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Still My Wife In Heaven

My wife passed away from Cancer at 41 years old. I know we will know each other in heaven but will my wife still be my wife.

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Actually, what the Bible says in Matthew is that "in the resurrection" there will be no marrying or giving in marriage. The resurrection is one event when God's people are "resurrected". That act means "rising from the dead". The Bible never states that IN HEAVEN (the New Jerusalem, Revelation) there will be no marrying or giving in marriage. God made woman for man, saying in Genesis that it was not good for man to be alone. I believe with all my heart that we will have our spouses in Heaven.
---Pam on 9/19/10

When the disciples didn't understand why Jesus didn't just let Lazarus wake up on his own, Jesus told them plainly that Lazarus was dead. The Bible calls death "sleep" over 50 times.
---Pamela on 9/19/10

i believe as one who recently lost a wife of 49 years she will know me and knows now what we do as the the rich in hell knew his brothers needed to come to christ he could see they had not received messiah but was told they must believe moses and prophets,luke 16.
---doug on 8/3/10

God knows what is best for us all and the one thing he will get right this time is, No devil in hell will ever come between him and his people ever again.

All life as we know will be done away with, and there will be no more tears, and I know just why... the ocean would overflow with our tears and our fight would have been for what we had not for who God is, so when we exchanges our faith for (wings) figure of speech.

His plan will be God and his Angels in a paradise... to die for. Our journey is Ultimately one personal walk between you and God.
---Carla on 7/24/10

My condolences to you for your loss. Your wife was very young. But this is a question I don't think, can be fully answered, correctly. I don't know. On one hand I hope not. The other I hope so. I have thought about this many times myself.
The reason I said hope not is: some of our relatives and friends who have passed on, gave us Hell on earth. But we still chose to love and accept them. Would we have to deal with that , all over again? Some of these things were very painful. Only God knows the answer.
---Robyn on 7/24/10

My wife passed away from Cancer at 41 years old. I know we will know each other in heaven but will my wife still be my wife.

No all marriages end at death.
---francis on 7/23/10

It is the promise of God to wipe away all tears...God is not a dissappointment...Heaven,which comes after the 1000 year Messiahnic reign of Jesus,with us on the another disspensation in Gods eternal calender of events...we dont have much concept of this, our present natural minds see "through a glass darkly" as Paul puts it,but it will be above all we can expect or think...besides God is looking forward to a big family,look at the lengths He went to in sending Jesus!
---richard on 7/23/10

Don--I am sooo sorry.
---Mary on 7/22/10

My fiance' died 2 yrs ago in a house fire. She was a firefighter. We were to be married at the justice of the peace that day. We also had wedding plans for later in the year in Hawaii. She told me she wanted to get married to me now right before she died. I so want to be back by her side for eternity in heaven
---Don on 7/22/10

The answer is NO> We will know, however, our loved ones.
---catherine on 6/23/10

The answer to this question is plainly given in Matthew 22:30,"For in the resurrection they neither marry, nor are given in marriage, but are as the angels of God in heaven."
---mima on 6/23/10

My husband passed away 2/12/08 and i too had questions! here is what i concluded,from my readings of the Bible!
1) our FIRST spouse ,is our "true" spouse in God's eyes! no matter how many times we marry or even if they pass away!

2)once joined on earth,we become one (why we urn to again be complete as one)

3)when a married couple both pass and are in heaven, the woman returns to the mans side,from where SHE was created!

4)though there are no "NEW" marriages going to happen in Heaven,what God has joined together....will never be separated!

My understanding ,is that marriages(already joined by God) will continue,however no,"new" marriages will come about in Heaven!
---Lori on 6/23/10

Thank you, Donna. I do feel like a part of me has been ripped out. And it makes no sense as to why this had to happen. But I know that God is 100% in control, so I rest on that. God bless.
---Bryan on 3/24/10

You must be feeling the loss very acutely
now. In my experience, it's feels like having part of your own body ripped away. I'm so sorry. I'm sure you find comfort in the thought of being together in Heaven. You will always miss her, but eventually the pain will be more bearable.

The Lord will enable you to do everything you need to do.

I think when you get to heaven, you will no longer feel the need of a wife. But your relationship with her will be on a whole new level. And think of all the new experiences you can share in Heaven.

