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In-Laws Trying To Destroy Marriage

Can any one give me some advice on dealing with in-laws who want to destroy my marriage.

Moderator - Pray, fasting and spend very little time with them.

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 ---vickie on 11/23/05
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The blog may be outdated, but the problem is not. This problem (or some variation thereof) has been around for millennia . The question is, will it stimulate current bloggers to respond?
---Donna66 on 6/20/11

This is a sob story from 2005 it is no longer pertinent for discussion.
---Blogger9211 on 6/19/11

I'm goin through a lot to my story would take to long but ill say that a lot of people are mean and like distroy others happyness
---link on 6/19/11

My brother's mother-in-law wanted her daughter to divorce her husband but she refused.

The problem was that my brother refused to become a SDA, even went so far as to say he would rather see his son a drunkard and a dope addict instead of an SDA.

When they purchased a cemetery lot, he complained that he would be buried too close to his mother-in-law.
---leej on 11/3/10

This is a toughy. My inlaws destroyed my marriage in that instead of encouraging my x to work out the problems, they always manipulated my x and when they seen us having problems they all turned like serpents on me and encouraged divorce and meddled in our private business. In laws can be parasites and can do serious damage to a marriage and only hear one side. My only advice is pray for them and if you have a good relationship with one of them consider communication, other than that it can be a road to divorce if your spouse can't stand on their feet alone.
---steve on 11/2/10

emeshment between kids is nearly always a sign of intense abuse so "in law" problems have very, very deep roots. The challenge for you, I'm sure, is to try and find a compromise where everyone can get along. A wise man once told me you "cannot negotiate with a terrorist". Stand your ground and give nothing up.

Your marriage will be hell, but it already is. You will at least have your self esteem knowing you are doing the right thing.
---bryan on 7/1/09

EPH 6:12 -- "For we wrestle not against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this world, against spiritual wickedness in high places."

I am there with you... In a similar situation. My inlaws and husband are not saved and he seems blinded to their assaults on me personally and towards our marriage. He has sided with them even in-front of them. I claim victory from the LORD over our marriages and over my husband's salvation. The compass the we choose to use must be GOD. If their's is not, we cannot reason with them or call them to repent... We must fight the one's using them as tools to destroy what God has put together.

God Bless.Luke 20:17-19
---Rachel on 4/7/09

my advice is to nip it in the bud now. stand ur ground or they will destroy it ... have proof of lies & chaos they cause or u will become like me no self-esteem miserable and alone my husband still wont back me up & we r now talking divorce. my point is it wont change only u will.honer they mother and father..good luck
---sarah on 5/27/08

I had the same problem, but in my case , she wasnt saved ( mother-in-law)it got to the point I had to stay away, but , before that, I was kind and sweet, so there were NO guilt on my part when she died..she got saved not too long before she died and in her own way, she tried to make up, but the scars remained. all people that come in our lives teach us something. if you read your bible every day, and not just ONE chapter but several, nothing on earth gets you down as much. you can tolerate it more.
---Jan4876 on 7/25/07

I think Satan has too much on his hand to be interested in braking up your marriage. Maybe this has nothing to do with satan...could it be that your in-laws and you have to deal with the problem. It could be that praying is not always the answer. Tell these people, as well as your husband, what you feel and try to get a conversation going, becuase sticking your head in the sand probably won't work.
---peter on 1/12/06

An important thing to remember is that satan is using these people to destroy the marriage. We aren't fighting each other. Pray for these people.
---Nellah on 1/4/06

In marriage: you leave your father and mother and cleave to your wife. Viceversa..If in-laws are a problem Pray for them..Prayer changes things..Also do spiritual warfare daily, in the situation.
---Lynn_Bedford77 on 12/26/05

My in-laws had it in for my marriage to their son from the start, used to get in his ear and tell him I didn't really want the marriage, we are now seperated, he lives with them and I am sure they are only too happy that we are heading towards divorce, and they are "christians" !!
---Paula on 12/11/05

My inlaws have destroyed a wonderful marriage. My wife had to have a brain operation because of her seizures in 2000, and she was arrested in Aug. of this year for domestic violence which was by accident. They turned her against me and now they are very happy people, but not my wife which did not want the divorce. They have her under their thumb so our marriage is over.
---gene5786 on 11/28/05

This causes much stress, I know. Limit time spent with your inlaws. Maximize time spent as a happily married couple. What God has joined together let no one put asunder. No one means no one.
---Heather on 11/23/05

Ephesians chapter 5 might help you?If you are not giving them any excuse and your wife is not manipulating their interference They have no right to interfere. Moses father in law gave him good advice about judging Israel, and it has it's place but they should be honouring you as head of the household. I wish we could talk more? God bless you Thomas.
---Thomas on 11/23/05

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I am in agreement with the moderator. I stay away from mine. There was a situation that happen and they all have assumed that I was the one doing the stuff that the person said that I was doing but it was the other way around. This person is my husband's cousin she went and told his mother that I was out messing around on him and his mother just assumed that she was right so it is like I am the bad person so I learned to stay away. My husband knows better. I have forgiven but not easy to forget.
---debbie23453 on 11/23/05

Vickie, have you talked to your husband about this? In Mark, it is said that a man will leave his father and mother and be joined with his wife. Your husband needs to be involved in this and tell his parents to butt out of your marriage.

I am very blessed by in-laws who love and respect me. They may not have always agreed with with I do, but they have always been supportive. I feel sorry for those who don't have this in their marriage.
---NurseRobert on 11/23/05

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