Who Started The Divorce
My ex-spouse filed for legal separation. After asking repatedly for reconciliation to which she was not willing to do, I waited 9 months hoping she would change her mind. Finally, having no other option, I converted her filing into a divorce action. Under whose initiation was the divorce?
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---Daniel on 8/24/06
Helpful Blog Vote (7)
**Finally, having no other option, I converted her filing into a divorce action. **
Daniel, who was it who had no other option: you or her? Your sentence is ambiguous.
If it were you, do you mean that you were forced in some way to initiate a divorce "ad vinculum matrimonii"?
---Jack on 12/1/07|
Daniel sweetie, we're not lawyers here. It's all according to the laws of the state you live in. Your question indicates you are looking for an answer because you have an ulterior motive. What difference does it make who went first and initiated it if you both went ahead and signed something?
---Donna9759 on 4/19/07|
To man, from his perspective, you did; but to God, from his perspective, she did. Divorce (ie: forced division) happens from "hardness of heart". Because of freedom of will to choose to be righteous or sinuous, no one can make a person be faithful or obedient to their vows, nor keep the wedlock when one decides to be an infidel and break it.
---Eloy on 8/25/06|
Daniel, You need to talk with an attorney to get competent answers to your questions familiar with the law in your jurisdiction. There is likely a legal aid group available who may also be able to answer those questions if you can't afford an attorney.
---notlaw99 on 8/25/06|
No law passed by man can surpass the law of the Almighty God that said accept it be fornication if a man/woman seperate for any other reason and marry again commits Adultery(paraphrased) so all this talk about what the law of the land says is an excuse to make that individual circumtances of re-marriage in their veiw ''legal''. You can make up your own law for re-marriage or you can follow the word of God bottom line!
---Carla5754 on 8/25/06|
Pharisee, what an EXCELLENT answer! What a great teaching! your analogy from a fleshly understanding to a spiritual uunderstanding of marriage is comendable.
---Ryan on 8/24/06|
Obviously the divorce was under your initiation as you are the one who filed it, not your wife. She only filed for separation but not the divorce itself.
---Helen_5378 on 8/24/06|
Divorce stems from a spiritual separation where love ceases to be given.
It's not the offense that causes, (although that's often the excuse) that's forgivable it's the hardness of heart that causes the separation.
We read in 1 Corinthians 6:17 that we are joined to the lord in Spirit.
Since he never removes his love, we always cause the separation. "if you love me you'll keep my commandments."
Who refused to reconcile? This is the beginning of the divorce.
---Pharisee on 8/24/06|
Why do you say you had no other option?
In Pennsylvania, there is no such thing as legal separation. You are either married, or divorced. My ex filed, and I did sign because of our no-fault law. After 2 years a no-fault divorce becomes final no matter what.
What is your reason for asking this question?
---Madison1101 on 8/24/06|