It's natural to not want to think about re-marriage at this point. Don't let anyone rush you through your grief or push you into a relation ship that isn't comfortable.
---Donna66 on 3/23/10

Teresa, I lost my wife and unborn daughter just over a month ago. Aside from the heartache of not having her beside me right now, I also struggled with the thought of not having the same relationship in heaven. I feel confident that though we will not be married (per se) in heaven, we will still know each other AS WE KNOW EACH OTHER HERE. God has given me the peace that though our love and relationship might be different, it will actually be stronger. After Christ, I believe that I will have no closer friend than my wife in heaven. I have also decided not to remarry. My wife was 34 and I am 40. Lord come soon.
---Bryan on 3/22/10

Since Matt.12:25 and 20:30 state that there are no marriages in heaven and we will be like the angels, it stands to reason that there are neither male nor female in heaven. I know it hurts to lose someone you love, I also lost a fiance, but our earthly bodies are only for this earth. When we leave these earthly bodies we are no longer male or female, we are spirit. When we meet our loved ones in heaven there will be no pain that we are no longer husband or wife. I pray God removes all grief right now from all who read this. In the name of Jesus. Amen.
We should no longer view our lives as humans seeking a spiritual experience but as spirits seeking a human experience.
---Fay on 3/1/10

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NO! My grandmother is in heaven, but, sadly I won't know her as my grandmother. Often thought about this.
---catherine on 2/26/10

Teresa ... Does that mean that you feel it would be wrong for you, as a widow, to remarry?
---alan8566_of_uk on 2/26/10

James, I agree with you an a few others. I have not found anywhere that we will continue as husband and wife's in heaven. I do agree we will see each other, but no feelings for each other because there is no sadness in heaven. If we would see our spouses and not our children we would be sad. Our whole attention will be Christ and that should be our priority. I lost my wife of 35 years and I know how everyone here feels. This life we live feels things that we will not feel in heaven.
---MarkV. on 2/26/10

I lost my husband 23 days ago, I have went over the ques. again & again about marriage in heaven. I have come to the conclusion that marriage is a term, I was married and therefore ordained by God to procreate, but in heaven marriage as a term is no longer valid since procreation is no longer valid. But I will be still be bound to my husband "whatever is bound on earth is bound in heaven" Matt 18:18 God made me for him and vice versa, I will be his companion and he will be mine. He brought us together and I believe we will always be together. When the new heavens & earth are created we will again be together as husband and wife.
---Teresa on 2/25/10

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"We are neither Married or given in marriage" in Heaven.

But you will know her soul. The part that you loved. We will all be like children without sin and innccent.
---James on 2/11/10

I believed Heaven is supposed to be the most amazing place to be with and if we will not have our spouse there to enjoy that feel, that will not be called heaven. We do not know what it is really like to be in heaven not unless we get there. I know god has a plan for us to be reunited with the people we loved the same relationship we have here on earth, the difference is, it will be to eternity and we have immortality. No more grief or sadness everything will be happiness. I lost my dear husband, almost 2 months now and I believed I will be reunited with him as a spouse when I get there and my 9 yr old son also expecting to see his dad and best friend up there in heaven same relationship he have here on earth only much better.
---Tess on 2/8/10

Hi Deidre, I wish I had the answers honey. There are no words sufficient for the pain you've been through other than you're in our prayers hon, love Mary
---Mary on 8/3/09

Im not sure how this works but i would like to make some kind of sense of it. Me and my husband lost our little girl on june 10th 09` one month later july 12 09` i lost my husband. I just want some kind of sign that they are together and happy in heaven. I just need to know that they are looking down on me making sure i am ok. Im only 22 never in my life would i ever think that this would happen to me. I just need someone to explain more of this to me.
---Deidre_Couch on 8/2/09

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It is my understanding that Tom's answer is correct. He will again see the woman who was his wife, this time not as a wife but as sister in Christ!!!!
---mima on 6/26/09

I know that the Bible talks about the fact that there will be no marriage in heaven because we will be married to the Lamb of God. Luke 20:19-35. I lost my wife two weeks ago from cancer at age 49. My hope is that I will see her, and it will be a joyouse reunion, not with my wife, but with my best friend and sister in Christ.
---Tom on 6/25/09

Yahshua speaks of this, plus, we that are of the bride will be given unto the Groom/Lord, wonderous times are coming,Not in our wildest imaginations can we come close to what its going to be like.

If you need the words of the Lord on this, read it, i'm sure you've read were the brothers that married the same wife after they had died w/o having children, and they asked the Lord,"Who's wife will she be in Heaven", the Lord said that they err'd in their thinking that a man & woman was given in marriage once in Heaven.

