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Wife Told Me To Move Out

I have been married 8 years and my wife has told me to move out. She has told me that she does not want to try to save it. What do I do?

Moderator - Don't move out as it may be difficult to move back in. See your pastor or a counselor.

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If your wife wants to seperate tell her to move out. She is the one wanting it enough to tell you she doesn't want to save it. Tell her to MOVE.
---shira on 11/2/08

We need more information as to why she is asking you to leave.

Since I do not know I give this advice.

If you are abusive or not acting in a Christian manor (adultery, dunkeness etc..) and she is in fear of you, I would say leave, get help for your problems, pray for your salvation.

If she is the one that is being un-Christian, I would have to say get lawyer. But also talk to your pastor or a counselor to try to solve the issues and above all pray for guidence from the Holy Spirt.
---Francis on 11/27/07

You make it as clear to her as you can that:

1. She does not order you out of YOUR bed. If she does not want to sleep witn you in YOUR bed, she can sleep elsewhere.

2. She does not order you out of YOUR house and home. If she does not wish to dwell with you in YOUR domicile, she can live somewhere else.
---Jack on 11/27/07

I second the Mod. Don't go anywhere. It's your home after all. With the ridiculous divorce and property laws in play, you may find yourself left with nothing just because you tried to accomodate your wife's wishes. If she is bent on leaving and ending the marriage you can't do much about it but don't help make it easier for her. She won't appreciate it in the end anyway.
---ralph7477 on 5/14/07

Good point, Marya. I know a woman who suffered psychological, verbal and emotional abuse and lived with a constant threat of violence eventually causing her to flee. Initially, she tried to wait him out and not lose possession of her property. He was similarly advised to stay by a divorce atty. It was terrible, especially for the children. We shouldn't advise a person to insist on staying when we don't know the details. Not suggesting the OP is abusive, just that we don't know and should exercise caution.
---AlwaysOn on 9/13/06

I am not saying this is a similar situation, but if you had given my ex the same advice, and he had forcefully followed through with it, our daughter could be dead or seriously physically injured. Please, in this case, get more information before you advise!! Some women have legitimate reasons for asking a spouse to leave.
---marya4598 on 8/24/06

I consulted my lawyer first, and with his advice asked my husband to leave as I was afraid he would kill our daughter. He was "happy" in our marriage - got everything done for him , did nothing, and "didn't see it coming" although I had asked him numerous times for his help and to work on issues together. When the violence against our daughter became unbearable (I ignored it towards myself), I asked him to leave.
---marya4598 on 8/24/06

The question has given little information to elicit good advice. I asked my husband to leave also. Given that much information would you have given my ex the same advice?
---marya4598 on 8/24/06

What did you do? What did you not do? I noticed you have not mentioned your role in this matter, neither do you condemn her decision... Madison was correct, what you do is consult a lawyer immediately.
---david on 8/24/06

Do you know Jesus as your Lord and Savior? Does she? Doesn't sound like she does, but do you? IF you do, PRAY HARD!!!! The effective, fervernt prayer of the righteous availeth MUCH.
If you don't, then get to know Jesus as your Lord and Savior. Then He will work it out for you. He can change hearts, and take her heart of stone and make it into a heart of flesh. PRAY HARD!
---Donna9759 on 8/21/06

There are two sides to every story and before good sound advice can be given at least a little of the facts would make it possible to answer you. I always ask the one that says they are happy in their marriage what would their other half say? sometimes you'll find a very different answer, but most often the other person is Married the other is Happy :(
---Carla5754 on 8/21/06

Before you call your pastor or counselor call a divorce lawyer and make an immediate appointment. DO NOT MOVE OUT!!!!! YOu have a legal stake in your home and need to remain in the residence. If she is so miserable, she can move out.
---Madison1101 on 8/20/06

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