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My Wife Is Bi-Polar

My wife was recently diagnosed with bipolar. We split because an episode of mania. My wife says she no longer loves me and doesn't want to work this out. What should I expect once she's on medication and getting treatment?

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As long as she stays on her medication, you can expect her emotions to be more stable. As far as her feelings about the marriage, commit that to prayer, as she may still not want to work out your differences.

I would suggest that you seek therapy for yourself in the meantime, as living with a bipolar person can be challenging and could bring up stuff in you that needs to be worked out with the help of a professional.
---Madison1101 on 3/29/08

Pray for her and support her anyway you can. Things will get much better.
---Ben on 2/21/07

As a Bi Polar person I cannot under stand why people go off their medicine. I for one don't want to go back to that horrible condition I was in before the meds. keep the faith all and God bless!
---Jim on 12/28/06

My wife was diagnosed as Manic depressive and Bi-polar. We were saving to buy a house and renting at the time when we were evicted from rental dueto the investor wanting to sell the rentals. My wife's mother died, my mother died and we moved to rental that wouldn't take her dog. She crashed. After three years and my standing by her. Her turning to God, She is over the depression and has found the solution for a few drugs fore Bi-polar which she will take the rest of her life. Praise the Lord!
---Lloyd on 12/23/06

Had my husband got some help, we may not have divorced. He aways blamed me for his deep depression,then realized long after he had destroyed the marriage with infidelity, it wasn't me at fault. He is taking medicine now.We have been divorced many years. He hasn't returned to serving the Lord yet.Thatis my prayer, that he does soon. I have spoke to him about it, and he acknowledges that he needs to, but I think the devil makes him feel so much shame, that he thinks he can't.
---Cheri on 12/15/06

Well the VA said that I was Bipolar, gave me so much medication became claustrophobic!
I checked out, Ive taken 0 tablets save vitamin C, for 2 years.
My first wife and I aborted our baby.
At times I cry, At times that Im glad our son isnt alive, the world is going bad.
Though if God gives me a Godly lady again, I would like twin boys.
But this world is crazy so it helps to be able to laugh with it, and to cry for all that we do in ignorance.
Love David
---James_David_Elton on 12/8/06

seth my heart and prays are with you. this is a very difficult illness to deal with. those that are bi polar have extremes they are great caring and encouraging people and then the most demening. when she enters treatment you will see less flux but not perfection. She will need good support at home to continue treatment because once she starts treatment she'll feel great and cured and stop treatment then she'll have a greater extrem. it's hard and takes alot out of both but it can be a good relationship.
---Jared on 12/1/06

if she wants you back when she is one meds, go back to her. if she doesn't want you back then stay seperated. if she sleeps with someone else then you are free to remarry.
---tony on 11/23/06

Only U of course can make that choice along w/her. But I will pray I tried to make my marriage work w/a rapid cycler bi-polar husband. It did not surface until his late 20's. He hit huge highs/low, lows would be violent, stabbed a person, attacked me,etc. So I understand I do- and will pray. Some do well on meds my ex did not nor did his many stays in the mental hospital and deep therapy help in his case, but all are different.
---Jeanne on 11/22/06

We can't tell you what to expect because medication works different in everyone. I can take benadryl for allgeries and it helps but doesn't make me drowsy. My husband can take non-drowsy benadryl and it knocks him out cold. My sister-n-law is bipolar and she was on medicion, it worked so well on her. She was a totally different person. Now when she got off her meds, she was hard to talk to. She was grouchy and say mean things then two seconds later she'd talk so nicely, and never apoligizing.
---Rebecca_D on 11/22/06

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Bipolar is a modern euphemism for category of mental illnesses involving manic depression. The term Bipolar was coined to make Manic Depressive Psychoses more palatable to the general populous because the formal term tends to scare people too much.

The range of the melody can be from minor periodic depression and mood swings, to psychotic to acute psychopathic behavior, so he heed to find out the range of the melody and the prognosis for his wife.
---notlaw99 on 11/22/06

Notlaw: The first part of your post is missing. A person with bipolar disorder does not always need a guardian, and therefore there is no need to have a Durable Power of Attorney. With the proper medication and therapy, many people with bipolar disorder function very well in society.
---Madison1101 on 11/22/06

It would be a common reaction for your wife to come back to you asking to work things out. If the medication works properly she will be thinking more rationally. I suggest you take her back, forgive eachother, and love her to pieces. Increase the focus of God in your home. This will be of greatest benefit to you both. Even on medication there can be tough times ahead. Be supportive and know that mood swings will be temporary.
---john on 11/22/06

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If his wile has ever signed a Durable Power of Attorney for Healthcare and he is the Attorney In Fact, he can request that a physician enable it with the concurrence of one other doctor. At the point all of her legal right are controlled by him. He has complete access to medical records, he can have her committed involuntary if necessary and can control all of her finances. May states suggest this route as apposed to a formal guardianship which is more difficult to acquire.
---notlaw99 on 11/22/06

Thomas that is a wonderful testimony of what God can do. I have seen more people like you who have been cured from these type of illnesses including schizophrenia. But not all people will go God's way.
---john on 11/22/06

Thomas, praise God! I love to hear testimony here of what God has done and is doing...Glory to God.
---christina on 11/22/06

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** Bipolar is a euphemism for a number of mental conditions.**

"Bipolar" is not a euphemism, but the proper medical term for what used to be called "manic-depressive."
---Jack on 11/22/06

Notlaw99: According to the Diagnostic and Statistic Manual, 4th Edition, bipolar disorder is a mental illness. It has a list of specific symptoms that include mania and depression.

As for the husband here speaking to the mental health provider, the mental health provider is not permitted to speak to him about his patient's mental status, or meds, without her releasing him to do so. That is the law, according to the HEALTH INSURANCE PORTABILITY AND ACCOUNTABILITY ACT OF 1996
---Madison1101 on 11/21/06

Bipolar is a euphemism for a number of mental conditions. You need to have a personal conference with the Mental Health Professional that is treating your wife. This is the only way you are going to get any definitive information on her specific mental illness, her treatment plan, medications (side effects) and prognosis.

And you must also recognize that her current dislike for you, my be totally independent of any mental condition. And if it is, don't expect her to changes in that that respect.
---notlaw99 on 11/21/06

My mom and I were diagnosed as Bipolar. She was in and out of treatment facilities; we both spent our share of time medicated.Medication numbs pain and dulls down the exremity; but causes a bit of an emotional disconnect. We surrendered to Jesus, gave ourselves over to studying the Bible (God's advice on dealing with the human soul),and obeyed God's wisdom. We took counsel from Romans 12:2 and allowed God's Spirit to renew our minds. Now we both enjoy increasingly fruitful lives,grounded in His Word.
---Thomas on 11/21/06

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