Non-Christians Married In Church
I know someone who is getting married today and I went to the rehearsal last night. They are not christians and it's a church wedding with bride and groom taking communion in the ceremony, is this ok?
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---eliza4969 on 6/10/06
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Church wedding - no problem
Communion - Why bother not being a Christian?
---Bruce5656 on 11/25/07|
In a Catholic Church this would be wrong and would not generally be permitted. It possible to have a wedding ceremony without a mass, but this would NOT involve anyone receiving communion.
Outside of Catholic and Orthodox churches, communion is nothing but simple memorial meal of bread and wine. In that case, no harm no foul - but it would be up to the pastor and his views on how important the meal is to Jesus.
---lorra8574 on 4/2/07|
If only the bride and groom communicate, you could save a great deal of money by eliminating the reception. That would shut the MotherinLaws up.
---Marty on 4/2/07|
Traditionally at weddings only the bride and groom communicate.
---Jack on 6/12/06|
"Communion" will be valid only for the Christians who take part. My denomination doesn't include this item, but the bride may just admire it, a way of celebrating with everyone. She may not even know what it's for, herself. You could ask. And ask the pastor, what does he intend by including communion in the wedding? My pastor won't even marry a couple if he's not satisfied that they're both saved. Be happy for them but keep praying, and sharing Christ.
---Polly on 6/12/06|
There are many "nominal" Christians who would choose a church wedding because of all the tradition that goes with it. They don't know what Biblical Christianity is. But, praise the Lord, they may get it explained to them by the pastor before they marry. Again, they may get some teaching on what communion means, too.
---Donna2277 on 6/11/06|
If you are assuming they aren't Christians because of your conversation with the bride, that really isn't fair. There are Christians who don't take a literal interpretation of the Bible. Perhaps she meant that a literal interpretation is wrong. We don't know..and therefore, we really can't say one way or the other. We have to remember that communion is symbolic, and it has meaning to those who give it meaning, no matter what their doctrinal interpretations may be, or their denominational affiliation.
---Grace on 6/11/06|
If non-Christians marry in church (why they want to do so puzzles me) and there is to be communion afterwards, the responsibility for this is with the minister/pastor. If he himself is a Christian (not all are) he should know that they are NOT and he should let them know that they should NOT take communion, explaining that it is for 'those who love the Lord'. They cannot possibly understand the significance of it all if they do not believe. They need direction.
---M.P. on 6/11/06|
I meant the taking communion part, because it is for believers to remember what Jesus did for us and I have had conversations with the bride where she has stated she thinks the bible is wrong and etc...
---eliza4969 on 6/10/06|
Yes that is ok..... I can't begin to imagine what you think might be wrong with it. As far as their taking communion, well they will not know the truth until they become born-again and their spiritual eyes are opened, so let them be. The best thing you can do if you are born-again is to tell them of Jesus and His finished work on the Cross for them.
---Helen_5378 on 6/10/06|
It is THEIR wedding, not yours. If that's what they want, why not? or are you in the habit of keeping suspected non-Christians out of your church?
---Donna2277 on 6/10/06|
Who are you to decide they are not Christians?
Are they sorcerers? Are the secretly practicing another religion such as Islam or Wicca? Do you know for sure?
If the pastor performing the marriage is satisfied with their faith in Christ and their spiritual condition, then you should be, too.
In any case, it's not in your hands to decide this issue.
---Jack on 6/10/06|