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OK To Marry Divorced Person

Is is morally okay for Christians to date and marry a divorced person, if we were not the cause for the divorce?

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 ---Anna on 8/18/06
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I am amazed at how clear the Bible is on this subject but yet how we (i did it myself) twist and turn it to make it fit for us. We are to fear the Lord. I can't believe how much the church has changed and become watered down over the years. He is coming for a church without spot or wrinkle.
---Veronica on 12/8/07

The bible says judgement must begain at the house of god 1 peter 4,17 This means when you come to God you are for given of every thing you did.its after you get in the church that you are judged by what you do
---Betty on 11/19/07

I divorced by first husband when I was in a backslidden condition. My second husband was divorced. We have repented and all is under Jesus Blood. We are to restore others. This is an area the church is lacking in. So many are quick to point their finger, instead of reaching out with mercy, compassion and love, which is how we are known as Jesus' disciples. The sin of divorce is forgivable and restoration is scriptural. We don't pay penace the rest of our lives, for a sin Jesus shed His blood for.
---Beverly on 11/19/07

Matthew 5:32 " But I say unto you, That whosoever shall put away his wife, saving for the cause of fornication, causeth her to commit adultery: and whosoever shall marry her that is divorced committeth adultery." Notice this last phrase,"and whosoever shall marry her that is divorced committeth adultery."
Not one word is stated as to why she was divorced. It merely says that anyone who marries her that is divorced, committeeth adultery.
---Mima on 11/19/07

If the reason for the divorce is that the other spouse committed adultery, then I believe it is okay to date the person. For any other reason, then I would not date the person. To marry such a person would be to commit adultery with them. (My beliefs based on MY understanding of scriptures.)
---Madison1101 on 11/19/07

No! That is only under Mosaic Law. Jesus gave us a higher standard. Matthew 5:31 and Mark 10:11-12 - note that Matthew has a little extra clause, but this isn't what you think - in Deuteronomy 22, if a woman marries and is found out to not be a virgin, her husband can have her stoned to death unless she can prove him wrong with a token of her viriginity - blood stained sheets from their wedding night. This is false advertising and is grounds for annulment if the woman lied about it before marriage.
---lorra8574 on 3/6/07

Pray and trust God. If you really want to know, He will not lead you wrong.
---lynet on 3/6/07

That the man of God may be perfect, thoroughly furnished unto good works.
---Carla5754 on 3/6/07

Vs 13
But evil men and seducers shall wax worse and worse, Deceiving, and Being Deceived
Vs 14
But continue thou in the things which thou hast learned and hast been assured of knowing of whom thou hast learned
Vs 15
And that from a child thou hast known the holy scriptures, which are able to make thee wise unto salvation through faith which is in Christ Jesus
Vs 16
All scriptures given by inspiration of God and Profitable for Reproof, FOR CORRECTION,for Instruction in righteousness
---Carla5754 on 3/6/07

Vs 13
But evil men and seducers shall wax worse and worse, Deceiving, and Being Deceived
Vs 14
But continue thou in the things which thou hast learned and hast been assured of knowing of whom thou hast learned
Vs 15
And that from a child thou hast known the holy scriptures, which are able to make thee wise unto salvation through faith which is in Christ Jesus
Vs 16
All scriptures given by inspiration of God and Profitable for Reproof, FOR CORRECTION,for Instruction in righteousness
---Carla5754 on 3/6/07

Anna-In the bible I read how many times God has restored people..David more than once angered God yet still was a man after His own heart.Mary Magdalene,woman of Samaria at the well,Saul/Paul and so on..I dont understand how people can say that he wont or cant or will not do this for us.HE is the same yesterday today and tomorrow.Please make sure the person you want to date is in a relationship with Christ.Thats the only answer you really need.
---shelly on 3/6/07

2 Titus 3:1
This know also that in the last days perilous times will come.

For men shall be lovers of their own selves, covetous, boasters, proud, blasphemers, disobedient of parents,unthankful, unholy,
Vs 2
Without natural affection, truce breakers, False accusers, incontinent, fierce,despisers of those that are good.
---Carla5754 on 3/6/07

Vs 4
Traitors, heady, Lovers of pleasures more than lovers of God;
Having a form of Godliness but denying the power thereof: from such turn away.
for of this sort are they which creep into houses, and lead captive silly women laden with sins, led away with divers lusts,
Ever learning,and never able to come to the knowledge of truth.
---Carla5754 on 3/6/07

