Evangelist Is Talking Dirty To Me
An evangelist pal of mine shocked me 2 days ago when he said its ok to have sex before marriage as long as the couple intend to marry, he claims its biblical. Yesterday he tried to engage me in dirty sex talk. Am very troubled about this. He has asked me to marry him. Please advise me.
Moderator - Don't walk away from him. RUN! In addition, report him to his pastor.
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---ijeom7677 on 10/27/05
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That very same thing happened to me as well. And any person man or woman who uses the BIBLE by twisting the words to make their own selfish lust ok does not care about Your salvation or theirs. Right,dont walk RUN>>>>>>>>>>FAST.
---MONIQUE on 2/17/08|
Sounds like he is looking after his own self-interests (lust) and seeking to justify it by using God's ordained covenant of marriage to do so.
"Let no man say when he is tempted, I am tempted of God: for God cannot be tempted with evil, neither tempteth he any man: but every man is tempted when, when he is drawn away of his own lust, and enticed. Then when lust hath conceived, it bringeth forth sin: and sin, when it is finished, bringeth forth death. Do not err my beloved brethren."
---Deborah on 7/16/07|
All I can say is "Oh Barf". I hope you ran away from this guy. This was some time ago, but I don't think he's marriage material or an evangelist.
---Raine on 8/13/06|
Gar, please make sure you're responding to the right blog. Madison didn't say anything about bickering here.
---Ann5758 on 10/29/05|
Gar how would Madison know if she liked the blog or not if she didn't enter and read it?
Listen to her you might learn something.
---Elder on 10/29/05|
I'm with you on this one Madison, I have no idea either what Gar is talking about.
---M.P. on 10/28/05|
Gar ... madison has a point.
On another blog also, you have posted something which has nothing to do with the subject!!
---alan8869_of_UK on 10/28/05|
Gar; I reread my post and cannot figure out what you are talking about.
---Madison on 10/28/05|
In a case like this,a grown woman only becomes a victim when she allows herself to be.You have the power and the right to say no.This is a dirty "ole" man.A Christian woman shouldn't even be friends with him,let alone marry him.If he is this dirty /sinful now,what kind of filth/perversion would he expect in a sexual relationship in marriage.Advice,remember Christians don't act like that,end the relationship.
---Darlene_1 on 10/28/05|
Brother Elder, again, a great answer. "Only you can prevent forrest fires." that is so true. How do you think of this answers brother? I would have thought of running but why run if the fire is not burning yet, walk away from a dangerous area. And you will prevent one.
---Lupe2618 on 10/28/05|
Hi Madison:) The web owners set up a site where people could share their views on various questions. Why are you calling it bickering for crying out loud haha? Why do you enter the site and read the responses if you don t like it? Why not just ignore it . In love :) gar
---gar on 10/28/05|
He's a ravenous wolf in sheep's clothing. Tell him to leave the flesh and to get back into the Spirit to serve the Lord as commanded. He needs to return to the Lord for forgiveness, else his sin will surely find him out.
---Eloy on 10/28/05|
Put as much distance between this evangelist and you as possible. One of the best salesmen in the world is a man in "heat". A man can justify sex outside of marriage and use the Bible to do prove his point. (I've seen this happen before.) There is NEVER any justification for sex outside of marriage.
---WIVV on 10/27/05|
No one can cause you to have any kind of emotional reaction without your first giving them permission to do so. You alone are responsible for your feelings and emotions. When you know what you plan to do with your life, you will not allow annoying situations to deter you from your goals for long.
---emman6684 on 10/27/05|
Call his pastor and set up a meeting for the three of you. Tell the pastor, in front of the evangelist, all he told you. Tell them both that you never want this evangelist to call or speak to you again.
---Madison on 10/27/05|
He is wrong. Just because one plans to marry does not make the law any different for him. He is making
excuses to get you to commit adultry.
So what happens if you sleep with him and then he calls off the wedding?
You can do better than him. Like moderator says RUN!
---Marla on 10/27/05|
He is seeking his own pleasure and hopes that you are what he thinks you are.
Remember what I have said before from famous ol' Smokey the Bear.....Only YOU can prevent Forrest fires.
Call the Church Fire Dept. (Leadership) and tell'em what is going on.
---Elder on 10/27/05|
Yeah...with Sean on that one. Tell him you would like to bring his request up to the pastor for safety. If he starts to backpedal, you will have your answer.
---Deborah on 10/27/05|
A wolf in sheeps clothing expose him to his congregation-then move on
---Emcee on 10/27/05|
Just tell him he needs to seek a chat with his Pastor, and tell him/her what he told you, or if not, you'll have a chat with his pastor for him, and that will save him the bother. Sex is for Marriage. Don't ever trust a Christian, trust Jesus.
---Sean on 10/27/05|
I agree with moderator absolutely. He is either not truly saved or is backsliding in a big way to be behaving like this. I'm wondering what you mean by 'pal of mine'. Are you actually good friends of long standing or just acquaintances? Whichever you must let him know, in no uncertain terms, that you want nothing to do with this kind of talk and behaviour.
---M.P. on 10/27/05|