/05

Ann, I know that there are some fine women out there. All I'm saying is that I have had enough. Life is too short. It's time to enjoy the rest of it. I'm open to friendships with women and even an occasional dinner. But I'll never marry one again. I'll tell you what, if Elijah the prophet knocks at my door with a woman next to him and tells me that this is the woman God wants for me, I will listen. Even if she's a hag!(vintage Rev. Herb)
---ralph7477 on 10/10/05

Ralph, I'm sorry for what happened to you. But have you totally closed yourself up to the possibility of a relationship? If God brought a woman into your life and said, "this is the one I have chosen for you, & I will make you able to love again", would you say "sorry, Lord, I've made my decision- find her someone else." I hope not. Don't judge all women by what happened in your past. We're not all out to hurt men. Some of us just want to love & be loved- even us over 40.
---Ann5758 on 10/9/05

Bethie, you sound sweet. Thanks for your kind words. As a matter of fact I was a star player. But like most professional athletes who hit 40 I've decided it's time to hang up the spikes and be a commentator rather than a player. A lot less injuries that way. I could go through the motions and be everything a woman could dream of, but my heart just wouldn't be in it anymore.
---ralph7477 on 10/9/05

1John 3:22 And whatsoever we ask, we receive of him, because we keep his commandments, and do those things that are pleasing in his sight. And this is his commandment, That we should believe on the name of his Son Jesus Christ, and love one another, as he gave us commandment.
You can ask the Lord for a spouse if you want one, if not that is ok too.
---Ulrika on 10/9/05

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Ralph, I am pretty sure if you took a deeper look inside, you would find lots to offer. I understand you have been hurt, and I am sorry for that, but please don't take yourself "out of the game", I think you just may be a star player.
---bethie on 10/9/05

I have forgiven but I have not forgotten. Those who forget the past are bound to repeat it.
---ralph7477 on 10/8/05

Ralph, have you in your heart forgiven the women who hurt you?
Forgiving is commaned in scripture. Matthew 6:14,15 \18:35 Mark 11:25.26
It is important for your emotional health also. I learned that from personal experience.
---Ulrika on 10/7/05

No I'm not bitter toward women, just realistic. Steve, if I find a keeper I'll send her your way. There's nothing left inside of me to give her anyway. It will be just me and the Lord from now on and that's a good thing. Being single and free does have benefits. Ulrika you are right, I won't be hurt or fooled again. What's wrong with that?
---ralph7477 on 10/6/05

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Top models wouldn't want, or need your money!
My husband is 62 and a true gift from God. I am 56 and we have been married for 2 years.
He had never been married, I was divorced long ago and have a grown son. We have a great life together.

(I hear Jeraldleen married Elder for his money, then found out he didn't have any, so she figured she may as well love him.)
---NVBarbara on 10/6/05

Ralph if Mrs Right is already married then she is Mrs Wrong.They say that married life is a gamble,but it is not true. I was married for 54 years.Seek & you will find prayer & trust are the tools. But your decision of Choice, is still the ball in your court.A broken pledge is a hard pill to swallow but hang in there, you will find one worthy of your admiration,& if you dont she will, just treat her with respect when the time comes.
---Emcee on 10/6/05

Ralph, You have allowed some hurtful experiences in your past to cause you to become bitter towards women. You have put up a wall, so no woman can get near your heart, so you can not get hurt again.
It will work, women will not hurt you if you don't have anything to do with them. You are hurting yourself instead.
---Ulrika on 10/6/05

, ralph, don't give up. there is bound to be at least one woman out there who is not after money. i haven't found the right girl for myself, but i'm still looking.
---steve on 10/6/05

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Emcee, wouldn't Mrs. Right already be married? Seriously though, I do appreciate your words, however I've taken myself out of the game. Many people choose to ignore reality but I can't. I used to be idealistic where romance was concerned. I wish I still was but I have had to change for my own well being. I'm not a gambler with money and I've chosen to no longer gamble with my heart.
---ralph7477 on 10/6/05

Ralph: here are a few sayings :all is fair in love & war __faint heart never won a fair lady--If you lose try try again --for every man there is A WOMAN ---you are in your prime & yet some to go-- women are searching too---hope you meet Mrs Right soon.--Prayer is a powerful tool.
---Emcee on 10/6/05

Reread your post, Ralph.
---Heather on 10/6/05

Ralph, the actions of one don't give anyone reason to stereotype. Yes, there are some women who are that way, but don't pigeon-hole the rest of us.
---Heather on 10/6/05

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Heather, Xanthi, please refer to recently posted blog "I Don't Love My Fiancee". Another poor fellow is blindsided by a woman who either misled him or didn't know what she wanted.
---ralph7477 on 10/6/05