Vs 8
Now as Jannes and Jambres withstood Moses, so do these resit the truth: men of corrupt minds, reprobate concerning the Faith,
But they will proceed no further: for their folly shall be made manifest unto all men, as theirs also was.
But thou hast FULLY known My Doctrine, Manner of Life, Purpose,Faith, Longsuffering,Charity,patience,
Persecutions, afflictions......
V12 Yea and all that will live in Christ Jesus will suffer persecution.
---carla5754 on 3/6/07

Rebecca, do not worry about others. many are not without sin themselves. we are not to judge. God said it is not good for man to be alone, thus he created woman to love him and be a companion through life. you try to work at marriage but sometimes it is not possible. will God condemn you for remarrying another, NO. he will judge you by what you do in life to glorify His Holy name. men are carnal and devilish and many do not hesitate to throw stones when they should be throwing them at themselves.
---Dave on 3/5/07

I was divorced before I met my husband and so wasn't he. God didn't strike us dead for we are still here. We were both sinners when divorced from our former spouses. What is under the blood, stays under the blood. People harp on me and my husband because both of us have been divorced and remarried and he is a Preacher. They think it is so wrong and we'll die and go to hell.
---Rebecca_D on 3/5/07

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Timothy 4:2:3
Preach the word in season, out of season, Reprove, Rebuke, Exhort will all long suffering and doctrine for the time will endure sound doctrine: but after their own lusts shall they heap to themselves teachers, having itching ears.

defend sin with repentance and I hear what you are saying replace it with misinterpretation of Adultery and you re-write the Bible. Study to show thyself approved one reason (fornication) The subject was not the unpardonable sin.
---Carla_5754 on 3/5/07

I think the bible is very clear about divorce, lets not misinteprete the scriptures because a practise is common in a particular place.Divorced persons should remain unmarried,anything other than that is breaking the law of the Lord.
---paula on 3/5/07

many love to argue a point. the only unforgivable sin is blasphemy against the Holy Ghost. When Jesus met the adulterous lady, he said: "Let he who is without sin cast the first stone." He then told her go and sin no more. There are many reasons for divorce now, adultery, wife and children abuse where their lives are in danger. Are they wrong to divorce abusive men, NO. abuse did not exist at the time of Christ. that is a sin in todays world. Jesus taught to love others and never hurt them.
---Dave on 3/5/07

Why are so many Christians making divorce the one "unforgiveable" sin? Is this the one sin that is not covered by the blood of Christ? I think not. I'm so tired of divorced Christians being treated like criminals.
---Mrs._Williams on 3/4/07

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I think alot of christian are just too judgmental regarding this subject. Jesus was not judgmental person.I thought as children of Christ that we are trying become more like him. There is too much quoting from the old testament under Moses law, which we are not under that law any longer. I believe there are so many reasons for divorce that are correct and just that the bible does not cover. Personally before evr making a decision, I feel its best to lean on God and receive understanding.
---kymbe on 3/3/07

as the word of God say,that you should only devorce when you have cought the other party in the act of adultry,and continues-if one marries a divorced man or woman ,then that person is also an adulterer
---nolwazi on 3/2/07

I tussled with this "only if unfaithful" as the only reason. I left a marriage because I did not want to expose my children to any more harm or myself either. I'm sure God would not have me stay in a relationship that could injure us. I did not marry again until I had my children raised. I feel forgiven and loved for the choice I made.
---marylou on 2/27/07

Only if the divorced person's spouse was unfaithful according to Matthew. In Mark, Jesus is very blunt: Anyone who marries a divorced person is committing adultery.
---allen on 2/26/07

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study the word of God in its original language not the English translation. Many things were translated wrong. go to search type in divorce hope and hopefully you will find your answer.

The Lord set me free he doesn't want any one to be in bondage
---GAIL on 2/23/07

where do I get that I am entitled to be happy and enjoy a happy family. From the hundreds of scriptures in the bible where God tells us to love our wives and protect them with our own lives. love and cherish our children, so they grow in righteousness and not of the world. if you love God, you do not hurt those you supposedly love on the Earth. Satan teaches many to languish in misery as he himself is miserable.
---Dave on 2/20/07

A person is divorced for a reason. So be very careful when with a divorced one: Why is the person divorced? Were they committing adutery? etc. And how do you know that they will not do the same thing to you, and you will also end up divorced?
---Eloy on 2/20/07

Some people can jump from one relationship into another very easily. I myself cannot, when I love someone and they betray my love I cannot run out and jump into another relationship right away, as a matter of fact I can't see myself ever having another relationship again because of it. The Bible says adultery is grounds for divorce, but that provision was given only for people who desired release from their marriage, and not for those who desired their marriage to be everlasting.
---Eloy on 2/20/07

