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Rude To Ask If One Is Saved

Is it rude to ask another person if they are saved?

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 ---mima on 12/1/05
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You wrote: I usually ask what do you believe. Why? Then let their answers show me what I should ask next.

Exactly. It is very important to reach people with dialog, trying to understand what they believe, and seeing what common ground you have for discussion, and then introducing new concepts within the framework of their currnet understanding, rather than trying to beat them over the head with something they may not be ready or willing to hear.

A viral meme that has been circulating recently:
I have seen too many people with the Bible on their lips, and hate in their hearts.

And this is what Christians who come beating them over the head with bibles seem like.
---StrongAxe on 9/24/20

I usually ask what do you believe. Why? Then let their answers show me what I should ask next.
---Samuelbb7 on 9/20/20


Cluny had to move out of the place he was living at the end of January. Since there, he has been living in a series of temporary places, but he doesn't have access to the internet. That's why he hasn't been posting on here since then.
---StrongAxe on 9/20/20

No, I don't think it is rude. I rather be asked then assuming I am Saved.

I am a Catholic living in the South. Many people have asked me and I tell them yes I was Baptised.

Now, that's when it can get rude when the questioner refuses to believe the method of Salvation.

Anywho, I rather someone be rude to me, than being nice to me as I walking closer to hell.

Some people just don't know unless they are told.

BTW, I haven't seen Cluny's posts. Is everyone okay? Any update?
---Nicole_Lacey on 9/20/20

Yes, it is rude. It is prying, and pushy. You 'win people over" from your loving actions and respect and the love shining out from you.
---Megan on 9/16/20

No I haven't alan of uk. When someone can not give a testimony of their being bought by the Blood of Christ, it does not take much of a gift to know that these are hypocrites. I do have a problem with that I admit it. But you know what so did Jesus.
---catherine on 1/9/08

Personally I've brought more people to the Lord through his Prophetic words & by the words of the Prophets then i have by his Gospel, People usually already know that part(Birth,Death,Ressurection)as we all should & have no other Gospel.
No, it's not rude though, But it can be counter productive in saving the lost.
Usually the lost will look at you as if you have a Holier than thou attitude & can't hear the next word out of your mouth
---Duane_M on 1/8/08

Funny people have no problem telling me that they are going to hell. Complete strangers will suddenly 'dump' their sins to me. All I ask is how are you today. Strange how open people are when you are completely open. They sense and know who is and is not judgemental.
---dan on 1/8/08

Would someone with bad pathology, a liar, be saved?
The testimony is not authentic and the circumstances are forever changing, would the pathology of the liar prevent them from being saved?

God says liars will not enter His kingdom, does it matter whether you consider yourself to have bad pathology or a simply a liar?
---Mike on 1/8/08

Catherine "My motive in this is to somehow convince them that they are not saved"
Presumably your gift of Discernment has already told you that they are not saved?
Do you ever try to "somehow convince them that they are not saved" and find that they are already?
---alan_of_UK on 1/8/08

Usually I do not have to ask. Right away people start telling me how many times they go to church. What they are doing in the church and God said this to me and so forth. I can not help myself. I ask them for their testimony of salvation. And they look at me. Some say it was a prickly of the skin. Some ask me, "what is that"? Then I give my testimony..My motive in this is to somehow convince them that they are not saved.
---catherine on 1/8/08

I ask people all the time if they are saved. I have'nt had anyone say that I was rude. If they did say that I was rude for asking, that would not bother me. I would rather be rude and maybe plant a seed of faith in their heart about Jesus which could ultimately save their soul. I had a catholic priest get angry at me once for witnessing Jesus to him. He called me a heratic for leaving his church. Six months later, he got saved, left the church and became a missionary after that. True story.
---John on 1/8/08

No it is not rude. I don't ask very much, Because everyone I ask tells me they are saved. I have never, ever, had anyone to tell me that they are on their way to Hell. But the world tells a different story. And this nation.
---catherine on 6/16/07

