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Kissing My Boyfriend

Is it a sin to start kissing my Christian boyfriend immediately when I see him?

Moderator - It's called lust.

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 ---therese on 3/7/06
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Everything is not wrong when you become born again.....We are still hot bloodied females and males, for that matter. We just need to learn how to channel those feelings into the right direction. Just learn to do things in reverse. Everything we do , we do for the glory of God. If is does not and will not glorify God, we need to refrain from it.
---Robyn on 8/6/07

That's nice, Donna. Oh how you do understand the special lasagne dish that leads them to your door.
---Jaclyn on 8/6/07

As you approach the big 50, isn't it time to put away all of this childish school girl behavior, really?
Your boyfriend/man stories make me nauseous. I'm not really falling for the celibate part, the experienced part, that I believe.
Why don't you visit with a counselor?
---Parakeet on 8/6/07

Having been married at one time and single now for a very long time (17 yrs and a Christian for the past 14 yrs) and of course, single before I was married, I've had lots of experience with affection and what comes after that kiss. A quick kiss on the cheek is fine (as you would kiss any brother or sister in the Lord) if you leave it at that, but on the lips starts to stir up passion. I personally have found kissing to be MORE intimate than anything else that can and usually does happen afterward.
---Holly4jc on 8/4/07

1) I like how the "Message" version of the bible puts the scripture of:

Song of Solomon 3:5
Oh, let me warn you, sisters in Jerusalem,
by the gazelles, yes, by all the wild deer:
Don't excite love, don't stir it up,
until the time is ripe and you're ready.

In God's eyes, we are not "ready" until the night of our honeymoon.
---Holly4jc on 8/4/07

2) I personally have not dated, kissed, held hands, etc. for 11 yrs now, I've been TOTALLY celibate. I am praying and seeking the Lord to bring me a mate. I will not kiss ANYONE again in that kind of manner UNLESS it is the one my Lord has brought husband. To do anything else would be giving what belongs to my husband away to someone else.
---Holly4jc on 8/4/07

3) Which brings me to my next point, have you even prayed about this "boyfriend" and asked Jesus if you should even be dating him? If he is not the "one" God has choosen for you, why waste your time?

Bruce5656 made a good suggestion of Josh Harris' book...I think the first one he wrote prior to "Boy Meets Girl" is "I Kissed Dating Goodbye". Check them out, they will be very helpful to you. Be blessed Therese.
---Holly4jc on 8/4/07

It depends on your self-control.A quick kiss on the lips is ok. We are to greet one another in church with a holy kiss as we are told in the bible. Lust is such a big issue, these days. People use to do the holy kiss in the church but now you have to be so careful of the wrong intentions of people. I find this very sad. Even a hug is frownd upon by some. Even sadder to me. I have also encountered someone in church who refused to shake hands. God have mercy on us all.
---Robyn on 8/4/07

Be led by the Holy spirit in all that we do. I would not start a french kissing session in public but a quick, deep kiss.I would. We do have to be careful though. Feelings can get out of control very quickly.Especially for someone we love/like.
I think we need to learn how to control ourselves better, especially our imaginations.
---Robyn on 8/4/07

I agree with Moderator,However it is very hard not to do so,especially if you have marriage in mind.You should resist the temptation and ask for God's help and wisdom.
---Ann on 8/4/07

Please do your self a real big favour and get a copy of Josh Harris' book BOY MEETS GIRL. He offers fantastic advice.
---Bruce5656 on 8/4/07

Elder; With my husband, I kiss him because it is a sign of affection, not a sign of friendship. But with my husband no, because it is a sign of affection like a hug.
---Rebecca_D on 3/13/06

When I saw the Mod's last coment I thought surely we are sticking to the question, and what is wrong with the quick kiss as greeting or farewell? But read the question again ... is it wrong to "start kissing..."? and that implies a kissing session, and that could be dangerous.
---alan_of_uK on 3/10/06

Rebecca, the word "kiss" is translated from the word that means to "touch or be friendly," Friendly touch.
There will never be a problem with just a friendly touch. That's what a handshake is. A handshake is not being considered here. Why would someone be so concerned about kissing so quick? Connecting with someone else's body so quickly is the problem. I noticed that I didn't get an answer from the question I asked.
---Elder on 3/10/06

It is still a sign of affection. To me there is nothing wrong with her greeting her boyfriend this way.
---Rebecca_D on 3/9/06

therese , i am struggling with the same thing and let me tell you it does lead into lust.. starts innocently every time and just leaves you frustrated.. my pastors advice was that we are making our boundry way too close to intercourse so i would have to say, hard as it is.. kissing is a No.. unless its little pecks :):) and dont try and justify it to yourself either. I will pray for you.. i know its tough :)
---natasha on 3/9/06

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Mod, a way of showing affection. In the bible it tells us to give a kiss of affection. It also tells us to great one another with a holy kiss. So how can you call it lust?

Moderator - Please stick to Therese question, which was not about a holy kiss, but not being about to control herself.
---Rebecca_D on 3/9/06

What kind of kiss? As a retired missionry from a Spanish speaking area, it was part of the culture do greet just about anyone you know with a kiss on the cheek. You can also have a brief kiss on the lips. You can also have a passionate, french kiss. The passionate, french kiss is out. While it, in itself may not be a sin, it can sure led to sin. The rule of thumb is, if in doubt, don't do it.
---WIVV on 3/8/06

No, it is showing affection. Now if you take it beyond kissing then it would turn into lust and so on and so forth.

Moderator - Rebecca, what is kissing for?
---Rebecca_D on 3/8/06

No it is not necessarly "Lust" it is simply a public display of affection; if it is not excessively demonstrative at is both socially an Christianly acceptable. In fact it is not that much different from people huging each other in church.

Moderator - What type of church to you go to that a Christian hug would cause lust?
---notlaw99 on 3/8/06

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Ask yourself this question. Can there be a relationship with your boyfriend without kissing? Your truthful answer should tell you what to do.
---Elder on 3/8/06

You are pouring petrol on an already explosive fire. No. Its not advisable. It all starts with a seemingly innocent kiss.
---pkay on 3/8/06

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