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Divorce For Getting Beat Up

The Bible says that the only reason for a divorce is adultry. What should a woman do if she is beaten up severely by her husband and he does not want her back?

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 ---Carolyn on 12/12/06
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My heart goes out to you. No woman should stay with an abuser. Seek safety and stay away till your husband gets therapy. If he should file for divorce, you are then free. Get yourself therapy, as abused women need help in putting themselves back together afterward.
---Madison1101 on 1/4/08

search divorce hope and you will find answer and buy the way the lord wants no one to get beat up and abused
---gail on 2/23/07

It is commendable that the wife wants the marriage to be successful, but no spouse can force their partner to stay united with them, just as God does not force a person to return to him when they leave him for sin. Prisons are made for those who assault and beat their partners, not marriages.
---Eloy on 12/22/06

#1 Jesus said in Matt.19:9; Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication, and marry another, committeth adultery: And fornication has been committed in your marriage when he beat you!
---Shawn.M.T on 12/21/06

#2 1Cor.6:18 states; he that commit fornication sinneth against his own body. And when you got married you both became one flesh, so when he was beating you, he was beating himself; Which is fornication because he is defiling his body, that is the temple of the Holy Spirit
---Shawn.M.T on 12/21/06

#3 If he does not want you, 1Cor.7:15 says; But if the unbelieving depart, let him depart. A brother or a sister is not under bondage in such cases: but God hath called us to peace. So, for PEACE SAKE let him go!
---Shawn.M.T on 12/21/06

Caroline - It would be great/horrible up/down we were married 15yrs,4 kids. I tried wordly therapy to Church, prayed, fasted, loved that man fiercly EVEN defended him. 3 x's was hospitilized. I did the safe house, group- U name it. It was roses/honeymoon -out of blue violence. I woke up plain & simple & started to value "me" not just him. Be safe, be wise, U dont have to take it. Love should not HURT. Baby steps, honey. Love yourself Caroline truly I mean that, that is the 1st step.
---Jeanne on 12/13/06

2nd U dont have to make any decisions now but 1-safety. U need to be in a safe place & yes get the restraining order/order of protection no one wants to do that. But that shows him U are serious in case he does not U are safe if he shows up. He knows U Caroline how to make you feel sorry for him the words to say he has to be w/out U to work this out w/help. The old saying is true if they hit you just once, they will do it again U see they already crossed that line nothing happened.
---Jeanne on 12/13/06

3rd-Remember get the court papers as I said it will show him U are not taking this any more. All addicts tell U they hit rock bottom violence is no diff. In help other men will deal w/him it is a wake up call, before he has done the blame game but other men dont let him they hold him accountable. I dont care if you were the worst person in the world he has to learn to "think" not act out. Show him how serious U are that U refuse to be his punching bag any longer,remember Caroline BABY STEPS.
---Jeanne on 12/13/06

Carolyn, If you aren't ready to give up on your marriage, you should at least find a "safe" house to remove yourself from danger, then try to get yourself and your husband into counselling. If that doesn't work, then you need to seek help in terminating the marriage. He has shown how much he loves you already. If he's not willing to seek help, leave.
---tommy3007 on 12/13/06

Carolyn, I couldn't even pray when I was being beat, but God saw everything and after 8 months of putting up with my ex-husband's abuse, God removed him from me. Pray and cry out to the Lord to deliver you from evil, that's in the Our Father, "Deliver us from evil" and God will...just keep praying that and God will provide a way out. Either you will leave on your own or God will get him removed for you. If a person doesn't submit to God, God will use the law (police) to make a person submit.
---Donna9759 on 12/13/06

The Bible says that if an unbeliever wants to leave, let him. The wife should not go back to this unbeliever. She should go on with her life in the strength the Lord will give her if she calls upon Him.
---Susie on 12/13/06

Carolyn, I am sorry that you have had to endure that. The God I worship would not want you to stay with someone that would hurt you. Bless you in your journey.
---randy on 12/13/06

Leave for your safety and any children. I was in the same boat, broken bones, thrown down stairs, stabbed and choked, leave, leave and leave. U are vauled by God and U do not deserve to be killed by a violent man in sin. God made U in his image cherish that no one has the right to damage or put their hands on Gods daughter ever ever ever. Trust me the next time you may not be here to post a blog.
---Jeanne on 12/13/06

Carolyn if you are in an abusive situation you need to take definitive action to get you or your husband out of the environment; especially if children are involved. I would encourage you to use all of the legal avenues available to you both civil and criminal. Don't try to use the Bible as an excuse for not taking action to protect yourself or your children, that is not why people wrote it. If you need a divorce get one.
---Phil_the_Elder on 12/13/06

Honey, the Bible also says that a man should love his wife as Christ loves the church and as he loves his own body. Seek safety. God does not intend for you to stay and be abused. Seek help, so that you don't keep this pattern going, especially if there are children. Break the cycle here. You would not want your child to stay with someone that harms them. God doesn't either.
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---Dana on 12/13/06

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Hon, you are under no obligation to stay in a marriage where you are abused. You need however, to pray sincerely to God and ask His direction. God loves YOU and He will guide you, but you need to be set free from your home situation. God intended for men and women to be together for life, but abuse is not in his will for us. You are under no obligation to stay in your home situtation. Go girl, find peace, and be happy.
---Linda on 12/12/06

Getting beat up IS spiritual adultery. It is being unfaithful to God. God says love your wife. If he beats you, he don't love you, for true love cares for you and cherishes you the way Jesus does. Go on with Jesus. He is all you really need in life.
---Sharon on 12/12/06

She should leave.

Do you think a God that would die on a cross for you to be with him would now be upset because you have chosen not to get your lights punched out?

If you leave you still haven't divorced him and if you wait for God's timing he'll heal your life.
---Pharisee on 12/12/06

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