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Two Quick Divorces

If I was married to someone who called themselves a Christian, but after two weeks of marriage filed for divorce, then I remarried a man who was an adulterous and divorced me. Am I free to marry again?

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 ---elspeth_Sampson on 12/4/05
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How old were you at the time of the first marriage? How much time passed between the first marriage and the second marriage? My advice is to lay off marriage for a few years. If you want to get really correct, you should lay off marriage forever, based on the Bible. (Matthew 5:30)
---WIVV on 12/25/07

sounds like your confused and need to stay away from marriage for awhile. How long after the first marriage did you wait until you got married the second time? And how long has it been since your last divorce? If all of this is within a short period of time then I wouldn't marry anyone right now. Marriage isn't a game and your spouse isn't like shopping at a store, if you don't like it, return it.
---Rebecca_D on 5/26/07

Please, do not remarry at this point. I too did the same thing. I discovered through prayer and some Christian women, it wasn't the men...I chose them! The problem was with "picker" was broken. I spent 3 yrs working on me and my relationship with God. When I was ready, He sent me a fine, Christian husband. Search inside..not outside. God bless you.
---Ann on 1/6/06

It also sounds like you need some help figuring out why you are choosing men who are either not Christians, or will cheat on you. Instead of asking if you are free to marry, you should be asking how you can heal and grow.
---Madison on 12/9/05

Sounds very familiar ... I divorced first husband, less than a year remarried a man who cheated on me. I had a codependency problem where men were concerned. I didn't date anyone until years later and remarried another wonderful man who after marrying me became very verbally and emotionally abusive. It's all about codependency. That was before I was a Christian. If there was any abuse in your life you can get help for it. That's sometimes the cause.
---Nellah on 12/8/05

Sort of sounds like a flesh issue. Stay single for as long as it takes to "kill out your flesh", being content to live alone bringing forth fruit [right] for repentence. Echad/God will let you know when the time is right again. two incomplete christians or people [traditional], does not make one whole couple. Two complete/content people makes one equally yoked [traditional] marriage or "one flesh"! Some are more fortunate,spiritual, & wiser than others!
---bob6749_[Elishama] on 12/8/05

Matthew 19:9, "And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication, and shall marry another, committeth adultery: and whoso marrieth her which is put away doth commit adultery."
---Bruce5656 on 12/5/05

b). You don't say how long has passed since the second divorce or how old you are but whatever, I think you should now be very wary and take your time getting to know men. In any new courtship be certain that he shares your beliefs and attend church together. Pray for guidance in all things from now on.
---emg on 12/5/05

I am not clear as to whether you filed for divorce after 2 weeks or your first husband did. If it were your husband, and your second husband has committed adultery I would say that, biblically, you are free to marry again. That is not to say that you would be wise to do so for quite some time.
---emg on 12/5/05

WOW! Most people learn some "life's lessons" after (2) divorces. Granted I do not know all the details. Maybe you need to consult with God before jumping into another marrage. Maybe extend the courting period to be sure you know ALL there is about the person. Remember, there are alot of wolves in sheep's clothing! If you do marry again, make sure it's true love, and not a "clear conscience...". True love lasts a life time.
---Fred_S. on 12/5/05

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