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I Can't Connect With God

My husband is an alcoholic and my life with him is unbearable. I have tried to pray for him, for our marriage, for direction in my life, yet I'm so entrenched in depression that I feel I can't even connect with God. How can I still hear God and take counsel in Him when I'm so depressed and hopeless?

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 ---Grace on 11/21/06
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Blessings to all, I have learned that when the storms of life approach, not to fold up my wings, or run for cover, but like an eagle, spread wide those wings and soar far above the storms, and after the storms have passed, I have gained Godly strength and courage too face life's storms. Fly like an eagle to God and He will comfort you. He is our rock and our refuge. God Bless friends!
---Cynthia on 12/3/07

(III.)Grace, There will be difficult days, but God promised He will care for you(1 Peter 5:6,7). So take a "Faith dive" into the Arms of God, and allow Him to give you His supernatural peace(Phil.4:6-8). I will pray for you. God Bless!
---Mrs._Morgan on 12/3/07

I will pray for you and your situation.
---Ben on 2/21/07

Psalm 23 says "Yea, though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, THOU ART WITH ME." Jesus is right there with us in the depths of our troubles.

Read Psalm 139, it says that no matter where we are, God is there with us.

Thank you for correcting Bob's error.
---Madison1101 on 11/24/06

**Friend, Get above your problems, THATS WHERE JESUS IS...GOD BLESS YOU..**

Bob is wrong.

Even if you can't get above your problems, or even just feel you can't get above them, Jesus is with you in them and through them.
---Jack on 11/24/06

it's hard to seperate yourself from misery. what i do to keep my spirits up is read the Bible. we were meant to serve. that is our purpose and if you don't fulfill your intended purpose then you will always feel unfulfilled. there are a few verses which i can't remember that talk about being unselfish is the key to happyness and sure has been for me. getting a dog to love and take care of and doing volunteer work are very theraputic things.
---tony on 11/23/06

Friend, Get above your problems, THATS WHERE JESUS IS...GOD BLESS YOU..
---bob on 11/23/06

You are still reaching out so this is a good thing or U would not even asked this question-so U have strength even if U dont "feel U do". There is a saying written on the wall of a death camp in Germany it reads I believe in the sun even if it did not rise,I believe in love even when I feel it not, and I believe in God even when He is silent. So take heart and courage He is close even when quiet or U do not feel Him. Do not be ashamed to seek help, keep praying and reaching out.
---Jeanne on 11/22/06

The best way for God to talk to you, is by reading his word. He told us that he wouldn't put anything upon us that we couldn't bare. When you are trying to pray, and all you can do is cry, sweety he understands every tear that falls from your face. Get alone by yourself, get an oil bottle, (don't matter what kind of oil) anoint a circle then your forehead, step inside the circle. I promise you God will meet you there. He will wrap his arms around you. God has not made a promise that he couldn't keep.
---Rebecca_D on 11/22/06

CONT; God looks at you hanging onto a fraile and fragile faith, your clinging to the rocks above a canyon of dismay. Reach out for the life-line I promise it will never break into, don't lose heart for God will see you through. When your hanging by a thread, you can still climb life's mountains. The cliffs may be ruff and jagged, you can still crawl. But if you should slip and reach rope's end, you'll find the hem of his garment, so please don't let go of that last thread of hope.
---Rebecca_D on 11/22/06

opps! Hebrews 13:15 for offer sacrifice of praise.Let me add also,when you praise God it will take you out of your depression and lift your spirits. Now for the dealing with an alcoholic, join the spouses branch of Alcoholic Anonymous,it will help you learn how to deal with him.If the unbearable part is physical abuse,you must do whatever it takes to protect yourself.
---Darlene_1 on 11/22/06

I see you have been walking by faith. Faith always connects to God. This is the exact time that you will get victory. Quitting now would mean defeat. Hook up with some good people that will lift you up. You were not meant to carry all this by yourself. A few strong prayer warriors will be of great help to you. Actually, it is your husband that needs to make the connection. Prayer will win.
---john on 11/22/06

Do you have a Pastor or a Christian friend... Someone that will encourage and remind you how precious you are to God? A trusted friend you can share sadness with. Writing is good therapy. Start writing about your ungrieved grief, sadness, anger to God. Write in your car, alone with God. Writing brings your heart to the surface. Numbing away the hurt by shutting down the mind is a way we cope. We shut out all thoughts and it becomes harder to hear God's voice.
---Rachel on 11/22/06