My wife of 28 years will not be my wife when we are in heaven nor when we come back to live on the new Earth with God forever.
---YLBD on 6/22/09

Yes :) She most definitely will be.
---Katherine on 6/20/09

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Where in the Bible does it give an idea that once God creates the new earth and heaven, the husband and family I have now will be with me there?
Thank you
scotch moss
---L on 6/19/09

All of you who answered "Yes" please read your bible.

Matt 22:30, Mark 12:25, Luke 20:35.
---trey on 2/10/09

I understand and am sorry for your loss. I too lost my husband of 30 years at the age of 50. He was healthy and living life too the fullest when God called him away. I am a firm believer that i will meet him when i get to heaven and we will have our home waiting on us to live forever with our saviour. I am having a rough time uderstanding why he took my husband because he was such a good person but , i know God knows best and everything is done for a reason. With my faith in him he will take care of me until i get there.
---jackie on 2/10/09

I lost my husband 5 months ago.I believe God will bless me with the reunion I much desire to have with him. I have sought the answer to your question. I have formed the conclusion that marriage will exist in heaven. Vows are til death do us part God is the God of the living not the dead. When a spouse enters heaven the spouse is still alive in a different state of existence. Your spouse is alive as a spirit. She is preparing for a reunion with you.The saducces did not believe in heaven therefore marriage would not pertain to a spirit who choses to die rather than believe in Jesus as our saviour who allows us continuation of life after we leave our physical bodies.
---Elizabeth on 1/2/09

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I believe yes!! Because why would God have joined husbands and wifes together and also allow them to have kids. Also He said Im going to prepare a new heaven and a new earth. In the earth that we are in we do have husbands and wifes. Lastly, Why would God say that we will have a Mansion? why would we live in the mansion alone?
---Kiannah on 12/29/08

Nope! There will be no husband, wife, no marriages in heaven.
---catherine on 12/28/08

Jesus adressed the Sadduces who didnot believe in physical life after death, Adam and Eve are human beings who committed the Original Sin, " What God has joined together,let no man put asunder" Adam's sin cannot put asunder the bond of marriage when it is consecrated as a Sacrament and when marriage partners have been consecrated in the Sacrament of Baptism, God is a Trinity and has created man and woman as equals as Trinity Like beings, God would not destroy a Trinity Like relationship, Marriage!
I would suggest that all the facts be layed out! Only God knows how our relationships will be "structured"
---Joseph on 12/27/08

To Whosoever has an ear to hear?

Mark 12:24-25 And Jesus answering said unto them, Do ye not therefore err, because ye know not the scriptures, neither the power of God? For when they shall rise from the dead, they neither marry, nor are given in marriage, but are as the angels which are in heaven.

I pray that Mike has received the peace of understanding Gods Word in this matter.
---Shawn_M.T. on 10/31/08

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Dear Mike,

I am a young 20 year old who longed for that one person to spend my life with, I was bless through christ with the perfect person, and I have layed in bed stroking her hair thinking if god forbid one of us dies before the other, heaven would be worth going to unless she or I was there waiting with open arms. I dont think god would do that to our spirits. I think he knows some people would rather suffer on earth then have eternal bliss if it meant staying with their loved one. God bless you and stay true to what your heart feels
---A_friend on 10/30/08


she won't be your wife in heaven because death separates but she will be Gods angel and so will you so keep your mind on the Good memories you have and remember God will take care of you both, remain faithful in the Lord and be of good courage and I pray that Gods loving arms will comfort you at this time the sun will shine again, weeping may endure for a night but Joy comes in the morning!
---Carla5754 on 3/25/08

Sorry to here of your loss she passed at a tender age of just 41, the truth is God is the centre of all our hopes and Joy for only he can provide Joy that surpasses all understanding, he never promised that we would'nt have trials he said he'd give us the strength to go through them maybe you would have said what will you do without her and yet your still here and alive, so God kept his part, trust in the God of what he did yesterday and he'll keep his part today and forever.
---Carla5754 on 3/25/08

Love can be eternal. Matt 22:30 Christ only talks about the act of getting married in heaven (marryinging and being given in marriage) and He says nothing of whether it continues from earth, though the question asked of Him dealth with the topic. We must wonder if Christ's answer is not direct and clear, or if the people in the example were married for only "till death do us part". Mormons believe that families and marriages can be eternal if things are done in accordance with God's will.
---chris on 3/20/08

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The Sadducees asked Jesus about seven brothers who married one woman. "Who's wife will she be, for they all had her?" Jesus said, "Ye do err not knowing the Scriptures, nor the power of God, for we will be as the angels neither marrying nor giving in marriage." So I'd say, "No." But I love my wife very much too. And Heaven would seem so much less "heavenly" without her by my side. So I hope we can be best friends for eternity.
---Bobby on 3/20/08