Oh, come on Heather. Lighten up a bit. Why would you be insulted to hear somebody tell it like it is? A guy like Mark deserves to hear all viewpoints before he decides to take the risk of a broken heart again. I didn't say every woman is indecisive or misleading. There are also men who are jerks. Why should I be insulted to hear somebody come out and say it?
---ralph7477 on 10/6/05

I know where you're at. I'm divorced and lately I've been talking to God about the whole dating thing...I've been asking God "so when is someone going to ask me out?" & I keep getting the same response "wait". God has someone for us far greater than we can think or imagine. If they're not sold out for God then it's just a waste of our time. I keep telling myself that, yet the desire keeps coming back, time and time again & He still says "Wait." Be encouraged!
---Sherry on 10/6/05

Steve, I can't speak for Xanthi, but I suspect Xanthi meant the same part I did. There's no objection (from me) that women prefer financially stable men because that's fact. However, it was not only insulting but thoroughly uncalled for (and very unchristian), for Ralph to talk about women never saying what they mean or knowing what they want.
---Heather on 10/5/05

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Sorry that should say GOOD not GOD. oops. And this is bit I was replying to:- 'I'll rather be with a nice and kind woman that will really love me for who I am, than being with a top model that only wants my money...'
---Xanthi on 10/5/05

Mark, the right girl for you is out there, and she will be worth the wait. God bless! As to the last part of Ralph's comment, I kida have to agree with it, I am 33, single, and I have NO IDEA what I want.
---bethie on 10/5/05

God for you Mark. Steve, there have been plenty comments in the past, on various threads, regarding looking at the inner person rather than the outward appearance.
---Xanthi on 10/5/05

Mark, your desire is the desire of most men. It sounds like such a simple thing; to find a woman who will love unconditionally. Unfortunately I've come to the conclusion that those wonderful women are few and far between. They are out there somewhere so don't give up if you still have it in you to continue searching.
---ralph7477 on 10/4/05

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Steve the "over 40" is not your problem.
---Elder on 10/4/05

Mark, concentrate on being the man that God would have you to be for His woman. Build up your Spiritual self and don't worry about the physical. Seek those about your age and serve the Lord. Get your thoughts right about how to treat the lady and serve her needs. When you become all you can in the Lord the right Lady will show up.
You cannot have fleshly needs in mind and hope to keep her though.
---Elder on 10/4/05

, xanthi and heather, i don't see what ralph said that was so out of line. nobody objects when someone says that men prefer beautiful women, so why object when someone says women prefer financially well-off men?
---steve on 10/4/05

Ralph, no I don't but I do know a 62 year old one, but she's taken!! and not by a toy-boy.
---Xanthi on 10/4/05

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You are never too old to find the right person that the Lord has for you. Stop looking and let God do the chosing. I have many friends who were married after 40, after 50, after 60, etc. My mother married my step-father when they were both over 60 and it was a wonderful marriage.
---Sally on 10/4/05

The reason I posted this question is that I am wondering if I will ever find the right person for me. I don't care if she is 20, 30 or 40 years old... I'll rather be with a nice and kind woman that will really love me for who I am, than being with a top model that only wants my money...
---Mark on 10/4/05

Good answer, Xanthi, I don't know any woman (including myself) who could've stated that any better.
---Heather on 10/4/05

You sound so desperate, that does scare people away! you are ONLY 33 yrs old, there are people who are twice your age and are still in search of that special someone. Make your request known to God, Hes the one that knows where the one meant for you is and He will get the two of you together.Blessings.
---Lily9364 on 10/4/05

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It wasn't meant to be funny, nor insulting. It's how I see things from my perspective which is why I included the word "seem". I feel for guys like Mark who posted the question. I've been where he is and worse so I become passionate about the subject. If women would be more honest with themselves and men a lot of heartache could be avoided. Nobody can argue with that. BTW, do you know any wealthy 50 year old women? :)
---ralph7477 on 10/4/05

Ralph, unless that was meant to be funny, the second half of your post is quite insulting. Regarding the first half, it could be equally true that if a 50 year old woman inherited a fortune SOME younger men might suddenly find her quite attractive also.
---Xanthi on 10/4/05

Steve, if you inherited a couple million dollars, 40 all of a sudden wouldn't seem so old to a lot of women. You would also probably get much better looking too. You should know by now not to take too seriously the things that women tell you. Half of them don't seem to know what they want and the other half don't seem to mean what they say.
---ralph7477 on 10/3/05

Yes Steve, if you are over 40, and you are asking a 25 year old to marry you, of course she will want someone under 40!
---alan8869_of_UK on 10/3/05

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, we all wish that time stood still, but i speak from experience. women don't want a man who is over forty, they all seem to want younger men. that's what they tell me.
---steve on 10/3/05