When you are finished writing your prayer to God, tear it up. God will remember it. A car is a good prayer room. Let God bring justice into your life. Let Jesus resurrect hope in your heart. God honors humble beginnings.
Do one positive thing for yourself each day. I pray God helps you.
---Rachel on 11/22/06

(1.)Grace, You probably have a hard time "hearing God" because of all That demonic bondage and confusion that Your Husband is bound with. The environment you are living in is like the pit of hell, I know, I've been there. Now that I am separated from my husband, I can think clearly, and don't get severe stomach attacks like I use to.
---Mrs._Morgan on 11/22/06

(2.)That awful environment was literally making me sick! Some times you just have to get away, if it is affecting you so much, That's what I did! Once again when I was actually LIVING WITH HIM, I had to depend on God every second, and God always pulled me through. But there are times when a person can be so deep in depression that they "feel like" they are disconnected with God.
---Mrs._Morgan on 11/22/06

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(3.)Grace, But the Word says "The Just shall live by Faith", feelings can affect Faith, and that's not good. I pray that you will be able to live in a "healthier environment". God Bless!
---Mrs._Morgan on 11/22/06

Grace, get somewhere alone and pour your heart out to God. Tell him exactly how you feel, He desires truth in the innermost being. Keep going before him and cry out "Help me Lord, please help me Lord." Day and night let that be your prayer. There's a scripture in Jeremiah that I stood on when I was depressed and hopeless, "I have loved you with an everlasting love." Scan the word of God, let the Holy Spirit give you scriptures that HE wants to speak to you. I will be praying for you.
---Donna9759 on 11/22/06

Have you read SCREWTAPE LETTERS by CSLewis?

In it, he says that nothing makes the devils tremble with fear more than when a Christian, looking out over a landscape from which all sign of God has vanished, asks why he has been forsaken, and STILL intends to please and obey Him.
---Jack on 11/22/06

This may not make sense to you now, but if you will do it you will find it helps you touch God and Him touch you. Romans 15:11 praise the Lord,all ye Gentiles;and laud(solemn praise) him,all ye people. Hebrews By him therefore let us offer the sacrifice of praise to God continually,that is the fruit of our lips giving praise to his name. God inhabits the praise and when you praise you are drawing nearer to God and he to you. Praise God for giving Jesus for you. Praise God in Jesus Name.
---Darlene_1 on 11/22/06

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Grace--remember, when you pray you ARE connecting with God, whether y ou "feel" it or not.

In fact, it's easy to pray when we experience consolations (as "feeling connected" is called by spiritual writers. What really pleases Him the most is when you intend to pray and do regardless of how you're feeling.

I'm not putting down your sorrow and anguish, but merely addressing one part of it.
---Jack on 11/22/06

Grace, what you need is time out. The best thing that you can do - for both yourself and your husband - is to live separately for a while. This will give you the space you need to be refreshed and deal with the depression, as well as the time you need to spend time with God. If you want to chat more, mail me.
---laure5759 on 11/21/06

God uses many avenues to help us, including medicine and therapy. Talk to your doctor about your depression and find a good counselor.

You are not powerless in your situation - although none of your choices may seem all that good.

God hears us even when we don't feel connected to Him. It could be that He led you here.

---grace3869 on 11/21/06

Depression is such a common reaction to the stress of living with an alcoholic in a bad marriage. Not feeling you are connecting with the Lord is also common as well. I hope you are getting help for your depression from a doctor or therapist. I would strongly urge you to do that if you haven't already.

To help with the connecting with God, I urge you to seek an older, Christian woman to disciple/mentor you in your faith. Having such a friend can help you connect in so many wonderful ways.
---Madison1101 on 11/21/06

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(I.)Grace, My husband too is a alcoholic and irresponsible to top it all off. I never struggled with hate with him, only disappointment and deep sadness, that only God can heal, and I am still in the "healing process". Dear one, my heart goes out to you , I feel your pain, I know! I am separated from Him, I had to literally pack up with our kids, and escape that prison that was called our home.
---Mrs._Morgan on 11/21/06

(II.)Grace, I depended on God, every second. It wasn't one day at a time, it was literally one second at a time. I had to sell my house that I owned(before I met him)BELOW market, to avoid having to go through foreclosure. I have battled severe depression, But God has always pulled me through. You just have to hang on to God for dear life, trust in Him, Praise Him with all your heart, so you can rise above the pain.
---Mrs._Morgan on 11/21/06

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