Crystal, I disagree with your response. At age 59, I was still dating a variety of nice men that were marriage material. I remarried at age 60 to a man that I met on this site. Ladies, there are a lot of lonesome men out there.
---Annie on 3/18/08|
I believe this is a very good place for this type of question to be asked. many times we feel the need to ask, but aren't sure what venue is best. We don't want to made fun of, taken lightly, misjudged/understood, or ignored.
We believe because we are decent Christian women, we will be approached by decent Christian men.
Thank you Raven, you have spoken for many, when you ask where the decent Christian men are.
I hoped there would be more replies:)
---lynet on 1/4/07|
Are you satisfied with Christ, you need to be satisfied with Christ so you can enjoy the man God has designed for you. We sometimes as women think that a man suppose to meet all our needs and we don't use our
single time allowing God to show us who He is so we can enjoy the man and help the man to become who Jesus designed him to be.
so you want end up divorceing because of selfish motives.
---Joyce on 12/30/06|
Ralp7477, I totally agree, If I say I'm living a Christ led life, it should be reflected in all I do. If He's in there,
Christ makes the difference.
Deb, I know the site has worked for some but, I had the experience from hell, (my blog file, 12/10+11/06). The Lord intervened on my behalf. There's always going to be that type of person. My response is to move forward.
---Lynet on 12/27/06|
Lynet, I will respond to your search. I was married once and engaged to be married again. I am still single and there is no way in the world I would seek to be married again. The reasons are too numerous to list. Generally speaking, "Christian" women are not really any different than your run-of-the-mill women. I see it on the blogs all the time. It's just not worth all the stress.
---ralph7477 on 12/27/06|
lynet, did you know ChristiaNet has a Penpal/Chat/Dating ministry/function on this site. It's at the "Mall", upper left corner. I thought you might want to check it out.
---Deb on 12/26/06|
This is still an open question.
Single Christian women know there are good, and decent Christian men who desire decent Christian women. On this site we cover the globe.
We know Christ, we serve Him, we have family, friends, and professions.
We would also like to have the companionship of a man who knows how to love a woman as Christ loved the church.
Can we hear from single, free to marry, Godly males of all ages? I believe hearing from you guys would clear some things up.
---lynet on 12/26/06|
marietta, Three of my 4 brother's have never been married, they range in age from 21-45, But only one is saved, he is shy/soft spoken, extremely intelligent, caring, sensitive and handsome. God Bless!
---Mrs._Morgan on 12/14/06|
Marietta, you are in a good place. Never been married and do not want a divorced man. There is no reason why you should settle for less. I don't blame you, you're not hauling a tractor trailer behind you full of baggage. Wait on the Lord. I know a 38 year old man, never married, professional, waiting on a girl like you. No relation. And Marietta, he is a Matt Damon double. Looks aren't important, but God has 'Davids' waiting in the wings. Stay encouraged!
---Cindy on 12/14/06|
Yeah, well, I'm 37, attractive, and still single. Never been married. I can't find my man either. Most men who get in contact with me are divorced. I don't want a divorced man. I just can't go there.
---marietta on 12/14/06|
You might get by with that, lee, until the abusive husband decides to use a weapon other than his hands. It happens every day.
---Cindy on 12/4/06|
I think that if I were a woman and got beat up by my husband, I would enroll in a good karate school and after I finish that, teach him a few lessons about how a woman should be treated.
---lee1538 on 12/4/06|
raven, there's alot of good advice given here. I've been married to a Christian guy who ended up beating me up several times. My hearts desire is to minister to brokenhearted people and to set the captives free. Ask Father God what you can be doing for him, and in seeking His Kingdom FIRST, all these other things will be added unto you. Isaiah 54 says, "For your maker is your husband, the Lord of hosts is his name." Believe that and make Jesus your husband.
---Donna9759 on 12/4/06|
Raven, have you seen all the blogs here from people whose marriages are falling apart?
Or who feel they might have married the wrong person?
Beware of the attitude that being married will automatically make you happier.
---Jack on 12/1/06|
I agree with you. Many people are not honest when they present themselves. That behavior leads to disapointment, and hurt feelings. I often wonder what these persons thought would happen when they got to know one another better. The real you always comes out sooner or later.
And besides who can predict what another person wants, and why would they want to?
I bring me to the table, and I expect to find the same in others.
---lynet on 12/1/06|
Raven,learn to be content with Jesus. Focus your life in serving Him. Yes pray for what you want in a husband and even write down the attributes you want him to have but don't become obsessed about finding a husband. That crowds out God and makes you unhappy. Jesus said,I will keep in perfect peace he whose mind is stayed on me. My friend just married ,in April after being a widow for 12 years,to a wonderful Christian man of the same denomination. Let go and let God do it for you.
---Darlene_1 on 12/1/06|
You know what, I knew that. There's a harshness in your tone towards the single. So use your advice for the single life in your marriage.
---Cindy on 12/1/06|
"Men and women say they basically want the same things, why are there so many of us alone, and unable to connect?"-lynet
lynet, the reason is is because people say what they think others want to hear, often portraying themselves as someone they are not.
Most of you searching singles speak as if you are looking for another possession for yourselves, like a new car or home. I'm sure it comes through to others.
---ralph7477 on 12/1/06|
My relationship with the Lord is wonderful. I have an active prayer life, I work with my church, I have a profession, maintain my home, assist with a non profit organization, have hobbies, and spend time with family and friends.
I lead a full life and have a heart with room to share with a mate.
