Register Kid's Birthday Party
Do you think it is over the top to register your child's birthday party so people know what to get them? Or is this too pushy?
Moderator - It is easy to put a theme on the party invitation and then most people get that type of gift. However, registering is a new thing some of the stores are pushing.
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---barbara on 9/12/06
Helpful Blog Vote (9)
Since asking for a gift for any party other than a shower is tacky, registering for a birthday party is a NO.
I'd let an Amazon-type wish list slide for older teens, say 15 and up, provided it's not mentioned on the invite and has mostly inexpensive items listed on it.
But only because a lot of gifts would be of the CD/DVD variety anyway, and it'd be helpful to know what the teen would like.
---Nancy on 12/19/07|
I guess it depends on how you look at it. I personally would love it because it's hard to shop for kids these days. They don't go for the same toys I did. However, from my husband's point of view it's disrespectful. A child needs to learn to appreciate what is given to him, and it's rude for people to tell eachother what to buy. You'll probably have both opinions on your invite list. However, if people want to know what your child wants, they'll ask, won't they?
---Katie on 12/12/07|
I quess it is fasionable, but do Christians have to be fasionable. Is it about having a lovely party for your child with hopefully loyal christian friends, or is it about the gifts. What are you conveying to your child?
I think a nice day with friends and family is the important issue.
---Junia on 4/18/07|
I think that is ridiculous. Children don't need any help being greedy.
---Madison1101 on 4/17/07|
In the community I live in, there are some that have a drive to have the best party...the compitition can be fierce, each trying to outdo the other. hen there's talk of who spent how much for a gift for their child, and if the gift was thought of as not expensive enough, the parents are upset since they did not get a "good return" on their investment. I actually dread some of the parties.
---Christina on 9/15/06|
If large stores are pushing this idea then it is for one reason only (and that is not the happiness of your child). Beware of any idea that makes heaps of money for someone else. I really wish we could get back to the kind of children's party where they were happy with absolutely any small gift, triangular shaped sandwiches (any other time they were just square) cakes with icing and a cherry on top and games like 'pass the parcel'. In this greedy world it isn't going to happen though, is it?
---M.P. on 9/14/06|
Amazing how the focus these days is on what one gets...the best child's birthday party my kids went to recently was one where the parents asked that no gifts be given, wishing to just share the time and fun with others. Some gave gifts anyways.
---christina on 9/13/06|
Madison is correct. It's not a wedding, it's a birthday party. If your kid has friends all in the same economic class, that's one thing. Some parents cannot afford all those birthday presents. They might have to go to the dollar store. With their own family and relatives to buy for, it's asking alot.
---Rachel on 9/13/06|
I don't think it's over the top or pushy. We do it for weddings, bridal & baby showers, why not for children's parties? We give adults exactly what they want through registries, why deny children the same?
The flip side is that a child might be disappointed that s/he didn't get all of the gifts registered. Children tend to have larger expectations and may be a little more sensitive to disappointment if they really had their hopes up for certain gifts.
---AlwaysOn on 9/13/06|
**may well contribute to the child getting what the parents want more than what the child does.**
While I think that reasonable parents (that's most of them) would give a wide latitutde on what the kids can get, it still m ay be best to check with the parents first.
Examples--you may not give a video game that's compatible with the child's system, or maybe it's a game the parents do NOT want the child to have, or you may not know the right size, and so on.
---Jack on 9/13/06|
I think that is going too far. It takes the joy of selecting something based on the childs personality away and may well contribute to the child getting what the parents want more than what the child does.
---Darlene_1 on 9/12/06|
The custom imipresses me as being more than a little tasteless.
If one is in doubt about what is appropriate to give, the parents should be asked directly but discreetly.
** We don't do b-days, but we celebrate our anniversary "for our kids". **
I could go mad, in a nice way, trying to figure out the intrinsic difference between these not doing birthdays, but doing anniversaries for children.
---Jack on 9/12/06|
Madison I really agree with you on this one. Children just have far too much stuff and because they cannot think what to use or play with next they just expect bigger and more expensive things every time. Perhaps missing alternate birthdays would be a better idea!!!!
---M.P. on 9/12/06|
We don't do b-days, but we celebrate our anniversary "for our kids". This year, I added a note that said I wasn't trying to be tacky, but to make gift selecting easier, I enclosed a list of their wants/needs.
---tracy on 9/12/06|