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Am I Able To Remarry

If my former wife has chosen not to follow the Lord, and I, do am I free to marry or am I cursed under legalism Or able to walk in Gods grace and forgiveness and his blessing as a Child of God That is Loved by the Lord Jesus Christ

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 ---Dennis on 12/2/05
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We are under Grace not the law. I suggest before you even think about it you focus on becoming whole. and knowing that the other person should be whole too. You need to Love her as Chist Loved the the Church. Do you know how to do that and does she know how a wife is to love her husband. He is the King and Priest of the Home
---denise on 9/19/07

I would suggest remaining single. It sounds like she has put you away. The inversion of this scripture would apply.

Luke 15:18 Whosoever putteth away his wife, and marrieth another, committeth adultery: and whosoever marrieth her that is put away from her husband committeth adultery.
---Mr._Graham on 9/18/07

Some may look at divorce as depending on if you were saved before or after the divorce. If you got saved after the divorce then it is not an issue. Why would it not be forgiven? 1 John 1:9 If we confess our sins, He is faithful and righteous to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness. All is all and that's all. (One denomination I know allows divorced pastors.)
---denna7667 on 9/18/07

Dennis: You are not cursed under any legalism. There is no such thing. You are not to remarry as long as your wife is alive. Or if you caught her in adultery you are free to divorce. You can also separate from an unbelieving spouse but cannot remarry. Your other choice: Many Christians have and are divorcing and remarrying, including pastors. Let your heart be the guide, if you feel convicted, it is not for you to remarry.
---Robyn on 9/18/07

It's not legalism to follow God's word. In the scripture you are not free to marry anyone else. As a matter of fact, you aren't even in a position to leave your wife, according to Scripture (New Testament). She can leave you! Even if she does leave you, you are still not suppose to remarry. But, I've seen divorced folks remarry, and be very successful. I would not suggest it though, as a first choice, or at all for that matter. Who knows, your wife may be your "mission field."
---WIVV on 9/18/07

God is gracious. if your wife choses not to follow God and leaves you then scripture says that you are free to remarry or to stay single. adultery has several meanings in scripture (sexual and spiritual) My mom remarried, as did my dad. at the time my dad was not living for God, and he repented and now is. I think God looks at the heart. If a person isn't right with him they already are living in spiritual adultery (i think this is the main focus of what christ taught about)
---Jared on 11/4/06

Mrs. Williams - if you acknowledge that your actions were contrary to God's stated will, then simply repent of your sin and go on with your life.
---lee on 11/4/06

(I.)Hello Mrs._Williams, It depends on how much LIGHT in regard to this issue that you had at the time of your remarriage(many are taught wrong), God is just and will take that into consideration(without being a respecter of persons)in His perfect judgment, but we must be honest with God and ourselves, and God will give the answer.
---Mrs._Morgan on 11/4/06

(II.)Mrs._Williams, Some Christians are fully aware about the issue of adultery, yet they still go on and do it any way, repenting and still remaining in that error would be hypocrisy. Many Churches don't uphold the Discipline of the Holy Spirit, they are just lead by their own spirit and that will never work. God Bless!
---Mrs._Morgan on 11/4/06

Mrs. Williams,
The point is not whether or not God can forgive divorce. He can forgive any sin. The point is that divorce, a civil proceeding, does not dissolve the union that God established. Matthew 19:6, "Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder."
---Bruce5656 on 11/4/06

Even if God may tolerate divorce in the case of adultery (or not depending on your understanding of the passage) that does not mean he allows remarriage because you still have a mate. Someone with whom you are "one flesh" and no civil proceeding can change that.

---Bruce5656 on 11/4/06

Well, I guess I'm in trouble then. I was divorced and got remarried to a Christian a couple of months ago. I guess I'm living in sin then. Why is divorce treated like the one unforgiveable sin? Aren't ALL of our sins covered under the blood of Jesus?
---Mrs._Williams on 11/4/06

man's logic says it is fine to remarry, but God's logic is not like man's logic. Here's all a person needs to know about divorce and remarriage---Malachi 2:16 For the LORD, the God of Israel, saith that He hateth putting away. putting away is Bible speak for divorce. there's your answer
---r.w. on 11/3/06

I highly recommend reading "Grace and Divorce" by Dr. Les Carter, a wonderful Christian book that explores Gods heart in these situations and gives scriptural reference to back up His grace and mercy. It is a very healing book for those facing or have been divorced as a Christian. God Bless You.
---Maxine on 1/9/06

, those who are worthy of marriage are those who would never look at their vows as legalistic obligations.
---steve on 12/3/05

, watch out for the term "legalism" when anyone wants to go against what Jesus taught. a person marries until death do they part. i regret that some marriages don't do well, but you must remain faithful to your wife.
---steve on 12/3/05

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WIVV Dennis doesn't say that he has left his wife. Perhaps she left him because he became a Christian. This happened to a friend of mine. If those are the circumstances I would say that you could remarry Dennis, with God's blessings. If you became a Christian after divorce I'd also say you are free to remarry but if you left her (for any reason than adultery on her part) after you became a Christian that is a totally different situation and you should not remarry.
---M.A. on 12/3/05

To believers, the Word is the final authority; our guide, and test of every thought, emotion, feeling, or action. Look at what He says in 1 Corinthians 7:10-17, Romans 7:2, Luke 16:18, Mark 10:2-12 and related verses. You mention former wife so are you already divorced? Ask yourself, is my love for her based on feeling or principle?
---Wayne87 on 12/3/05

Are you divorced now or not? If you are divorced you can remarry. You may or may not be limited in your area of service to the Lord.
---Elder on 12/3/05

You need to give more details. You say 'chosen not to follow the Lord." What does that mean? Does that mean she says, "I am not interested in the Lord, any of that God stuff." Does it mean, "I am not sure this particular sectarian view of yours is correct?" Does it mean, "I will not submit to your narrow dogmaticism!" Is it something else? You need to clarify, one cannot answer without clarity.
---len_k on 12/2/05

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Your answer is in 1 Corinthians 7. Read that chapter and ask for God's wisdom, understanding and guidance while you read it! I hope that helps! God Bless
---Amber on 12/2/05

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