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The two become one flesh, and what God has joined together, let not man put apart. God hates divorce. But from hardness of heart he allows divorce on the grounds of adultery, or infidelity, that is, yoking with someone other than the married spouse, or being unequally yoked with a nonbeliever or with a spouse of a different faith which is idolatry.
---Eloy on 2/20/07

Anna, to answer your question, it is ok in one instance only. If a man divorces his wife for the cause of fornication, he is allowed to do so. (See Mat 19:9) The Bible says marrying a divorced woman is adultery, not a man, for this reason.
---Porter on 2/20/07

families should be cherished and not taken for granted. through the scriptures, we read parents cried and mourned their children who fell into temptation and destroyed their lives. if you both practise what you preach, you do not have affairs or commit adultery. you work hard every day to show your love to each other. you need to look at families before 1960. many couples are now celebrating 40,50 and 60th anniversaries married to the same person. people are not disposable, but many throw them away.
---Dave on 2/18/07

"lean not on your own understanding"
where in the Word of God do you get an understanding that you are ENTITLED to love and a happy family? If i sin i must pay the consequences. If i break a lifelong covenant between my wife and i before God, the result is a life of remaining seperate or reconciliation with the wife of my youth. to remarry is to sin and commit adultery. repentance from that adultery is to leave the woman - she is not your wife.
---brian on 2/18/07

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The answer to the question is YES. marriage here on Earth is until death do you part. If your husband or wife commits adultery during the marriage, you are free to divorce them without consequence. I am divorced too and I know God will bring my soul mate to me eventually. Everyone is entitled to love and a happy family. No one has the right to dispute that.
---Dave on 2/18/07

Were you married in a church? Regardless, of whether you pretended to be Christians or not, Christ defined marriage as two leaving their parents and coming together as one. So two virgins coming together is marriage, and "The wife is bound by the law as long as her husband liveth", "But and if she depart, let her remain unmarried, or be reconciled." Nowhere does it say give up, keep praying and seeking the Lord. Stay in the Word.
---Porter on 2/17/07

I think if the person seeks forgiveness for the divorce (whether it was before or after they were saved), then that sin is forgiven and forgotten. I'm in a situation now (as a Christian wife) where my husband walked out on me 16 months ago. I will likely divorce soon since he abandoned me. Does that mean I can never be happily married again? I don't believe so.
---Debbie_in_Ohio on 8/22/06

Elder, if you're out there, I'd like to hear your answer to this question. Care to oblige?
---Katie on 8/21/06

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When two non-believers divorce and one becomes a Christian, the Christian may remarry. 2 Corinthians 5:17 Therefore if any man be in Christ, he is a new creature: old things are passed away; behold, all things are become new. Therefore if any man be in Christ, he is a new creature: old things are passed away; behold, all things are become new.
---judit4846 on 8/19/06

Bible answer:11"Whosoever shall put away his wife, and marry another, committeth adultery against her."

"And if a woman shall put away her husband, and be married to another, she committeth adultery" the good news is that Jesus died for the sin of adultery also, and you can be forgiven by asking for forgiveness.
---mima on 8/19/06

2) It was a nightmare that negatively impacted my childrens lifes. He became more abusive with time, putting children at risk, and adultery was an issue. It was very grieveous, and it all ended in divorce. I know that God released me and I am free to remarry if I choose/God so desires. (Matt 19)
---christinaq on 8/19/06

1)Melissa, So glad you are blessed now and saved. I too was married to an alcoholic who is also a crack addict. AS a christian I did not view divorce as an option but seperated many times. I spent years in Counseling with pastor and prayer but he continued in his ways, became progressively worse.
---christinaq on 8/19/06

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If the divorced person got married and divorced while unsaved, I think they should get another chance at happiness, especially if they go about it God's way (praying for guidance in the choice of a mate and putting God before the relationship etc.) A Christian will avoid divorce because they are aware that their marriage is a covenant with God, not just with their mate.
---melissa on 8/18/06

Even though my first husband was an alcoholic, I believe that if I would have been saved before our divorce I would have been much more committed to staying with him. I was in the world when I married him and did not pray about my choice. I was in the world when I chose to give up on my marriage. I believe that my entering a second marriage prayerfully and as a saved person has made a difference. I am forgiven for my disastrous first marriage and my second one is blessed by God.
---melissa on 8/18/06

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