Brother Barry, I am also sorry to hear about your wife. I really know how you feel since I too went through the same. Everyday I went to visit my wife, I would meet others who lost a loved one and God gave me words to say to them. With the Lord and with time you will be ok. God has a purpose for you that is why you are still here to complish His purpose. Right now you don't know what it is, but trust in Him and you will be led. I pray for you and your family
---Mark_V. on 2/25/08

First I am thankful to the Lord that you can give the testimony you gave about your wife.
As to your question, will she be your wife in heaven, she will not be a wife. Like she was on earth. You will know her and will spend time together, you and her will enjoy the each other, but you and her will not be married like you were on earth.
---Mima on 2/24/08

I lost my wife Feb 10th, 2008.
She is In heaven with Jesus Christ and no longer plagued by disease and old emotional issues. Jesus Christ is our Savior and His love is perfect. I love her, I long to hold her and I can't wait to talk with her again. Next time it will be in our perfect bodies and not stained by the sins of this world. No more emotional barriers! What love will ever compare to that of our GOD?
I miss you Diane and I will serve Jesus Christ until we meet again.

---Barry on 2/24/08

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Mike, I am sorry to hear about your loss.

I believe you will know her when you get there. When my Dad was passing away he started calling out to his loved ones that had gone on before. He told my mother he could see them, and they were waiting for him. He was a Christian man.

Christ tells the Sadducees that in the resurrection we will neither marry nor are given in marriage (Matt 22:30).

Lord bless you,
---trey on 10/27/07

My wife died 4 weeks ago. How do really know she is in heaven. And why believe I will see her again if you all say wedding vows death do us part. Religion is a crock. Last year I followed JC and looking back did it make my life better. No Way!!!!!!! Financial struggled and my wife dying.
---Mitchell on 10/21/07

These blogs are so funny. On one hand LDS's say they are married in the temple for time and all eternity so they have their spouse forever and everyone says they are deceived and a cult. Then you have many others here that say they will be with their spouse when their marriage contract on earth expires when death do ye part. talk about having your cake and wanting to eat it too. NO, you are not married after this life if you were only married until death do ye part. Read your wedding vows.
---Lori on 7/16/07

I lost my wife of 27 years five years ago. I love her as much now if not more than the day she left this life. If I could not be with her for eternity then heaven would not be heaven. I believe there are two things that are eternal. The soul and love. Neither can die. Larry
---Lawrence on 7/15/07

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Michael - LOL. All that, and no wife! :)
---Helen_5378 on 2/22/07

Yes, Helen, you have enabled men everywhere to buy a new boat, water skis, downhill skis, 4-wheelers, snowmobiles........
---Michael on 2/22/07

Michael - LOL I was wondering when somebody would pick up on my mistake! LOL. I meant procreation, not recreation! :o)
---Helen_5378 on 2/21/07

I have also read that passage and think it means that we will not goout looking for a spouse once we get to heaven,but surely I can be with my husband there. Something doesn't seem right if I can't be with my husband when I die. My life has been a nightmare without him and I look forward to seeing him again one day. I have alotof things I need to say to him.
---Tara on 2/21/07

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Yes, Helen, marriage is for recreation,
and procreation. : )
---Michael on 2/21/07

I am sorry to hear about your loss. To answer your question, if you both lived righteous lives, you will still know each other, but marriage on earth is until death do ye part, regardless how people try to tell you different. I have performed marriages and that is one of the lines said at the ceremony.
---Dave on 2/19/07

Hi Dave. See what happens when you strike a nerve. Wily, use someone's name for revenge. That would be your belief, Dave.
There is no marriage in heaven.
---Michael on 2/19/07

There will be no marriage in heaven. Marriage is for this life only, for the purposes of recreation.
---Helen_5378 on 2/19/07

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Of course your wife will still be your wife. You were joined together as one. Your marriage to your wife will be perfect as all things will be in heaven. Do not let anyone convince you that your marriage will not continue in heaven. God Bless you.
---Michael on 2/18/07

Only one reference on that question. Math 22:30 Jesus speaking to Sadducees said "for in the resurection they neither marry or are given in marriage but are as angels of God in heaven."
Based on that text it seems there will be no NEW marriages in heaven but leaves the question of other marriages in suspense! P.
---Pierr5358 on 10/26/06