Something as important as a soul delivered from hell. No. I dont think asking if someone is saved is rude. You are actually doing the person a favor that last into all eternity. That is the most loving and honorable thing you can do for another person, is to lead them to Christ. Rude or not, I want to win souls for Christ. He who does so, the bible tells us, is ...wise.
---Robyn on 6/16/07

There are many tactful ways to broach the subject with someone. Sometimes the direct approach is the best approach.
Matthew 10:16, "Behold, I send you forth as sheep in the midst of wolves: be ye therefore wise as serpents, and harmless as doves."
---Bruce5656 on 6/15/07

No, it is not rude to ask a person if they are saved. If they don't like it, which some don't, then I hope that I have planted a seed and that it will grow and they will get saved.
---Helen_5378 on 7/25/06

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it is rather rude if you dont speak in the normal do you know Christ? when the Titanic went down, a pastor in the water brought a lot to Christ by asking if they were saved before he died..
---jana on 7/24/06

Yes, to just go up to a stranger and ask if they are saved is rude. I like to get to know a person before I delve into their spiritual lives.
---Madison on 2/26/06

I believe that in some cases it is... especially if the person is someone you just met. Being "saved" confuses some. Saved from what? And some are instantly offended (they sense that your main goal is to "convert" them, not that you care about them)Why not start a conversation and learn a little about them, their lives and their concerns. What do THEY believe? If they reveal their beliefs or lack thereof..then you can expain yours and tell them about Jesus.
---Donna on 2/25/06

I don't believe that it is. What I usually do is start a conversation w/ a person by asking them the date or time, etc. By conversating you can find out alot about the person. After talking with them for a few minutes I ask them if they would like prayer for anything. That opens them up a little bit more. Then I ask them have they excepted Jesus as their Savior.
---Rickey on 12/15/05

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2. a fish is more likely to mean he/she is a Christian). Observing their reading material can give clues. If someone swears a lot in conversation it is tempting to shut off from the person but sometimes we might be led to say that we don't like to hear such words - and who knows where a conversation can go from there? None of these approaches should be of us though, we should always be receptive to the Holy Spirit showing us which approach is correct in each individual situation.
---M.A. on 12/15/05

I travel by train a lot and get into conversation with strangers. I have never asked a stranger "Are you saved?" and have never been asked it myself. I think such a question suits certain settings only, Christian conventions, mass evangelistic rallies etc. There are ways of getting an answer to that question without wording it that way and we must be led by God to say what He wishes us to say to strangers. Noticing someone wearing a cross can be an opener, (it might just be jewellery to them;
---M.A. on 12/15/05

There is a difference in asking someone if they're okay or if they are saved. We shouldn't just witness just to the lost, we should witness to everyone. By me witnessing to someone saved it could lift them up and be a blessing to them. Like I said, if you have to ask if someone is saved, chances are they're not.
---Rebecca_D on 12/4/05

Is being saved something to hide or be ashamed of? Asking if someone is saved is showing your concern for their spiritual well being. I have seen posts with someone asking if someone is saved. It can give you an idea if they need prayer or witnessing.
It is ok to ask about how a person's health is.
---Ulrika on 12/4/05

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I dated my husband for a year and married 7 months ago. To this day, I've not asked him if he is a Christian. It showed in his actions by putting others before himself, keeping commitments when it caused him problems, looked for good in people, forgiving, prayerful, and respectful.
---Tammy on 12/4/05

If someone has to ask me if I am saved, then I am not bearing good fruit. the bible says you will know them by the fruit they bare. If you can't tell if someone is saved or not, then chances are, their not.
---Rebecca_D on 12/2/05

When I was asked the first time "Are you saved?", my mind was searching for answers regarding the following items: (1) Why is this person asking me this type of question?
(2) Who gives him the authority to question my own salvation? (3) What gives him the power to scrutinize my own standing with God?
(4) How is the standing of this man in relation with God? After answering all these questions quickly, I manage to smile and answer: "What about you, are you saved?"
---Linda6546 on 12/1/05

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