My focus is on the gift of life that God has given me, and using my time in a positive manner, not on finding a mate.
---lynet on 11/30/06|
I have seen many singles meet others by visiting churches of the same faiths in other cities. We all take vacations or 3 day weekends. Why not visit. Speak to your pastor for his advise. Sometimes we have to climb on that camel and travel to another oasis for water from the well. (Sounds Biblical to me). May God bless you as surely there is a mate yearning for what you want in a spouse.
---mikefl on 11/30/06|
The Bible teaches that we are to seek God first and then all things will be added unto us. How can you argue with that. I got mine? Sometimes, I wish I DIDN'T "got mine." So there!!!
---Crystal on 11/30/06|
I have found it's the married that have a harsh word for the single. I've got mine, now the rest of you get your eyes on the Lord, and all those other super-spiritual pat answers. Like the Queen-Bee syndrome. I've made it to the top, .... God put that desire in their heart or it would not be there.
---Cindy on 11/30/06|
I think that most of you have your heads in the clouds and are refusing to acknowledge the odds here. Man looking for woman. Woman looking for man. Both scenarios are the FOCUS of people's lives too often these days. They think that if the just find someone, life will be grand. NO! "Seek ye first the Kingdom of God...." If your focuse is the Lord, HE will give you the desires of your heart. Stop making a relationship our focal point, and develop a relationship with the Lord.
---Crystal on 11/30/06|
The Lord is faithful to fulfil His promises when we cry to Him He is sure to answer us. He knows all our needs as His Children. It is said that nothing is lacking to that fear Him---- with good wishes Francis Rebba
---francis on 11/30/06|
I am a decent Born-Again Christian man looking for same in a Christian woman. Where are you? I can't find my woman either. In prayer, I asked the Lord to do the choosing for me this time and to let us both know at the same time that we are meant for each other. So if you are meant for me by Him, then we shall meet in His Time, not ours. But regardless, I would like to hear from you via e-mail. Yours in the Lord, Luke3467.
---Luke3467 on 11/30/06|
The Lord answers prayer and gives the desires of our heart, in His right time.Don't worry if you have no man to live with, it may be God's plan for you and for me as well.
---MAMRIE on 11/30/06|
My sister, just dont worry much, the one and only solution is GOD himself, when you pray to the LORD have FAITH and TRUST that GOD will grant you what you need, through faith Abraham had his son Isaac at an advanced age! am also having the same problem with you, but i believe my GOD is able to get a decent Christian man for me.
---Christine on 11/30/06|
I'm with you Raven. I'm 54, I've been on this site a couple of years, I've corresponded with nice guys, and a few who were really deceitful. Many say one thing, and mean something different. I'm sure guys experience the same things with women.
And then there are the legally seperated ones. Last time I checked that meant legally married.
Men and women say they basically want the same things, why are there so many of us alone, and unable to connect?
Just my two cents:)
---lynet on 11/29/06|
God said man should not be alone & so created EVE,unfortunately since The fairer gender have taken to usurping the Male of the species, may be there are more Adams than Eves resulting in Adams & Steves which is a no no,no more Eves. I know not Funny.Just an opinion & worth a thought.Adam ate the apple & finally got wise.!!!
---Emcee on 11/29/06|
Well ladies...it is a two way street....I am 55 and live in one of the most beautiful places in u.s but to find a good christian lady is very hard for me. I just trust God to bring that person to me in his time...as I know what I want and what he wants is usually two completely different things.
---Gary on 11/29/06|
God answers all our Prayers in His own time. Just be patient and wait.
---Laura on 11/29/06|
Is there anything too hard for the Lord?
You got to have faith.
I have a relative who was married this past summer, and he's over 70 and a wonderful Christian man.
---oliva on 11/29/06|
I see hundreds of listing in the local newspapers of men looking for woman, vice versu. You need to respond to some of those ads as well as frequent places where eligble men are. My aunt was married 5 times and all but one of her husbands died before she did. She was not rich or a good looking woman and if she could do it, then you can also. Perhaps you need to work on your social traits.
---lee on 11/29/06|
Raven ... Have you tried to find one on this Site?
---AlanUK_quent5969 on 11/29/06|
Yes, Im One. I have asked this same question about you girls.The best thing to do is to give this to the lord. PRAY,PRAY, AND PRAY SOME MORE.
p.s.I LOVE JESUS : )
---robin on 11/29/06|
That is so true! I am 43 and it has been really difficult to find a Christlike man or at least an honest man. But I keep trusting that God has that special someone just for me. For now, I keep Isaiah 54: 5-7
---Marilyn on 11/29/06|
raven, I'd love for you to ask Father God that question. And I'd love to hear God's answer to that. Can you share with us what GOD tells you? I have my own response, but am withholding it until I hear what God has to say in regards to your question.
---Donna9759 on 11/29/06|
They are dating or marrying sweet young things. But not for long, because some of those young ones will 'runn oft.' So hold out sister, you can catch one on the fly. Why don't you pull the old switcheroo, date a younger man? Why not. What's good for the goose....
---R.A. on 11/29/06|
As a child of God, there are no odds. No gamble there. God is a God of the impossible.
Wait on the Lord, be of good courage, and He shall strengthen your heart; wait, I say, on the Lord.
For the vision is yet for an appointed time;
But at the end it will speak, and it will not lie.
Though it tarries, wait for it;
Because it will surely come,
It will not tarry.
---Rachel on 11/29/06|