There is a gentleman who posts on this site a lot who feels that if a woman isn't married by the time she's 40, she's too old to get married, & there's either something wrong with her or she doesn't want to get married. Don't let anyone tell you that any age is too old. The love & passion is still there when you're 70 as it is when you're 30. God bless you, & I hope you find Christ through this site or however Christ wants to reveal Himself to you.
---Ann5758 on 10/1/05

Mark I also asked the same question to myself. But I realized that God has a purpose for everything. I'm supposed to get married in 2001 but the Lord did not allow it. Im 32 now, never been married but I don't feel old because God is the joy of my life. Cheer up! The right girl will come soon.
---zeppellin on 9/30/05

Mark, it is find to want to be married. What is even more important is being saved. John 3:16 No one will ever love you more than God does.
---Ulrika on 9/30/05

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Mark, you're a 'kid!' My husband and I have been married for 2 years, he was 59 when we married and had never been married.
My son is 32 and unmarried. He is waiting and praying for the right woman. Don't loose hope.
Learn about God, ask Jesus into your heart and live a moral life. Ms.Right will show up and be a blessing to you!
God bless you!
---NVBarbara on 9/30/05

Mark how awesome that you asked advice at all. So many young people just "do their own thing". Bless you as God leads you forward on your journey with Him. I never think anything happens by accident and I truely believe God led you here to receive hope and so much more! He will answer the real desire of your heart with a relationship with Him if you but ask Him to showyou the way. For He is that way.
Love you Bother.
email me at rache7576 if you like
---rache on 9/30/05

Hi everyone...
I gotta thank you all for the great advices, you have no idea what they mean to me. I am not a christian, but I found this site and started reading all the posts, and due to the fact that right now I am going through a very hard time, I felt the need to post this.You will not believe how good it feels to see that people that don't know me, are giving me hope. Thank you.

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---Mark on 9/30/05

sounds like you got more brains than I had. Wish I had waited. God will send you the right person.
---shira_5965 on 9/29/05

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We were married April, 2005. He's 63 and I'm 60....met him on this site. Having the time of our lives!!!!
---Dee on 9/29/05

Mark, please do not be discouraged. NO you are NOT too old to find someone to marry.
My aunt is getting married next week for 1st time, She is 76 yrs old and head over heels in love! I am 39 and waiting for Mr right.
There is no age limit on what God has in store or on such important happenings n one's life. Pray and wait apon the Lord. He will not let you down. Just wait in his timing not yours and you will be blessed abundantly.
---Marla on 9/29/05

Mark, that sounds like a defeated attitude. We have victory in Jesus. This is just a minor set back. Maybe you just need to reset your priorities. Reflect on what direction you want to go. Trust in the Lord! Never give up! Especially don't rush things, pray and meditate on God's will and direction.
---geraa7578 on 9/29/05

There is no age limit. Might I suggest you concentrate on becoming all you are made to be in Christ. Learn what a godly husband is and pray to become that. Learn communication skills and relationship skills. Pray for the wife God has for you rather than seek. Know what you want realisticlly and do not compromise. Look at why this last girlfriend broke up with you and sincerely ask God where do I need to change. And 33 is sooooo young.
---rache on 9/29/05

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Mark, you are so young! My mother married for the first time at 35 and my parents enjoyed 44 years of happy marriage.

I know it is sad to see a relationship end, and I have been where you are. Sometimes, after a length of time, you realize that the relationship's end was a blessing in disguise. Hang in there! You sound like a great guy some girl would be lucky to meet.
---Annie on 9/29/05

Cheer up-you have 66 more years to find a wife. Do you want to change your lifestyle and habits to say you are married? Often, we cherish what we do not have without knowing all the costs in the change. If you like yourself now, what are you willing to give for a mate?? Obviously, you are going to build a relationship based on past ideas and habits and so is your mate.
God answers prayers and you are on His time clock.
---chuck on 9/29/05

Hang on bro.I know its not easy for you.But keep the faith.I ve a brother who got married at 40 and he is happy.You will find the right one for yourself.
---pkay on 9/29/05

Nonsense, I know of a sister from a brethren church who got married (for the first time!!) at the age of 60, and you have not even reached your peak so to speak! What in the world is old about 33 please??? In my church there are two women married to men by far older than they are... and they are good loving mature Christian couples! (And these men married by far later than 33.) So don't loose courage, no reason at all!
---Gretchen on 9/29/05

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I do not believe there is a age limit. It says in Corinthians that a marriage should be of like minds, of the same faith, a strong foundation, and equally yoked. I would worry more about trying to find someone that has the same beliefs as you, that seems to be more difficult to find.
---Cyndy on 9/29/05

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