I believe everything will be diffrent, Rev 5:8-10, it indicates that God has "made us kings and priest to our God; and we shall reign on the earth." And jesus promised the 12 Apostles: And i bestow upon you a kingdom, just as my Father bestowed one upon me, that you may eat and drink at my kingdom, and sit on thrones judging the twelve tribes of Isreal" Luke 22:29-30.
---winni on 10/24/06

Alan, that is a tribute to true love. She sounds "extra" special. Would you marry if the right one came along? (I'm married, I'm not looking for a date.) Would that be too difficult?
---Raine on 10/24/06

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There will be no marriage in heaven. I do believe that we will recognise people we knew on earth. The things that mattered to us on earth, will not matter in Heaven because we will have our glorified bodies.
---Helen_5378 on 10/24/06

"will the unsaved remember" Read 1Cor15:51,52,53,54 since God will change us in a moment, in the twinkling of an eye b4 going on2 heaven, then I say no we wont remember them.
---mmadm on 10/24/06

"will the saved remember the unsaved when they go to heaven (husband and wife)"

I don't think that those in Heaven will remember the unsaved. The Bible says that there will be no pain in Heaven. If we can remember our unsaved loved ones then we will no doubt experience pain. In the story of the rich man and Lazarus, the rich man lifted his eyes and could see Lazarus in "Abrahams bosom". But it never states that Lazarus could look down and see the rich man.
---Kay on 10/23/06

Private ... I don't think you are right to change that vow.
Let's say you are blissfully hapy in your marriage. You both learn a lot about how to treat and love your chosen spouse ... and eb loved
Let's also say, sadly, that you die quite young. Would you not like for your wife the channce to love and be loved again?
When my wife was dying, she said to me "I hope that you will marry again, and give someone else the happiness you have given me" That was true love.
---alan8869_of_UK on 10/23/06

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will the saved remember the unsaved when they go to heaven (husband and wife)
---WILLIAM_LATTIMER on 10/23/06

Mike - I am so sorry that you lost your wife. In heaven everything will be totally different from here on earth. There will be no need of marriage in Heaven - it is for this life only. Yes you will know your wife and all your other loved ones in Heaven ok, so there is much to look forward to.
---Helen_5378 on 8/14/06

In your wedding vows, did you say till death do us part? Cause then when a person dies it means the marriages is called of. That's why me and my fiance are going to change it to something which binds us forever^_^ cause when one of us dies we both agreed we don't want to get married again
---private on 8/14/06

Fear Not my brother about the former things and the cares of this life God promises a new body,he also said that he will wipe away our tears and there will be no more sorrow,no more pain, for the cares of this life will pass away and our focus will be towards the God of our salvation, no words can express your loss and only God can take this pain away and give you a new start as bro/sis.
---Carla5754 on 6/9/06

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No. She will just be a spirit and you will know her by her spirit.
---Rebecca_D on 5/19/06

Bruce, you will recall that the Saducees asked Jesus a similar question.
---Jack on 5/10/06

There will be no marriage in heaven. Marriage is for this life only. Creation is for this life only. Once we reach heaven we will have put on the incorruptible. That can be very hard while we are grieving a lost one down here, but it will all be so different in heaven that it will no longer hurt us... God will wipe away all our tears and there will be no more pain nor sorrow nor sickness in heaven.... that's something to really look forward to.
---Helen_5378 on 5/10/06

The word also says we will be known as we are known. Mike, you will know your wife, and you will remember that she was your wife. Although your relationship will be different in Heaven, because you will no longer be housed in earthly bodies. And if you should marry again before that time, you will also remember that person as your earthly wife. There will be no sin in Heaven, so there will be no jealousy between them. Marrying and giving in marriage refers to doing so AFTER we get there
---T.S. on 5/10/06

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I lost my wife to cancer 4 years ago. I can empathise with what you are going through.

Here is something for you to consider. If you remarry someday, and eventually through death or rapture, you all end up in heaven, whose husband would you be? You see the problem? Many people have survived multiple spouses, not just one or two. How could there be a marital relationship in Heaven when you consider this?
---Bruce5656 on 5/9/06

Mike, I am so very sorry to hear of your loss. My heart and sincere compassion and sympathy goes out to you. The bible says that we will neither marry nor be given in marriage, but Abraham was burried with his wife Sarah even though he re-married, so you will know your wife in heaven, just not be married to her, but you can be eternal buddies, know what I mean? (((huggs))) Again, I am so sorry to hear of your loss.
---Donna9759 on 5/9/06

Then that popular ditty, "Shake hands with Mother again" is based on a false premise.

Just as we reach our full humanity in the world to come, so do our relationships reach their ideal level.
---Jack on 5/9/06

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